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Do you celebrate your Coming Out Day?

Going back in the calendar, I told the first person on 3 March 2004.

I've never done anything before, but I've wondered if other people do... clearly the answer is yes.
 
It's a really nice idea. Like most people, I came out gradually. I didn't really even tell many people, I just started living a different sort of life and talking about boyfriends and then ... I was totally out. Pop. Maybe I'll just pick a day. Maybe a day in February since Canada doesn't have a holiday between New Years and Good Friday.
 
I only remembered when it was for me because I had a setting on a chat program that kept all conversations. Someone asked me what day it had been, and I said I didn't know, but then I remembered that I could tell from that chat log. So I dug it out, and found it... and details I'd forgotten were triggered by the log.

Only later, like after three months, when life was becoming utter hell because of coming out, did the date itself take on any importance -- more as an "I've survived being out this many days now... one more day dude; one more day". Then I got to know some people at a couple of bars, and got some support, and then people started remembering my name, and by six months out, though things were still bad, it wasn't so much grit-and-bear-it but working on getting my stride steady, trying to lift my head up...
And when my first Pride fell, to the day, on the "monthiversary" of my coming out, it became something I wanted to remember and mark.
I don't have anyone from "before" to celebrate with, but this year I'll have a lot more people from "after".
 
I came out over the course of three years, so there's no real one date. But I think I could call my Coming Out Day the day I came out to the last person - thus being 100% out of the closet. That would be January 9th, 2007. Yup, just over 40 days ago.

I sent myself a nice little message, to be delivered January 9th, 2008. I like the idea of a Coming Out Day.
 
Kulindahr said:
Okay, I just cried -- no one's even thought of making me a gift for my coming out day. Wow -- you're fortunate.
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Yeah, it really touched me because I hadn't even thought about it one year later, but she remembered...
 
As of right now I don't but I do like the idea. It was the day that my whole life changed forever. Like so many others I came out over time. But the day I decided to confront myself I looked into a mirror so I could see myself say the words as well as hear the words and the fact that it was I saying it. For me I think the actual day or the day that I came out to my wife of 34 +/- years. They were very dark days, Me being 50ish, family man, lying to myself all those years, seeing the wife not taking it well to say the least. it would be the day of my first over dose. that should be easy to research

I do like the idea of it. thanks for bringing that up
 
I would, but I've been coming out steadily over the past few months. I suppose when I come out to my mum, that'll be the day.
 
No, i don't even know which day that was. One day I just told my mom, then my dad and my brother was the last to know since the time difference, he lives in the USA and I live in Europe so I had to wait for him to wake up and deliver the news. LOL
 
It's interesting how people pick the day to count. I measure from the first day I stopped keeping the secret. My best buddy knew, but he knew before I did, so I don't count that; I wasn't telling him anything new. But when I told someone face-to-face who didn't already know, that was really coming out, and that's where I count from.
It's also the first day for a couple of other things which flowed from that revelation/admission, and I celebrate them, too.

There are still people I haven't told -- conservative Christians have a tendency to totally alter a relationship with that sort of news, so before I'd lost ALL of my friends from before, I stopped before telling a few -- mostly they're out of my life anyway, living half across the continent, but one is right here nearby. Maybe to some people that's not being Out, but. well, it's my life and my definition.
 
There really isn't any particular day for me either. The first person I told I was 19 (Don't ask me for the year, everything between 1995 and 2005 is kind of a blur to me) and I don't know if there will ever be a last person, one of my parents could eventually handle it but the other ain't healthy enough. It's not something I volunteer right away to every new acquaintance anyhow.
 
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