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Do married guys prefer other married guys?

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A bud of mine said he will only sleep with other married guys.....they understand the situation and don't expect more. I disagreed saying that you can get more wide ranging experiences with guys who are with other guys mainly. What do you think?
 
Both true. Although I tend to agree with your friend more. Simply because since both are in the same situation there is no risk of exposure with both parties on the losing end. Plus it could possibly be a long term thing and call it a "hang out" night.
 
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I would always prefer other married guys. same situation, they get it, just looking to get off, no drama, no questions...
 
- It is true in both statements in married men are usually closeted (not all) and have a lot of empathy for one another. I was toward the end of my marriage when I topped bareback a fellow closeted married man and bred him. I began to be more sexually active as a bisexual when I became separated and it was with all married men. It maybe coincidence but it was very low risk in catching any diseases, and the poor closeted married native men who fucked me raw needed an outlet. We all had unprotected sex when I bottomed and the one time I topped with these men. My current friends with benefits is a married top and we have a discrete relationship. I am the only one he tops and I bareback with him.

bergentony said:
A bud of mine said he will only sleep with other married guys.....they understand the situation and don't expect more. I disagreed saying that you can get more wide ranging experiences with guys who are with other guys mainly. What do you think?
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nudenative said:
- It is true in both statements in married men are usually closeted (not all) and have a lot of empathy for one another. I was toward the end of my marriage when I topped bareback a fellow closeted married man and bred him. I began to be more sexually active as a bisexual when I became separated and it was with all married men. It maybe coincidence but it was very low risk in catching any diseases, and the poor closeted married native men who fucked me raw needed an outlet. We all had unprotected sex when I bottomed and the one time I topped with these men. My current friends with benefits is a married top and we have a discrete relationship. I am the only one he tops and I bareback with him.
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Id love to find a (top)guy like that to trust to breed me. Why does it have to be so hard to find men like that? Turns me on the thought of having a guy shoot his load in me! If there was chemistry Id love to have a discreet relationship like you.
 
I hate not adding anything original to the conversation, but yes. Both statements are true. Being married and bi -- with the obvious need to be discreet and remain healthy -- I connect only with other married bi guys on the assumption that he has as much to lose as I do. Mutually assured destruction, if you will.

Have I had opportunities for some mind-blowing fun with unmarried guys? Yep. Been very tempted to let myself go, too. But in the end, all I'm really after is occasional fun with another guy. I don't have to go crazy just to get lucky.
 
flscribe said:
I hate not adding anything original to the conversation, but yes. Both statements are true. Being married and bi -- with the obvious need to be discreet and remain healthy -- I connect only with other married bi guys on the assumption that he has as much to lose as I do. Mutually assured destruction, if you will.

Have I had opportunities for some mind-blowing fun with unmarried guys? Yep. Been very tempted to let myself go, too. But in the end, all I'm really after is occasional fun with another guy. I don't have to go crazy just to get lucky.
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If your hook up is closeted, you both have something to lose but also something to gain. No one wants to be outted because relationships and whole futures are on the line. Sex doesn't have to be crazy to be good and even thrilling.
 
I have been in a year-plus long affair with a married guy. He's married to a guy; I'm married to a girl. We are both madly in love with each other and know that if our marriages sour, we'll have a life together. Extenuating circumstances prevent us from being together as we would like, but I love him more than anyone else. I trust him and love him enough for us to play bareback. I love the way he fucks me. He caters to my every want and need sexually. It's amazing.
 
nunyabz said:
I have been in a year-plus long affair with a married guy. He's married to a guy; I'm married to a girl. We are both madly in love with each other and know that if our marriages sour, we'll have a life together. Extenuating circumstances prevent us from being together as we would like, but I love him more than anyone else. I trust him and love him enough for us to play bareback. I love the way he fucks me. He caters to my every want and need sexually. It's amazing.
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This is not why I would find another married man. Not to fall in love or any intention for love. It would be only for bi sexual pleasure and we would continue our normal life. You're playing with fire in my opinion. If my intention were to fall in love then I would quit any obligations I have to pursue love. But most of us are only here to take care of that other need and nothing else. Good luck!
 
So why do you all think you can only have great sex with another married guy? Does being single and gay rule these guys out as just wanting some great cock?
 
bergentony said:
So why do you all think you can only have great sex with another married guy? Does being single and gay rule these guys out as just wanting some great cock?
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I know several married guys who say they prefer being with other married guys...for many of the reasons already described in the discussion.

However, not all married guys feel that way. I've dated married guys who loved that I was not attached/involved with anyone but them. In fact, we were very monogamous in that they only had sex with their wives and me, and I only had sex with them. I suspect it always worked out nicely because I knew them before they were married...AND they were fucking me much more frequently than their wives.
 
bergentony said:
So why do you all think you can only have great sex with another married guy? Does being single and gay rule these guys out as just wanting some great cock?
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I think you have it confused, it's NOT (at least for me) that one or the other gives great sex. It is more about the understanding of being a closeted bi and married. I would never rule out great sex from any man, but being married and finding a like minded man, would weigh heavily on my decision to sleep with him. Basically what we mean when we say we will only sleep with other married men is simply because we are both married, have a lot to lose and we can keep the secret mutually. Get it? With a normal gay guy we run the risk of him falling in love then snitching you out or blackmailing you. I hope you see the light now.
 
Much of it has to do with safety and not messing up your life, or your wife or kids if you have them. On the surface, single guys appear to "sleep around" with more guys. I realize that it is a generalization to say that they are less safe, but looking at Craigs List ads, that is the picture you get.

Also married guys understand exactly what the other guy has at stake so neither want to be outed in any way. That said, it also seems harder to get one of these relationships going because so many married guys bug out when it gets real and time to meet. Had it happen 3 times in the last month.
 
NortonRider said:
Much of it has to do with safety and not messing up your life, or your wife or kids if you have them. On the surface, single guys appear to "sleep around" with more guys. I realize that it is a generalization to say that they are less safe, but looking at Craigs List ads, that is the picture you get.

Also married guys understand exactly what the other guy has at stake so neither want to be outed in any way. That said, it also seems harder to get one of these relationships going because so many married guys bug out when it gets real and time to meet. Had it happen 3 times in the last month.
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I wish it was easier. I had one guy flake out on me when I went in a trip to Vegas with the boys. A few days before the trip, the dude disapeared. I thought it could be a for sure thing since id be away in Vegas. Would of been my first hook up since I was last single. In my single days I did hook up and I loved bottoming. Im so ready to do it drama and string free. But just the fact that the process is so complicated I dont try. :(
 
cuteguyincali said:
This is not why I would find another married man. Not to fall in love or any intention for love. It would be only for bi sexual pleasure and we would continue our normal life. You're playing with fire in my opinion. If my intention were to fall in love then I would quit any obligations I have to pursue love. But most of us are only here to take care of that other need and nothing else. Good luck!
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Well, it was never my intention to fall in love. Ever. But, when he started doing things for me and treating better than I get at home, it was hard not to fall in love. Yes, it's a dangerous web I have woven for myself, but (and I don't want this to sound bad), if it all blew wide open, we'd still have each other and would still be happy.
 
From my experiences; the married guys that wanted to do "stuff" only wanted to do with someone that was not married and not looking for anything more.
 
NortonRider said:
Much of it has to do with safety and not messing up your life, or your wife or kids if you have them. On the surface, single guys appear to "sleep around" with more guys. I realize that it is a generalization to say that they are less safe, but looking at Craigs List ads, that is the picture you get.

Also married guys understand exactly what the other guy has at stake so neither want to be outed in any way. That said, it also seems harder to get one of these relationships going because so many married guys bug out when it gets real and time to meet. Had it happen 3 times in the last month.
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I have chatted online with a few married guys and we had great online chemistry and then boom.....always had a reason not to meet. I've also had gay guys who were not as intense online but on fire in person. I guess it more the person than the ring on their finger in some cases.
 
bergentony said:
I have chatted online with a few married guys and we had great online chemistry and then boom.....always had a reason not to meet. I've also had gay guys who were not as intense online but on fire in person. I guess it more the person than the ring on their finger in some cases.
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I think for married guys like me, it's more about the perception of safety and that the other guy is mostly monogamous. But more of them seem to flake out when it gets close to meeting.

One thing I have been trying also, but finding it hard, is to make a real friend and feel real comfortable around each other. Also if there was a friendship then each could be at the other guy's house and around wives so it wouldn't be all the odd that one hosted while the wife was out. "Oh, so and so is dropping by for a beer while you are shopping" - "Oh great, enjoy yourself" That would make everything so much easier. But, nobody wants to be a friend, just a quick suck and run. I am not that way at all.
 
I prefer married men or men with girlfriends. Same reasons as above most have same to lose as me plus there is a certain amount of passion I don't see in gay or single men. Probably 90% of the guys I have met have been married or attached.
 
Benkf90 said:
I prefer married men or men with girlfriends. Same reasons as above most have same to lose as me plus there is a certain amount of passion I don't see in gay or single men. Probably 90% of the guys I have met have been married or attached.
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Have you found that other married guys don't have the sexual experience of gay single men to show you the ropes?
 
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