Do you get grossed-out by your partners skid marked shorts, when it’s your turn to do laundry?

[Shepherd 2]

Bill...... that's love!

Bill...... As you and I have discussed before I did the same thing for my companion Dan when he was ill and dying. I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat. In our relationship he put me first and I put him first.

When do you really need someone...... when you're doing your best and making everything easy, or when you're at your worst?

I quit my job for him so he wouldn't have to go into long term 24 hour care. I bathed him, fed him, changed his clothes for him, cooked, cleaned did everything for him. And I'd do it all over again for him. This afternoon I went to his grave, planted flowers, cleaned the lantern and statue I have out there for him and sat and talked to him. I'd give anything to have him back.

And someone gets "grossed out" by skid marks on underwear? Good God!

Bob,
Yours is an amazing contribution to this thread, and I am glad I came back to read it. Today I know what I have liked you here at JUB ever since you joined in May of 2010. You are truly a quality man. My man Don is the same kind of man.
Thanks,
Shep+

 

[AlmondMilk]

I'd just throw it in the washing machine. Shit happens. No big deal.

 

[ibill1]

Ouch. I'm being jumped on by everyone. Perhaps the remark that this thread was more about those who don't care for themselves even if they are capable doing so. I don't think this thread was about medical problems. And I've never been in love? That hurts, but I'm tough. I know what love is and I am indeed in love with a guy, but I also know what my independence is. I want my own time and space. It's the way my culture and identity is like.

People can say any hurtful things they want to me... but they don't understand my background or culture.

My remarks were not meant to be hurtful, for that I apologize. You see, us older guys who have had a love taken from us, and in Sheps case, one that is still here, have a difficult time understanding your mindset on this matter. To me, my independence, my own time and space included him. It wouldn't have been my own time and space if Steve was not by my side to enjoy it. Since his passing, my time and space is filled with emptyness now that he is gone. But you are right, this thread was really about cleaning skid marks from a supposedly healthy individual who possibly didn't take the time to clean properly. But still, if I loved him it really wouldn't matter either way. I would, however, probably tell him to be a little more dillegent in the matter and laugh it off.

 

[oakpope]

^ people like you should post more often, we need your wisdom.