do i still like girls...?

[latinoguy19]

i'm really confused. for the past three years, i thought i was gay. but recently i have been getting turned on by girls, and not som uch guys. its even gotten to the point that i fantasize about girls. i don't know what is happening...one minute im sure of what i want, but now im not so sure. i am so confused. i mean, guys are usually the only thing i talk about. but now its been girls lately, and i cant stop looking looking at str8 porn, this time for the girl. what is going on? can someone help me?

 

[farsider]

For the past couple of years, I've identified as gay, but recently I've found myself experiencing a lot of the same feelings you're talking about here. I can't speak for everyone (and wouldn't try), so I can only speak for what I think and how I've worked through it and approached it.

Sexuality and attraction are both very fluid and complex things, and it seems almost arrogant in a way to believe that anyone can quickly wrap these kinds of things up in neat little packages with labels like "gay", "straight", etc. My feeling is that no one can control who they become attracted to or fall in love with, and even more I question if it really matters.

In the past few months, I've started to consider myself "bisexual" whenever asked. But realistically, I just see myself as being open. I find myself being physically attracted and making connections with people of both sexes. Some folks only now and will ever only feel an attraction to one sex or the other; others feel attraction to both, and so on.

I would advise you to be mindful of how your feeling and take time to explore that. In the end, there really isn't a right or wrong answer of who you choose to date or pursue relationships with. It's your business and your feelings. Take the time to figure out what it is that makes you happy, find a person who will help you achieve that, and hopefully once you take the pressure off yourself it'll be a bit easier to think through it all.

Not sure if that helps any or not, but that's the best way I can think to approach it.

 

[filipbong]

Don't be distressed. Just follow your instincts and your lust... Sexuality is mysterious indeed...Let it flow naturally...You sound like you are what 17...18 yrs old?

 

[screwnutty]

Your 19. Your young and your in the prime of your life! I'd say don't sweat the small stuff! Your still experimenting and finding out who you are in life. Just be yourself and everything will slide into place for ya!

Good luck man!

(ahhh.. to be 19 again. Damn those 12 years just flew by! )

 

[Caution]

pretty much, i still watch str8 porn the majority of the time..

 

[latinoguy19]

No offense to you, but why do guys always seem to think that complete strangers on the internet will have the answers to these questions..?

The only person who knows if you still like girls is you.

Until you figure that out, try not to stress about it and just let things happen.

its not the fact of the internet, just that the internet can help me find more people who are going through or have gone thru what i am.

and yeah im 18. (the age is wrong). i just cant stop thinking of girls lately, like wanting to have sex with them and feeling guilty about liking guys...i'm just kinda lost with myself.

 

[Erickivan]

Ride the same boat as me. Im bi and have feeling towards both gender, Sometimes is very confusing, but girls turn me on, and someday I hope to marry one, than have an afair with a guy ( just playing) but yea =)

 

[latinoguy19]

You know, it's okay to be bi, a lot of people are. You shouldn't feel bad about it because I am too. It's just a way of life sometimes. Don't feel bad about who you are because that's what makes you, you. Just do what you feel is right. That's the best decision you could make.

Thank you. You probably gave the most useful information that I can walk away with.

 

[TheTrish]

Thank you. You probably gave the most useful information that I can walk away with.

Hi, jo! There is nothing wrong with pussy! LOL Just like there is nothing wrong with cock. hehe You want em both, I do too. And we are OK.

T

 

[latinoguy19]

Hi, jo! There is nothing wrong with pussy! LOL Just like there is nothing wrong with cock. hehe You want em both, I do too. And we are OK.

T

Thanks dude!!! lol.

 

[joshson]

Hey Jo. I've been in a relationship with a guy for over 4 years now and sometimes I want to have sex with a girl still. There really is nothing wrong with that, besides being in a relationship, but that is natural too. It is the nature of someone that is bisexual, the world is at your feet, and that can be daunting. Just enjoy yourself, be safe and make you own rules. At the end of the day it is you that has to look at yourself in the mirror.

Pussy is good, dick is too.

oh, I personally think staright porn has better shots of the guys ass and dick anyway. I watch it all the time.

 

[natedogg323]

Hey bro..

I can't really offer any better info that hasn't already been said. However I wanted to say, ignore that jackass that criticized you for using the internet to help with your problem. I'm on here all the time and many, many people have offered sound advice and helped me through some tough times. You are doing the right thing here.
As for your question...
Relax and understand there is no "rules" on how you need to feel when it comes to YOUR sexuality. After all its your life not anyone else's. Don't feel ashamed EVER!!! I watch straight porn a lot. Hotter guys and bigger dicks...lol Plus I'm turned on by the female orgasm. Your young and should be exploring your sexuality. You'll find the right person and fall in love. It shouldn't matter what that person's sexuality is, just that your faithful and honor that person by being true to them. Take your time and have great, but safe, sex with whom you choose. Sorry for rambling on.

 

[latinoguy19]

Hey bro..

I can't really offer any better info that hasn't already been said. However I wanted to say, ignore that jackass that criticized you for using the internet to help with your problem. I'm on here all the time and many, many people have offered sound advice and helped me through some tough times. You are doing the right thing here.
As for your question...
Relax and understand there is no "rules" on how you need to feel when it comes to YOUR sexuality. After all its your life not anyone else's. Don't feel ashamed EVER!!! I watch straight porn a lot. Hotter guys and bigger dicks...lol Plus I'm turned on by the female orgasm. Your young and should be exploring your sexuality. You'll find the right person and fall in love. It shouldn't matter what that person's sexuality is, just that your faithful and honor that person by being true to them. Take your time and have great, but safe, sex with whom you choose. Sorry for rambling on.

Well this is cool. Almost 2 weeks and someone takes the time to make an honest reply...Thats AWESOME...thanks. I ve gotten alot of good advice and im still confused but now less so. i am only 18 (and ive only had one partner-male) so i do have learning....But MUCHAS GRACIAS!!!

 

[boyishard]

Hey

dont worry about it, when i was younger i thought i was bi and i had feelings for girls and guys, but somewhere the feelings for girls werent the same feelings i had for dudes and they never became that intense and i just sorta stopped having them for girls. I got erections with girls but i never felt the same thing when i came with them. you can sort it out, have fun, your're young.. sounds like you are a bit depressed about it.. i hope not

 

[latinoguy19]

Hey

dont worry about it, when i was younger i thought i was bi and i had feelings for girls and guys, but somewhere the feelings for girls werent the same feelings i had for dudes and they never became that intense and i just sorta stopped having them for girls. I got erections with girls but i never felt the same thing when i came with them. you can sort it out, have fun, your're young.. sounds like you are a bit depressed about it.. i hope not

not really depressed just worried, but im good now. i think

 

[Caution]

nvm................