Do relationships with teachers ever work?

[CallmeJake]

I'll start with a little about myself. I am 18 years old and a senior in highschool. I figured out that I was gay about 5 years ago, but I tend to only be attracted to older men (about 45+ or so) which is quite confusing to me. Anyways I'll get on with my story/problem, whatever you might consider it..
I have found myself attracted to some of my older male teachers in the past, but this time it is a little different. My math teacher this year, whose name shall remain annonymous, is my current attraction. He is about 55 years old, very smart, attractive (to me at least), and he happens to be a very good teacher. As the year went on this attraction grew stronger and stronger, the past 4 months especially. I would never try to pursue such an impossible relationship (on top of that he's married), but then I found some videos online. Hope these links work.
EDIT: can't post links with under 25 posts, check my signature for the two links.

I had seen them before and thought nothing of it until one day I put 2 and 2 together and realized they could be him. He looks and sounds exactly like the man in those videos. I was in disbelief at first and wasn't entirely sure if it was him. A little research that I shouldn't give specifics about made me nearly 100% sure that those videos are of him. Now this leads me to my problem...
I would like to try to pursue him, it's even possible that he is a member of this site. I've heard the typical, don't get involved with teachers because they can lose their jobs, and I agree with that too. I would never want to risk the job of someone I love and respect that much, but he is retiring this year. I figure it could be possible for us to at least remain friends once school ends, maybe even more. I guess I am more or less just asking for people's opinions on the matter, but the fact that I found some videos of my "crush" (lol) online made this worth posting. Thank you for reading and I appreciate any responses.

P.S. - If you do manage to read this, you know who you are, please PM me...or better yet, mention it after class

 

[CallmeJake]

Edit: I'll just try to post the links here.

silverdaddiestube.com/view/50/wanking/

silverdaddies-videos.com/video/1875

 

[Eagle653]

I would guess that nothing's going to happen between you and him while you are a student at that school and he is employed as a teacher there. At least I hope not. And, I'm afraid you'd only make a fool out of yourself coming on to him in any way during this time.

After you graduate, and he retires, there's nothing to say that you can't keep in touch with him and remain friends. Whether something develops at that time or not, who knows? At least it would not present the ethical dilemmas doing something now would.

That does leave the complication of him being married, though. Whether or not he's willing to act on anything and jeopardize his marriage is iffy. Even if he did, whether you want to be part of a complicated closet-case situation or not is another question. I'd hate to see you get hurt or used as a boy-toy.

I don't mean this to sound simplistic or trite, but there are a lot of very quality gay men in their 50's out there, very similar to the guy in the video, who are unattached and would make quality-partners. If that type of guy is the your type, then they are there to be had, and without all the complications possible in your current situation.

Good luck! Let us know what happens.

 

[StlKj]

Totally pop psyching this, which is always a little risky, but I'd be curious to know about your relationship with the older males in your familyor surroundings--father, grandfather, etc., as well as whether or not you saw some chaos in your family growing up. If you're confused about your attraction to a "type" and that attraction has an air of chaos surrounding it (such as an inappropriate and dangerous attraction to someone who is married and could get fired), then you might want to ask yourself if there is something about your past that would predispose you to be drawn to such situations.

Maybe you just like older guys, and that's cool. But with some of the elements here, I would be a little wary of falling for people who represent an unobtainable mentor/power figure in a situation where there's a potential for a lot of chaos.

 

[zeus007]

Lol, don't do it.

When I was in highschool, I slept with my math teacher (who was married, in his 30's) and unfortunatly, my "best friend" at the time decided to report it. Long story short, one of us had to leave and guess who it was? (hint: I never graduated...)

I agree with that. It will mix things up not only during school years but also afterwards (he is married).

I am 29 yrs old and for the last two years an assistant to my supervising lecturer. I am one of the youngest "teachers" (my work is more demonstrating) in my university. I used to demonstrate before finishing my PhD so that practically means i ve been falling for students and vice versa for the last 4 years. It is hell. You cant do anything because the lines of the regulations are very strict for both the participants...

From the prospective of a teacher, (much younger than yours) dont make the move. It is not only the risk of him loosing his job but also the risk of you having problems (as dylanstratus correctly pointed) now or later if you want to continue in higher education

Gluck mate

 

[rareboy]

It is always a bad thing.

 

[Just_Believe18]

The man is in the the golden years of his life, getting ready to retire, and enjoy his family and grandchildren. There is absolutely no place for you in his life. If you enjoy and admire him as you claim, then drop this unrealistic fantasy.

 

[StlKj]

The man is in the the golden years of his life, getting ready to retire, and enjoy his family and grandchildren. There is absolutely no place for you in his life. If you enjoy and admire him as you claim, then drop this unrealistic fantasy.

Well, you don't have to drop it as a FANTASY--just don't expect it to be a healthy REALITY.

 

[fingers]

As far as romancing your teacher, I would rate your chance of success somewhere between winning the Powerball lottery and being selected as the next Miss America.