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Do You Choose Your Partner Based on Sex: Bottom/Top ..Bottom/Bottom ?

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Do you choose relationships based on sex ? If you are a bottom do you only choose tops ? If you are a top do you only choose bottoms ? I was watching a video about a man that said many dudes choose partners based on their needs in the bedroom. Ive never thought about it that way. I may be guilty.
 
Nope. I can manage both so I really don't worry. Plus - sex is not the first thing that I think about when I meet someone in 95% of situations.
 
Nope. I'll do everything the other person wants. ;)

Well, almost everything.
 
Yup, def have always been a deciding factor for relationships. I'm a bottom, not versatile at all, so my guy has to be a top. Not versatile either, but a pure top. It just won't work out any other way.
 
Of course I do.

I don't date women.
If I was to date another bottom, then there is going to be a disconnect in the bedroom.
We could be friends, but sex is not going to be there.
We would be both left wanting.
 
loki81 said:
it's become a bit of a deal-breaker for me.

I hate topping... tried it, hated it, and have no desire to revisit it even to try making a partner happy (at that point, I feel like my partner is putting so much pressure on me that it makes it even worse).

for me, it's not a huge factor. I'd be pretty content with no anal or only engaging in ass play via toys, fingers, or tongues. but I've tried dating enough bottom/verse guys and had it go wrong for that reason that I'm a bit done with trying it.
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I'm with you. I'll top but I don't like and I never cum when topping. I'll do it because I want to please the man...

In the end, though, I'm a bottom and I want that cock inside of me every night... If he doesn't want my ass at roughly the same rate, it's not going to work out in the long run.
 
Interesting question. On the surface it would appear easy unless one is shallow and just wants sex. But it does/could affect the long term relationship. Luckily for me things worked out sort of. IN my last relationship I started out versatile but really as time went on I didn't like to bottom at all. My bf was more adaptable, he was more of a top too.
Yet I wouldn't base who I fall in love with solely on this fact all the same, its the least of the problems moving a relationship forward.
Communication is the largest problem and with that conquered shit like this is nothing more then a typical mundane discussion of the weather.
 
Not quite... I picked him cuz he was cute, and once we started talking he seemed really nice. it was an added bonus when the topic of sex roles came up, that he was a top and I was a bottom. Granted that could have contributed to why we worked out so well, but its not to say if our sexuals roles "were'nt compatible" I wouldn't have given it a shot. I dated another bottom once (well, said he was a bottom but was a virgin) and when we had sex he topped me, so you never know lol.
 
It's never been an issue. I consider myself a versatile top, so I don't know if I'd enjoy being with a guy who wanted to do anal and top every time. But even then, the oroblem would be less about sex and more about "insisting on having your way". I've been with guys who didn't want o bottom, and we just did other things.

Lex
 
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