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Do moms always know?

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I think they do, usually. The good ones, anyway

All my mother said when she first knew was, "well, I don't understand, but I except it".

Sort of the way I was feeling about it all then, myself...
 
Let me just put it to you this way. If your mother is still alive and you're in the closet, you'd better hope she loves you.
 
How is it mom's know and wives don't :D
 
I think mine knew. Too bad she died before I came out. :(
 
Nope.

Me: "I'm gay."
Her: "You're what?" (she doesn't know the German slang word for ho-mo-sek-shu-al...)
Me: "Gay."
Her: "What's that?"
Me: "I love men."
Her: "What? But you're a man yourself."
Me: "Yes, and I love men."
Her: "No-oh, men love women."
Me: "But I am gay and love men."
Her: "No! You can't love men, you're a man yourself, you love women!"
Me: "What? No, I prefer men."
Her: "No! You will marry a woman!"
Me: "Why should I marry a woman if I prefer men?! I'm not going to lie to a woman and make her unhappy once I can't fake it anymore and have to tell her I'm gay!"
Her: "NO! You will marry a woman! You will procreate us some grandchildren!"
Me: "WHAT?" (that's when I chased her out of my room and slammed the door shut)

It was similar when I told my dad. Everybody else that had contact with me most probably noticed that I'm a closet gay - teachers, "friends" and school"mates", but not my parents. They weren't even in denial, homosexuality for them just didn't (or still doesn't) exist, even if you read, hear and see about it in the medias (the above conversation with my mother was in '99). Furthermore, they also didn't want me to get the education I wanted, no, I had to fulfil all their unachieved dreams and wishes :grrr:
 
Why do you say that? :(

It's just another way of saying she probably either knows or suspects it. What I was getting at is that if she doesn't love you and she knows, you might not be in the closet for long.

I'm bi and I think my mother strongly suspects it and she probably always has. And I have no idea how she would have any idea because I'm pretty straight acting, have had girlfriends, have rented tons of straight porn on her video account, etc.
 
Gawd! I hope she doesn't know...my mother can be difficult about the smallest of things.

She has asked me time and time again why didn't more girls come over in high school etc. but I don't think she knows.
 
They do, but most would probably prefer that their child tell them directly...and I think most would still love their child no matter what. At least the decent ones.
 
I lived with my mom and dad for the first 18 years of my life and neither one had NO IDEA that I was gay until I told them.

Then again, my parents are really old fashioned mexicans and, to them, gays wear dresses and screw around with little boys, so it's easy to see why they wouldn't have suspected me.
 
When I told my mum she said she had thought about it and discussed it with my sister before.

I don't think they knew though.
 
That's an urban myth. If anyone knows you well enough and you hint that you might be, they probably have a feeling you are.
 
i turned up on my parents doorstep. 21 years ago and said I was Gay..Oh and this is my boyfriend (hes still with me now). They said about time you introduced us!. Gotta love my parents!
 
You'd have to ask the moms. Some could be in denial or afraid or angry and that would affect their reaction to their gay child's coming out. What is really going on for them is something only they could answer.
 
My Mom was pretty clueless. Even after Tomas and I had a child, she would ask me if either of us had a girlfriend yet. She had been in our home many times and knew we shared a bedroom. She saw us kiss and hold hands.
I think she understood about the sex part, but she could not grasp how two men could have a relationship like "real" couples.
 
I honestly believe most of the mothers who act shocked when they're told probably still suspected it but would just never really let themselves fully believe it until they're confronted with it.

I know my mother knows things about me that I have no idea how she knows them. And I'm talking things she couldn't even find out about by snooping. I just know that she does.
 
I think my mom knew ever since I was born/young because I wanted to play with the girls and their barbies and lipstick. !oops!
 
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