Do i have to sleep with a guy before i consider myself bi?

[socal21]

I've never done anything sexually with another male before,but i consider myself bi, because i'm attracted to them and acknowledge the feelings i have towards them. Now when i mention this to guys i talk to online,they don't seem to understand me,and my guess is that they probably think i'm screwing with them? Am I wrong to consider and say that i'm bi without ever actually being with a guy yet?

 

[Jory]

3 but after the 4th one you become gay

 

[socal21]

3 but after the 4th one you become gay

uhm..thanks,but i'm not asking how many guys it takes before anything.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

uhm..thanks,but i'm not asking how many guys it takes before anything.

Jory was just being humorous. As long as you are acknowledging to yourself that you are attracted to men and not repressing feelings, then I would not worry about what to label myself, if I were you.

 

[titi75]

I've never done anything sexually with another male before,but i consider myself bi, because i'm attracted to them and acknowledge the feelings i have towards them. Now when i mention this to guys i talk to online,they don't seem to understand me,and my guess is that they probably think i'm screwing with them? Am I wrong to consider and say that i'm bi without ever actually being with a guy yet?

i dont see ur point...why do u care so much ta label urself bi? Its not a question to be wrong or right , imo you just losing ur time payont attention to what people might think about it, if u feel bi well...you are!

 

[hradccok]

well, only if you consider being 'straight' as the default. Why do 'most' people consider themselves straight before they have had any experiences?

 

[Horschallen]

You are doing just fine being you. Don't worry about labeling yourself.

 

[socal21]

I know,I understand labeling yourself shouldn't be important,but you know sometimes i'm carrying on a convo with a guy and that question will come up..."so,are you gay or bi?" and well i say bi and then they'll ask how many guys? and i say none. haha so thats when i get asked why i consider myself bi?


...it's totally true on one of the comments above,before we ever sleep with anyone were considered "straight" when really thats not how it goes...

 

[Caaake]

of course it doesn't take doing something with someone to know what you prefer.

 

[animator79]

You can always just tell people that your Bi-curious which still implied that you're Bi, but haven't actually done anything yet and are curious to try it out. Most guys will usually leave you alone after than and maybe ask what you're curious about. etc... In the end, though, tell them what ever you feel is appropriate without feeling like you need to explain your choices. It is what it is. It's nobody's business but your own.

 

[Corny]

To answer your question: No.

 

[socal21]

Thanks for all the feedback,guys!

 

[conrad]

During my last two years of high school I and my teen partner "learned by doing" and we did just about everything two males can do together, yet we never stopped thinking of ourselves as regular guys. But, we had discovered a side of our sexuality which we had never even considered before; I had two other LTRs with men before I married, a state which I have been happy in for many years. Yet, I know that some men remain sexually attractive to me. In all relationships I have been absolutely faithful.

Perhaps we should recognize that some men are ambisexual rather than bisexual. Let others draw their own conclusions about your sexuality--you alone need to be the definer.

 

[biguy732]

You would be considered Bisexual or at the very least Bi-Curious. Try going to a gay bar some time and hand out and see if it appeals to you.

 

[dwc1]

Conrad is absolutely right, he knows what he's talking about. He sounds like a true bisexual man. I "learned" about my own sexuality by messing around with my best friend when I was younger. I realise now that I enjoy men for sex, but I find women more attractive. I am bi-sexual because of a pure sex based view and thought about being with men.

 

[AmunRa]

Conrad is absolutely right, he knows what he's talking about. He sounds like a true bisexual man. I "learned" about my own sexuality by messing around with my best friend when I was younger. I realise now that I enjoy men for sex, but I find women more attractive. I am bi-sexual because of a pure sex based view and thought about being with men.

This describes me too.

My plan is basically to do what Conrad did (except I might aim for marriage a bit sooner ).

But to the OP:
Bi-curious would be a good "label" for yourself until you've done something. That's what I said until I hooked up with my first guy.

 

[jude swings]

I've never done anything sexually with another male before,but i consider myself bi, because i'm attracted to them and acknowledge the feelings i have towards them. Now when i mention this to guys i talk to online,they don't seem to understand me,and my guess is that they probably think i'm screwing with them? Am I wrong to consider and say that i'm bi without ever actually being with a guy yet?

nope because you know yourself and your feelings. you're into being with a guy. you just haven't taken the plunge yet.

 

[Taytay27]

i think your should just say bi. youre attracted to men and women right? then youre bi. if someone asks just say straight up that you just havent done anything with a man before but you still like them. thats like saying a virgin has no sexuality.

 

[PhalloPhage]

Put it this way-is a straight virgin still straight?

 

[NightDayKrauser]

Dude you and I are going through the same thing cus I've never slept with a guy before but I get that question all the time. I've just put it together as if you like guys then you're probably bi, but who cares. I believe ANYONE can be beautiful...imo a relationship is more than what's in between someone's legs