Do you have the same surname as your both your parents?

[MTLDude]

My parents are married, 56 years now, but my mom, always the trailblazer chose to keep her "maiden" name...

And, in my province (Québec), by law, women now HAVE to keep their "maiden" name, a question of equality before the law!

 

[Telstra]

lol at the question. Nothing to worry about.

 

[unloadonme]

My parents were married until my father's death and, yes, I have the same surname.

 

[freefall]

Well, star-warrior has explained it well. I only took my father's surname.

The funny thing? My mother's family was far wealthier than my father's and my mother's surname is actually very rare it's very 'precious'. Since my mother's family does not technically have any male offspring to continue their clan, my grandfather from my mother's family went so far to offer my father a huge sum of fortune in exchange of either my elder brother or I take my mother's surname.

My father refused.

 

[Beachguyj]

Yes..............

 

[darden]

yup... my parents have been married since their mid 20's.

although, I've always harbored a secret suspicion that my dad may not be my biological father (or that I was adopted) because I look nothing like either of my parents. both of my parents are extremely tall (+6') with dark hair and blue eyes. I, on the other hand, am of average height (5'10) with light brown/blond hair and green eyes.

 

[bankside]

In traditional Chinese patriarchial society, the children (male and female) take on the surname of the father, whilst his spouse keeps her maiden surname intact even though they are married.

What about in evolving, modern, Chinese egalitarian society?

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I think it's fine if a woman choose to keep her maiden surname.
But the kids should ALWAYS take after their father's last name.
I have the same last name as my father. I don't take after my mother's last name. My parents are still married.

If a man allows his kids to take after his wife's last name, that would be like saying he is a weakling and the wife is the head of the family.

I believe in some Latin cultures it is customary to take the mother's name.

Any guy can drop seed and run... Only the women know who the fathers REALLY are.

Following the mother's line is actually more accurate in following lineage.

 

[journo25]

Thjis is a generational issue. My parents, both deceased, would have celebrated their 50th anniversary this month. My mother took my father's surname when they married, and that is my surname.
My sister considered hyphenating her name when she married but in the end did not.
Few of my female friends -- ages 30s to 50s -- took their husbands' names upon marriage.

 

[journo25]

I think it's fine if a woman choose to keep her maiden surname.


But the kids should ALWAYS take after their father's last name.


I have the same last name as my father. I don't take after my mother's last name. My parents are still married.



If a man allows his kids to take after his wife's last name, that would be like saying he is a weakling and the wife is the head of the family.

BTW a straight female friend informed me recently that the designation "maiden name" is offensive (the derogatory "old maid" reference). "Birth name" is the p.c. phrase.

 

[freefall]

What about in evolving, modern, Chinese egalitarian society?

Pretty much still the same. It's like a culture. Many Asian countries and races have similar sets of cultures regarding familial lines.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Thjis is a generational issue. My parents, both deceased, would have celebrated their 50th anniversary this month. My mother took my father's surname when they married, and that is my surname.
My sister considered hyphenating her name when she married but in the end did not.
Few of my female friends -- ages 30s to 50s -- took their husbands' names upon marriage.

Maybe they don't expect it to last, and will save themselves a lot of trouble when it comes to changing their names back.

 

[darden]

my sister made a decent attempt at keeping her maiden name, but it just became too much of a hassle having a different last name from her husband and daughters... 3 years after the wedding, she ended up changing her last name to her husband's.

still cracks me up that her last name is Rodriguez and despite her being of French ancestry, between her, her husband, and her two daughter's, she's the only one who looks remotely hispanic because of her dark hair.

(the husband is Spanish/Polish, but he looks like a straight up Pole and their daughter's take after him with blonde hair/blue eyes)

 

[Taz]

still cracks me up that her last name is Rodriguez and despite her being of French ancestry

The French and Spanish are neighbours, I wouldn't have though it that strange for a French person to end up with someone Spanish.

 

[unloadonme]

BTW a straight female friend informed me recently that the designation "maiden name" is offensive (the derogatory "old maid" reference). "Birth name" is the p.c. phrase.

All the more reason to carry on using maiden name!

 

[rotary]

Different surname than both my parents, but the same as my grandparents...and the name came out of a phone book after my grandfather got tired of telling people how to spell his old one. Truly one of a kind, this family is.

 

[sixthson]

BTW a straight female friend informed me recently that the designation "maiden name" is offensive (the derogatory "old maid" reference). "Birth name" is the p.c. phrase.

One more thing to add to the list of reasons to hate political correctness.

 

[glasvegas]

You beat me to explaining this.

I have always found it strange that, after all the woman power etc. movement, women still want to change their surname to that of the husband's upon marriage. I know this is tradition, but in my eyes it looks like the branding of cows (pardon the expression) in cowboy movies - "This heifer now belongs to me, see the brand here?"....

But no one actually practicing it. My mum was still refer as her own surname instead of taking my father's surname.

I have the same surname as my dad.

 

[sixthson]

My family name might be the only thing my parents gave me of which I am proud to own.

 

[Swellegant]

My parents divorced when I was three years old, and Mother remarried twice, so no...

The whole surname thing is such a waste of time, people trying to be clever-clever about how it's done. The bureaucracy doesn't deal with name changes very well, any attempts to step out of the old system becomes a hassle. A woman can change her last name just by showing a marriage certificate, but doesn't have to; a man can't even if he wants. You can put any old surname you like on your child's birth certificate, but any difference from the mother's last name will cause confusion later on. And none of it means a damned thing. Last names are just something to put on your documents.