Do you consider yourself *naturally* monogamous?

[G-Lexington]

I haven't had any issues being monogamous. Have I EVER been tempted? Sure. But I also haven't had any issue denying that temptation.

Lex

 

[EqualsThree]

I'm a firm believer in the saying 'Treat others the way you want to be treated'.

If my partner ever wanted to be in a monogamous relationship then I'd respect their wishes and be well, monogamous. Where I'm at right now in life no, I don't think I'd ever be in an open relationship. I don't think I'm 'naturally' monogamous it's just if I'm ever going to be in a relationship I'd want one that was between two people.

It'd be really hard to give up porn though...

 

[Nomenclature]

You know, i'll be honest: I know full well that i'm going to be a guy who gets cheated on, and never cheats myself.

 

[ronboy]

When I commit to someone, I am monogamous.

And in the last relationship that I was in, I thought it was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with...I was so in love with him, that I having sex with anyone other than him wasn't even something I was thinking about.

Unfortunately, he did not think the same as I did...

 

[Ephemeral]

I've yet to be in a relationship, but the thought of deceiving my boyfriend, breaking his heart, and possibly catching something has never appealed to me.

I'd just ask if he wanted to do a threesome. If he says yes, then come on down Jeremy! If he says no, then I'd forget about the idea and try new, monogamous things with him.

 

[Audio Tech]

I've yet to be in a relationship, but the thought of deceiving my boyfriend, breaking his heart, and possibly catching something has never appealed to me.

I'd just ask if he wanted to do a threesome. If he says yes, then come on down Jeremy! If he says no, then I'd forget about the idea and try new, monogamous things with him.

I'll just quote you, since I feel EXACTLY the same way.

 

[hylas]

since i first started thinking about sexuality and relationships way back in my teens, i never had the impression that monogamy was particularly important to me, and a few years back i decided that i definitly dont want to be in any monogamous relationship - at least for the time being. maybe ill change my mind some day, never say never, but i dont think im wired that way.

but for those who think not being mongamous means being a cheater (as some have already implied): i would never cheat, go behind my mans back, treat him any different than i want to be treated, etc... i would even go as far as saying that i might be less prone to cheating than "monogamous" people. just saying.

 

[DigitalFudge]

You know, i'll be honest: I know full well that i'm going to be a guy who gets cheated on, and never cheats myself.

Unfortunately, sometimes I feel the same way.

 

[Beachguyj]

Oops, I voted before reading. I don't think I am naturally inclined to be, but I can be.

 

[SkinnyBoi87]

Yes. I've never had the inclination to cheat on my partner. None of them that I've ever been with. I mean, I've fantasized about other guys, sure, but it's never went any farther than that. Fantasy

 

[GL]

as i am eternally single i am naturally monogamous.

i've only myself to mess around with!

 

[Nomenclature]

Don't say such things.

Okay, fine: I'll cheat, too.


/sarcasm

Unfortunately, sometimes I feel the same way.

a/s/l?


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to a large section of younger gays the duration of a 'relationship' means months, a year is long

to a few a month is a long time

I've known younger gay guys who can't stay in a "relationship" for longer than two weeks before they make the other guy run the hell away from them, either by cheating or just being insanely jealous, manipulative and controlling.

so IMO until a person is in a 3+ yr relationship he doesnt really know how he feels about monogamy

The only thing that made me finally accept my identity as a gay man, was talking to a select few gay couples who've been together for 10+ years and are still going strong.


I'm willing to work so hard to be happy with someone, but statistically I know there's a 99% chance that i'll get my heart broken at least once.

 

[Treborf]

Monogamy doesn't really appeal to me. Too many guys out there to just stick with one forever.

 

[MercuryJones]

I don't know that I'm wired for monogamy so much as I am NOT wired for the alternatives.

 

[elra]

+1


i dont believe in 'love' (that's another discussion) but if i did i would say I love being in love

that makes me sad to hear somebody say

and I *am* that guy who gets cheated on but doesn't cheat. i just can't do it, the guilt would kill me.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

no such thing - monogamous - but not want make people brain hurt they go got think

so just smile at da public in street ans point um ta free socks they like travel world on luxury liner stuff in plastic bubble



ya bed ready sir

 

[NineOfClubs]

I think human males, like most primate and mammalian males, are mainly non-monogamous. Naturally.

 

[Reality101]

No I'm not. If I could have no strings attached sex with no consequences, then I would. I don't need that though and it would never ever work in my relationship, so I don't even think about it. But, no, I'm not naturally monogamous.

Good question.

 

[NineOfClubs]

unless god told them otherwise

It comes down to that.

Either god, society, parents, tradition, religion, cults, government, etc..

Because "naturally" we're not at all monogamous beings.

 

[panda29]

Yes!! and for 5 years ,it's easy when you are in love with that person & he is in love with you..

I've fantasized about other guys, sure, but it's never went any farther than that.