Do you fit any of the "why you're gay" theroies?

[wastedtime]

My BF and I were watching "the making of me" from the BBC. A show where John Barrowman explores theroies of why he is gay. (We recorded this a long time ago and had just never watched it)

While neither of us has really been concerned about the why aspect of our sexuality, we did find one aspect of this show interesting. I fit many of the theroies, while my BF fit very few.

The Birth order theroy-I am the 4th son, BF is an only child.

The Dominant mother, weak or absent father theroy- My dad died when I was 9, my mother had to become a very dominate mother as an only parent. MY BF grew up with both parents, and has a great relationship with both.

The gay gene theroy-I have an uncle on each side of the family who were gay, and I have 2 gay and 1 lesbian cousins. BF has no relatives that he knows of who are gay.

I was just wondering how many theroies others fit, and if you think they had any bearing on your sexuality.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

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[Esquire0399]

I'm a lot like your BF in most ways, other than the fact that I have an older sister. I read some of these gay theories back when I was younger and much less secure and all they did was confuse me further because I didn't really fall into any of those categories. From what I've gathered, people are gay for reasons that we might never understand. There is no singular common bond that we all share because, just like the straights, we are all individuals. I'm fine with not knowing "why" I'm gay. I know that I am and that's really all that matters.

Sounds like an interesting documentary though. I might try to find it one of these days.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

There is no heterosexual standard for behavior in biology, so every theory that explains why I do not fit that standard is bound to have at least something wrong with it.

 

[jdbadboy]

On my father's side my grandmother's brother was gay and I have a gay cousin. Maybe he carries a recessive gay gene?

 

[frankfrank]

I fit many of the theroies, while my BF fit very few.

The Birth order theroy-I am the 4th son, BF is an only child.

Sisters were born 4 and 7 years before I was. A brother was born 9 years after I was. Of course the brother would have no effect, because I was already predestined well before I was 9. I'm not entirely familiar with the theory - do I fit?

The Dominant mother, weak or absent father theroy- My dad died when I was 9, my mother had to become a very dominate mother as an only parent. MY BF grew up with both parents, and has a great relationship with both.

Both parents were with me through my entire growing-up-to-young-adulthood period, from birth. My father was somewhat more dominant of the two. My relationship with them was lukewarm - not their fault, instead it was parts of me that didn't develop in the usual way, i.e. a dash of Asperger's (which didn't yet exist as a diagnosis), etc.

The gay gene theroy-I have an uncle on each side of the family who were gay, and I have 2 gay and 1 lesbian cousins. BF has no relatives that he knows of who are gay.

I've never been aware of ANY gay relative, even in my extended family. A cousin (two years younger than me at the time) experimented with me a little bit at puberty, but that doesn't count, that's rather common, and he's certainly not gay. One cousin who I haven't seen in decades, and seems to be estranged from the family in general, was rumored to be gay, but I can't get beyond that scant information.

I was just wondering how many theroies others fit, and if you think they had any bearing on your sexuality.

Where does that put me in the scheme of the theories?

My Christian take on it was that, among the reasons that "God made me gay," was to assure that I would NOT be responsible, ever, for raising a child. I would have made a terrible father, because my childhood autism caused me not to fully experience some aspects of childhood that boys normally do, and it's hard to impart those experiences if they're not part of your background.

I also got well into my 20's (almost 30) before I finally got a grasp on the concept of "consequences." Fortunately I am not aware of anything that caused any bad consequences after very early childhood...I VAGUELY remember imitating "cartoon violence" on somebody and they were hurt. I think I was about 4 or 5 years old at the time. (We all know that violence in cartoons usually has worse results in real life, but I didn't know that yet.)

Not being aware of consequences, and raising children, usually takes the potential harm to much higher levels than when having social interactions, going to work, etc.

 

[ChickenGuy]

I'm an only child.

Both my parents were around growing up.

I have no gay relatives.

Go figure.

 

[wastedtime]

FrankFrank "Sisters were born 4 and 7 years before I was. A brother was born 9 years after I was. Of course the brother would have no effect, because I was already predestined well before I was 9. I'm not entirely familiar with the theory - do I fit?"

basically the theroy seems to be that the more male children that a woman has the more likely they are to be gay. So no as a first son you do not fit this theroy.

 

[GiacomoPisani]

i love this blog, Notes on men and manhood

 

[bulge]

Not one fits. Moreover, I hardly fit in gay clichés, though I am utterly gay. It 's easier for guys who really fit into the societal cliché.

 

[Audio Tech]

Not one fits. Moreover, I hardly fit in gay clichés, though I am utterly gay. It 's easier for guys who really fit into the societal cliché.

Pretty much the same here. I often wondered how the hell I can possibly be gay. But I am. Period.

I watched that too when it came on. Interesting, but for me it was pointless.

 

[JonHCA]

I have two older sisters, and I am the only son, so that one is out for me.

My father and I never had much of a relationship, but my mother was absent from when I was 12, around puberty. So, I guess this one is halfway?

I have two cousins on my mother's side that are gay. This one is the most prominent of all three. It's also why I tend to favor the "gay gene" explanation, but I really have no clue.

It would be interesting to see scientists finally nail down a certain cause, but that would unfortunately cause many people to do whatever they could to avoid a gay child. So I'm not so sure if finding out what makes people gay would be very productive.

 

[GiacomoPisani]

no i don't fit the theories,in fact, even if i were heterosexual i would still enjoy sucking cock,and would stop having sexual pleasures with things that the opposite sex finds nasty or ugly.no thanks, i have my very own sex and i don't need another sex as a substitute for mine.

 

[Nomenclature]

even if i were heterosexual i would still enjoy sucking cock

That's like saying "Even if I were gay, i'd still love pussy."



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I've always been a lot closer to my mother than my father. Oddly, I would MUCH rather have male friends, though. Other than that, I only have one older brother. I have one gay uncle, and a couple of gay second or third cousins.

 

[roadtripboy]

I have the hand thing...where you're index finger is shorter than your middle finger.

My Dad was a bit distant.

 

[doctorsun]

I have a gay cousin on my mother's side and my half-sister (my father's daughter from his previous marriage) is a lesbian. That's all I know of as far as gay family goes.

I didn't have a great relationship with my father when I was a teenager, but as a child, we were pretty close and I had a lot of gay tendencies when I was very young. So, I don't think he had anything to do with it.

I'm the only son for both of my parents, even though both of them have daughters from previous marriages. So, birth order doesn't apply to me.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

Why can't I just be gay :'(

 

[BrownBoi89]

Well from all the theories I learned in my Human Sexuality class none of them seem to apply to me. Oh well! lol

 

[scream4ever]

-I'm the only boy in my family (I have 1 older sister)

-both my parents raised me for my entire childhood. Mom was kinda overbearing, and I have a much closer/stable relationship with my dad then her, so each kinda cancels the other one out

-as far as I know I have no gay relatives, though I also come from a small extended family on both sides

 

[G-Lexington]

Second of three children, only gay one.

Both parents attentive but not smothering.

Tons of uncles, aunts, cousins, but to my knowledge, I'm the only gay one in the family. I'm certainly the only "out" one.

As to figuring out why we need to know, I think it's pretty clear.

Lex