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Do you break down at funerals?

I've only been to two funerals, my grandma and my granddads.

Both time I cried before it started right until it ended.
 
I've never been to a funeral, and I don't cry very much at all (I would feel so inappropriate doing that in public, no matter how sad I am, I'll mourn in private). I'm hoping I won't have to go to one any time soon.
 
I try to avoid funerals. I have not cried recently at a funeral. However, when I was 18, my father died and I just broke down and could not stop...kept trying to not...but it just kept flowing....I asked my family for one thing...and that was a closed casket...and that was totally ignored. :(

Ever since my best friend died a little over 5 years ago....I cry way too easily. It forever changed me....I guess because the pain of the loss never goes away...so feeling pain of others just makes me tear up.
 
I held strong at my grandmothers funeral till my grandfather started crying. Watching a 88 year old wallow in tears is the most heart wrenching thing ive ever seen.
 
No. I can't cry in front of people. I don't know why, I never have been able to. I rarely cry at all anyway. Normally i find myself detached or feeling inappropriate emotions in situations like that.

I often look around at the people crying. Sometimes I've tried to make myself do it too, but it never works. And then I feel awkward because everyone else seems to be doing it and I can't.
 
Yes, if I the deceased was really close to me.
 
huntneo said:
I'm usually very calm and put together...until that one person gets up and insists on singing a hymn/song or whatever...

Then the water works start. :cry:

I don't know what it is about it...but the right song can send an otherwise composed person into hysterics. I'm one of them.
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Ever since my grandmother's death (mom's mom), I would burst into tears at another's family member's death...especially to a person that personally knew her. Last year was her cousin's death and a couple of months ago was her sister-in-law's death. Both times I just cried and couldn't help it. One was before communion and the second was at the end of the mass. The mass ended and some music was playing. I kept telling myself to stay strong. We were leaving and I knew I was in the clearing. Then my aunt put her hand on my shoulder. It was completely unexpected and set me off crying and not even being able to continue walking.

I think that there are just some things that are unresolved. I feel as if I was not able to prove how much I cared. In a way, I felt like I failed... and to see her suffer from cancer throughout all these years... it really saddened me to know she was gone. What especially got me was when she spent her last days in the hospital. My aunt told me to see her ( a different aunt, my mom's sister) because she said the doctors said she doesn't have much time left. The next day I plan on going to visit her. I arrive down town, but it takes me about 45 minutes to find parking. I rush into the hospital and take the SLOWEST elevator ride EVER. I finally reach the floor before the highest, which is the floor before hers. The elevator then proceeds to reach the last floor when I get the call from my uncle that she just died. On the ride up was when I kept thinking this exact event would not happen, but it unfortunately did.

I've went to counseling. I've talked to friends. I've talked to family. I looked online and hoped that after a year that my feelings of grief would subside. Unfortunately, they're still there.

I really do envy people that celebrate one's life rather than grieve at funerals like bluesguy151. I'm sure that our loved ones wouldn't want to see us sad. My problem is that when I'm sad/pissed off/blah, I don't want to hear it (good/bad/encouraging).
 
I don't cry at funerals but then I am an atheist. Notice it is the religious who believe in heaven, feel the death was "the Lord's will" and think the departed is "in a better place" who do most of the wailing.
 
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