Do you believe in monogamy or open relationship?

[dpnice]

All I can say is that by preference I would want my relationship to be monogamous. Not having experienced an open relationship I really don't feel capable to comment; even though having said in your other thread that I would have been willing to attempt one.

I know several couples for whom an open relationship works; they are extremely honest and open about it to each other and have been together for years and years. Even though both couples are now in their 60s it hasn't slowed down their desires for 'greener pastures'.

 

[Kulindahr]

I met a threesome -- two guys and a gal -- equally committed to each other, and also with a degree of an open relationship. It works just fine for them.

So yes, it's possible to "be in a real, loving respectful emotional relationship and still play with others together" -- or even with others apart. The key is to be true to whatever the agreement is.

 

[ibill1]

Mine was monogamous. We never really discussed it. It was just that we knew for along time we didn't want to have sex with anyone else so there wasn't a need to. I assume if it needs to be discussed one or both want to experience another dick, which is fine if a mutual agreement can be reached. If two guys need to discuss this then they should and try to come to an understanding. Would I be open to an open relationship? I can't answer that because I have never been in that position. I certainly would look at it, weigh all the facts, and make a decision based on where the relationship is when the topic arises.

 

[eastofeden]

If you are honest with me...I can pretty much accept everything as long as I can understand it. If I can't understand it...I will still appreciate and respect the honesty

 

[EJMichaels]

I agree that it's all about honesty. I've been with my partner for 15 years and while we don't do it often, we have had sex with several friends, alone and together, usually together. We don't do it to "add spice" or anything like that -- it's just one of the things we share with friends. I wouldn't recommend it for everyone, but it can work.

 

[The Fly]

I couldn't be in an "open" relationship, but see nothing wrong with it as long as everyone knows what's going, on and everyone agrees.

 

[aaggii]

I believe in both, each couple for its own. For me, however, it´s monogamy. My ex wanted an open relationship, I said I´m not comfortable with such a thing but he went on sleeping with other guys anyway. Lucky me, this way I found my partner and we´re both happy with being monogamous. Old school, maybe, but it is what it is.

I´m proud to say I never EVER cheated on anyone

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Both are fine, just that there are a lot of people that can't handle either of the two.

 

[Kulindahr]

Both are fine, just that there are a lot of people that can't handle either of the two.

Which means there are people who can't handle commitment.

Definitely a first-world problem.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Not handling committment would be a whole-world problem - spousal affairs, whether a 5 minute quickie or a years-long mister/ress seem to be pretty common everywhere, although I imagine there might be one or two exceptions for particularly small social or nomadic groups.

 

[luckynumbah7]

As for the question, I've never done monogamy. I'm not suited for it, logically and emotionally it makes no sense for me. Honesty is key, and every type of decent relationship seems to hinge on it.

 

[star-warrior]

I believe in good old traditional fidelity.

 

[mikey3000]

I have a mister (as opposed to a mistress) and my wife is totally cool with it. Him and her are great friends and get along wonderfully. The joke is that they have joint custody of...ME!! Honestly, it is a lot of work emotionally, but anything worth having usually is.

 

[luckynumbah7]

I believe in good old traditional fidelity.

All the open relationships I'm aware of do fidelity. Open relationships aren't code for 'fucking whomever I want with no discussion whatsoever'. It isn't code for 'cheating', either. I see quite a few people using it that way, tho not in this thread. If only I could get ahold of the little cheating buggers using poly as an excuse for just five minutes, I'm sure I'd feel better about such discussions as these.

 

[Pianist]

I suspect I am wired for monogamy.

 

[palbert]

I am wired for monogamy (well, mostly) but either relationship is fine so long as the partners agree.

 

[ronboy]

I believe in monogamy, but it only works if your partner believes in it too.....

 

[Orlandude]

Have experienced both and I'll stay with monogamy.

 

[NYClover54]

monogamy hands down

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Both are fine, just that there are a lot of people that can't handle either of the two.

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