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Do we really need boyfriends?

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Is relationship that much important? If so... what about all the single people?... Do we all have own soul mates? Do we really need relationship? Or isn't it better to have your own space... do things you want to... go wherever you want to... don't ask for permission?... I know being single is not so easy... i know cuz i am.. and now i can handle it... the thing is I dont really have too much time for relationship... got new job at club so working all nights coming back home just str8 away to bed not even thinking about anything, wake up another morning/afternoon take a shower... shopping, bit cleaning... going to another part time job... so... not so much time for boyfriends... I have decided to work like crazy cuz I got depressed sometimes very often... Now I don't even have time for depression... And my spare time? I don't forget bout my friends...
But if I'm wrong...If we do really need relationship... why is it so hard to find the another person and why is it so easy not to think about another person?... Or... is relationship something we want... but we don't really need?... or something we need... but don't really want?...

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do we really need boyfriends? probably not. how full and rich your life is will depend entirely up to you. if you fill it with friends, family, love or whatever you will function just fine.

that being said i think what many of us are looking for is the intimacy that you can only get when you are attached to someone.
 
I can't speak to your actual question, but thought I'd point out that you may have a problem. Working to keep yourself busy is all well and good -God knows I've done it for years. But be aware that depression has a way of making you make time for it. I'd suggest you try to find out what's at the root of that depression and deal with it. You're going to sooner or later, on your terms or on its.
 
Yeah, I agree with Dan. I've surrounded myself with many good friends, but every now and then I miss the going to sleep holding someone and waking up with them. It does add that 'something extra' to my life. Just having Nick back in my life has made a difference to me that people are noticing. Clearly we can function without a bf, but having one around seems to boost one's batteries.
 
Only if I want my heart to keep beating.

People without this kind of relationship can have great lives, but love takes you to a deeper level that cannot be experienced in any other kind of relationship. It is separate, it is private and exclusive. It excludes all others, not because it is rejecting of others, but because it is magical, mystical, mysterious, magnetic and RARE. Not even all couples have it. Yet, there are those who are capable and willing of this kind of love, but it eludes them. This, too, is a mystery to me. For many, sex is not enough. They need to know that they are loved unconditionally and without reservation. They also know they are capable of giving it in return.

Not everyone needs this kind of love. Not everyone wants it. You can choose not to have this or not find it, but it is nearly irresistible when you feel it's pull on your heart.

I realize this sounds soppy and romantic, but what can I say?
 
All we need are french fries \o/
 
Falling in love will answer your question. You don't need a partner, but for many, life is so much more fulfilling when shared with someone.
 
You can live a totally happy and totally productive life without ever having a boyfriend. So, in the answer to your question, no, you don't need a boyfriend.

You can also live a totally happy and totally productive life without ever leaving your house. But I wouldn't recommend it.

Lex
 
No, we don't.
In fact, given the constant breakups I see and the pain that goes with them, I'd say most of us are probably better off without.

I'll take a half dozen buddies who'll spend the night sometimes (not all at once!), hang, do stuff.
 
Depends how you feel about coming back to an empty house with nothing but the time to while away all on your lonesome. Some people prefer to be 'alone' and other people like to live with company.
 
star-warrior said:
Depends how you feel about coming back to an empty house with nothing but the time to while away all on your lonesome. Some people prefer to be 'alone' and other people like to live with company.
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that's what cats are for. ;)
 
We all need someone special with whom to share who we really are. Without someone, we cannot avoid a loneliness and emptiness, call it depression, or whatever you will. Do know Abraham Maslow's famous pyramid of needs? The top one third of the pyramid is about love and fulmillment, which the good doctor calls "self actualization." There is no shortcut. Each level must be fulfilled before one can progress to the next. So, YES, we really need (boyfriend or girlfriend) lovers to be all we can be, and to enjoy the being.(*8*):kiss:(*8*)
 
I agree with Golliwog


I think we all need someone in our lives. For Sexual and Emotional needs Especially when everyone around you is in love. We can have all the good friends and amazing family in the world but we all have those special kinds of needs that good friends and family can't bring to us. i hope what i said made sense i don't think anyone could be happy being single for 20+ plus years I been single all my life and masturbating gets boring after a while
 
GL247 said:
do we really need boyfriends? probably not. how full and rich your life is will depend entirely up to you. if you fill it with friends, family, love or whatever you will function just fine.

that being said i think what many of us are looking for is the intimacy that you can only get when you are attached to someone.
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Best post in this thread! ..|

I'm not giving up though. I WILL find my boyfriend when the time is right.
 
I believe that you don't "need" someone to complete you and that includes boyfriends.

When you "need" someone and they leave, what will happen?


It is a nice feeling when you have someone to share you happiness and problems with.
 
I don't really know. sometimes I feel so misanthropic I really couldn't care less.

but most days I feel I just need SOMETHING more.
 
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