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Do You Ever Worry...

GL

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That you will end up alone in life?

I woke up this morning and went to work and while I was getting the coffee pot going, something my Dad told me when I came out this summer hit me and I couldn't get it out of my head.

My Dad told me that he was worried that I would end up alone in life. It's something he worries about in fact.

I thought about one of my elderly aunts who never married and ended up staying with my Great Grandparents until they both passed away. Then I thought about my own track record and I wondered if I might not be on the same path. Not that I'm looking to move back home mind you, but still. Some folks who do give it a shot still end up alone.

So, do you worry about it?
 
No.

I do hope to someday find someone to be with. I've become more and more cyncial, and it seems unlikely for me, honestly. But, who knows.
And, even if I do, who knows if I'll outlive him? I could be alone when I'm old anyway.
I just hope that if I live to be old where I need to be taken care of...that there are places for us old gay guys, so at least we can gossip and flirt with the young juicy interns.


:-)
 
It's a worry in my life that I try to ignore - but sometimes it comes out full force. I am a VERY independent person, always have been, so I never really thought about it until I found someone I actually considered being with for a long time. Due to the fact that we were both exchange students from different countries it hasn't worked out. From him on I think about it all the time.

I want to go teach English abroad for a few years before I really jump into the 9-5 lifestyle for the rest of my life. I doubt I'll find the love of my life while abroad, and will it be too late when I come back? I tell myself that is a bit silly, but I can't help believing it might be true.

Only time will tell. I'm banking on my best friend to stay a spinster so we can have a loveless (and sexless) marriage when we both give up on ever finding love. It's a joke now, but I don't rule out it being true someday!! Haha.
 
GL247 said:
That you will end up alone in life?

I woke up this morning and went to work and while I was getting the coffee pot going, something my Dad told me when I came out this summer hit me and I couldn't get it out of my head.

My Dad told me that he was worried that I would end up alone in life. It's something he worries about in fact.

I thought about one of my elderly aunts who never married and ended up staying with my Great Grandparents until they both passed away. Then I thought about my own track record and I wondered if I might not be on the same path. Not that I'm looking to move back home mind you, but still. Some folks who do give it a shot still end up alone.

So, do you worry about it?
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I think you just crawled inside my head! Yes, I worry about this a lot. I too, have some elderly relatives who have never met their true love. I have some that have died alone too. This scares the shit out of me, because I don't deal with being alone very good. I hope you and I both find our soulmate and live long with one we love and cherish!
 
It's odd that you make this thread today, as this morning I was wondering about it.

I was in my car driving and saw this older gentleman making a left turn in an intersection. Just from looking at him I had the impression he was gay, and he was alone in his car. This spawned all sorts of thoughts about my future and who will be in my family, for some reason.

Will I have a life-long partner? Will we adopt or have biological kids? Will my children have grandchildren? Will I be the grandpa who has the whole family over for christmas and birthdays, or will I be some lonely guy cooking himself thanksgiving dinner alone on a cold Monday night?

Even if I marry, I've decided that I want a family to call my own.
 
It is something that crosses my mind. The life that I want live, and its a life that I will chose, is not one that is going to make a relationship easy at all. But, as with everything, things and plans can and often do change. But I also know that I don't have to have a significant other/boyfriend/husband(whatever the proper word use is :) ) to be happy and to have a fulfilling life. If I can look back and think I lived life like I wanted to, then I will be happy and fulfilled.
 
Great thread, i was just thinking about this. I worry about that a lot. I'm not a very independant person even if i try to act like it at times. Thinking I will probably be alone forever is not a very pleasant thought for me but that might be how I will end up.
 
its funny this is one thing i dont worry about
even though im alone at the moment thinking about it would probably make it harder to find someone so i dont just have fun..| (*8*)
 
I've resigned myself to the fact that one side of the bed will always be cold. *sigh*

As for alone, I doubt anyone can truly be alone. One has family, friends, pets.
 
looseliam said:
I've resigned myself to the fact that one side of the bed will always be cold. *sigh*

As for alone, I doubt anyone can truly be alone. One has family, friends, pets.
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I used to think the same thing myself. Now? I'm not sure that's enough anymore. I've been wondering all day if this is as good as it gets.
 
Myself,yes...many times.I'm not the most assertive person in the first place,or confident...always feel I may never have that someone,may not deserve that someone,and end up alone.I'm happy for those who find it,but usually find myself expecting it won't happen,that my life won't really mean anything because I didn't have one to share it with.
 
Yes, I have been a little concerned with this since my best friend past away. He was such a huge part of my life: lived together, worked together, any free time was spent together and we would never really get tired of each other. I'm very shy and odd (in that I don't think that most people could relate to what is important to me). My best friend not only got me, he totally understood me, admired me and respected me for making choices in my life that stood up for what I believed in. So the possibility of ending up alone for the rest of my life is probably pretty high for me. Working from home, it is not like I have a lot of people to talk to in person either.

I'm not complaining but I do admit that it is a concern.

My neighbors have joked around....saying that when we are all old enough to retire that we should build a convelesant hospital by the Ocean and have dkonfrost be our nurse and cook for us. That would work for me if that really happened because my neighbors are some of the most amazing people that I have ever met. And dkonfost is totally a sweetheart and would be a great nurse and he is an awesome cook...and he said that he is willing to do it. He is even willing to plan the martini nights, mohito nights, wine tastings, etc. It would just be a constant party.
 
I wouldn't say that I "worry" about it, but the thought crosses my mind now and again.

It's interesting how so many people have admitted to having the same thoughts cross their mind on this topic.

A friend of mine were joking the other day, that if we find each other alone, that we'll do our best to get into the some convalescent home and chase the cute male nurses up and down the halls in our wheel chairs.

I don't want to be alone when I finally "buy the farm," but I'm not willing to "settle" with someone just to keep that from happening.

So go figure. #-o
 
GL247 said:
I used to think the same thing myself. Now? I'm not sure that's enough anymore. I've been wondering all day if this is as good as it gets.
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It may very well be as good as it gets. But I doubt it.

I find there's always something to be had in the moment. Life in its singular moments is fantastic. It's the sum of those moments that sometimes leaves one with a sour taste.
 
centexfarmer said:
A friend of mine were joking the other day, that if we find each other alone, that we'll do our best to get into the some convalescent home and chase the cute male nurses up and down the halls in our wheel chairs.
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Your welcome to join in our fantasy one if you don't mind the constant parties. :)

Note to dkonfrost...add another bed.
 
My partner and I discuss this in fact......

My man is older than me and it's entirely possible that he will precede me in death!

If NOT, I told him I wanted him to find someone else to be his companion, only if just to take care of him and NOT love.....like a payed person, if NO one else......

I know I will NEVER have anyone after him......

He's my one and only soul-mate, we were meant to be life partners and I do NOT mean that in a mushy way either!

NO one other than him have been able to satisfy my needs.

So, after him, I will be alone; but it does NOT worry me in the least, for I am sure my relatives will take me in to watch over me till I too die!

At least our family is strong enough to realize that everyone MUST have someone!(*8*) (*8*) :kiss: :kiss:
 
I'm alone in life now, and to be honest it isn't a bad thing. Oh, in the past I felt sorry for myself, but these days I never think about it. If you're an interesting person, you can certainly enjoy your own company. As for me, I wouldn't want it any other way.
 
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