The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    PLEASE READ: To register, turn off your VPN (iPhone users- disable iCloud); you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • The Support & Advice forum is a no-flame zone.
    The members offering support and advice do so with the best intention. If you ask for advice, we don't require you to take the advice, but we do ask that you listen and give it consideration.

do I love him??

E

etgenman

Joined
Nov 7, 2010
Posts
3
Reaction score
0
Points
0
So I've been dating this guy for several months now. It is the longest/only relationship that I've ever had. Recently, he admitted that he loved me, but I don't know if I love him. We get along really well. We haven't had an argument. The sex is pretty good. But when I first met him I wasn't drawn to him sexually. He isn't what I thought my type is/was.

Then again I've only met two guys that made me wobbly at the knees (I slept with neither).

I think part of the problem is I'm incredibly sexually ignorant. I'm 26 and had only slept with 4 guys (all one night stands) before him. He's 28 and has slept with nearly 10 times that if not more. I'm not very sexual. I could easily go a week+ without jacking off, but he is always horny. which is fine.

My question is how do I know I love him? He's had several boyfriends before me, so he knows how to do all this. But I have no idea. Does physical attraction account for something.

I keep thinking something better might be out there, in terms of looks, but I doubt in terms of anything else. I mean his personalty is great, and I really enjoy being around him.

Is that enough to sustain a relationship?

I'm not very emotional, so all this mushy "I love you" nonsense makes me incredibly nervous/anxious/worried...

sorry for the blah-blah-ing....
 
Well, there's always somebody better looking. Always.

So when is good enough, good enough?

Only you can answer that.

That sounds like a copout, but it's true.

I totally understand that you're nervous because it's your first relationship and you're so inexperienced, but only your gut really knows the right answer.

Your relatively low sex drive and emotional detachment makes it hard for me to give you much better advice than that, because great sex and and a strong emotional attachment are very important to me, personally, in a good relationship.

I'm sure others here will have more advice for you.
 
Mate, regardless of how many people you've been with YOU know when you love somebody. Since you are asking us whether you love this guy or not I'd say you don't love him. However, that doesn't mean you'll never love him, for some people love takes some time (like for me does) and for others seconds, hours, days, months, etc. Believe me you'll know when love is what you feel.
 
A relationship can only happen by equals. Do you see a hot new york lawyer type that makes a bajillion a year hitting up an average-looking middle class gay gaymer kid? Do you see a celebrity that has a crapload of money becoming romantically invested with a poor person? (well celebs are weird in their own right and I can see a britney spears/kevin federline thing but you know what I mean)

I guess what I'm trying to say is that only you know if you really love somebody, why are you asking us for? And a relationship can only happen by equals.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top