Do you have an ex-lover that you still wish you can be with?

[fallinlove]

What hurts so much (besides not being with my ex) is knowing that someone else will have the pleasure having such a good husband and partner. I lost my chance...

 

[Kienny]

What hurts so much (besides not being with my ex) is knowing that someone else will have the pleasure having such a good husband and partner. I lost my chance...

At this point, it's sounding more like jealousy. Move on. You won't find someone else to love by wallowing in your sorrow and jealousy. He's not the only one who's capable of treating you how you want to be treated.

 

[rareboy]

At this point, it's sounding more like jealousy. Move on. You won't find someone else to love by wallowing in your sorrow and jealousy. He's not the only one who's capable of treating you how you want to be treated.

What Kienny said.

Stop moaning an moping and using him as an excuse. And next time. Be clearer with one another about your long term goals.

 

[ronboy]

Nope.....

Those of you who have been on JUB a long time know about my ex-boyfriend, Dave.

When I joined JUB, in 2003, I was living in blissful sin with him (this was long before gay marriage). Dave is six years my junior. We met when I was 32 and he was 26!

i was his lover and I took care of him. I cooked, cleaned, and scrubbed the skid marks from his briefs.

We were together for 12 years, and he decided to cheat on me with a younger co-worker.

We broke up and they moved in together...it lasted six months.

We live in the same suburb of Rochester, NY, so it's inevitable that we run into each other.

In 2009, we tried being friends with benefits, but it didn't work (he was trying to get me to take him back)

I had moved on. I do see him sometimes at Wegmans, or in one of the local stores, but it's just "hello" in passing now.

And I am good with that!

 

[fallinlove]

You're both right, I am sad and moaning, even after almost 3 years after the breakup. I made this post really to seek help/advice from those who've been in the same position and managed to overcome the pain. It would be much easier if my ex was a scumbag, not such a sweet great guy...

 

[Kienny]

You're both right, I am sad and moaning, even after almost 3 years after the breakup. I made this post really to seek help/advice from those who've been in the same position and managed to overcome the pain. It would be much easier if my ex was a scumbag, not such a sweet great guy...

If he is that great of a guy, take solace in the fact that he is happy and is likely rooting for you and your happiness is as well.

If I may ask, what were you doing in the 1.5 years of no contact with him?

 

[NotHardUp1]

Think of it this way.

If you really love him as you say, you will want him to be happy, and he is.

Accept it. Many a parent has had to face this when a child married a mate that the parent would not have chosen, but it made the child happy.

Now, go out there and make your own. It's out there, but you have to make it.

 

[LeicsDom]

At the end of the day I still love him and we are on pretty good terms. So even though things changed, at least we can still have a deep friendship.

Same with my ex. We could never have been happy together (or at least he couldn't) but I do have a good friend

 

[72-Jay]

Nope, since I've never been in a relationship...that by default means I have no ex's

Its actually better off that I'm unfriendable/unloveable & will always be single, I'm someone who'd probably die of a broken heart.

 

[Superboy69]

If I could be with one of my exboyfriends would I take the opportunity. Yes, I wish I could see, touch, and hold him. However, he has passed away and that option clearly does not exist anymore. Also, frankly, even though he was the one who ended the relationship, I missed him and longed to have the intimacy that we shared. With a couple of other boyfriends I remember having good sex with them. Would I want to explore that again? Sure! Again, however, I know that's not going to happen.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

I'm at a weird place with my ex. We clearly love each other, but I think it's better that we both move on, but neither of us are ever gonna get the distraction we need as long as COVID-19 is fucking everything up.

 

[Maklaar13]

When I first met my partner/spouse we dated for a few weeks and then I decided to break it off. I just did not want to be in a relationship after the last one ended in a bad way. I really liked him so I made him dinner and before dessert we had a long talk and i told him. We were not exclusive, so I was dating other guys too. He told me that he really like me but if that was what I wanted he would try to understand. While having dessert something struck me like a a thunderbolt. What the fuck was wrong with me? This might be the one for me! Well I told him that if he wanted to give a relationship a go, I was willing to give it a try too. We laughed put the dessert aside and had great sex. That was 37 years ago. We are together, happy and love each other deeply.

"Ever since the world began, there is nothing sadder than, a one man woman crying for the man that got away"

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

All of them. In one case it would mean being dead.

 

[USEDCAR]

Nope, I was with a guy and in the beginning it was amazing and things happen. He had too much drama and issues and he went behind my back and started messing/dating a older lady so long story short we stopped talking. I would never take him back.


Same with friends once we stopped talking I don't go back to them. I had a ex friend break his neck at walmart to have a awkward convo with me and I was like ok. He messaged me and said he stopped being my friend because we messed around. I was the reason he whipped out his throbbing hard dick so i blocked him.