Do you miss your college days?

[steve621]

great years, yes, I miss it but not the academics - so glad I had the opportunity

 

[hotatlboi]

I miss some things, but not others.

Good things about college:
-lots of friends
-being independent for the first time
-fun social stuff and parties
-variety
-not having to worry about all the grown up stuff yet

Bad things about college:
-hard ass classes (at least at my school)
-being dirt poor
-all nighters studying

 

[onetimething]

I'm five years out of college at this point, and I will say that I miss it like you wouldn't believe.

It's largely for social reasons. I grew up somewhat of a loner and a social misfit, with few friends and never feeling like I fit in. I was smart, and where I lived to show intelligence and ambition was not considered cool, and I was very liberal in a conservative area. I went away to an out-of-state large public school five hours away where I knew no one, and starting over with a clean social slate was the best thing I ever did. For once, I actually kind of fit in. I made a good number of new friends in the dorms and throughout my four years of college. In fact, I would venture to say that I have met maybe one or two people since college that I'd consider true friends, whereas the rest of them were all made during college.

I miss just having everyone right there. Even though I'm still friends with most of my college friends and even live in the same metro area, I've gone from seeing people every day in college, to seeing them once every four months or so now. Everyone is busy with work, people are getting married, people are tired, etc.

I miss dorm life in a lot of respects, the socialness of it, of people leaving their doors open and just going to chill. I miss being surrounded by people that I felt were equally ambitious. I miss being in somewhat of an intellectual and ideological bubble, surrounded by driven people, all around my age in similar places in their lives, on similar schedules and in a confined area. I miss being intellectually stimulated. Working an office job right now (not utilizing my degree), I feel my brain is turning to mush. I miss the vibe of being in a college town, with the $1 pizza and sleazy dive bars and the Thursday night street crawls. I miss the student discounts. I miss the breaks, and the ability to schedule a day off or two each week for a semester if you're lucky. I miss not having to worry really about the economy or being laid off.

What don't I miss? Well, exams, even though it was an oddly bonding time I felt for the campus as everyone hunkered down to cram. I don't miss having papers to write, and this sense that there was always some studying or homework that had to be done. And I don't miss being dead broke. Again, it could be an oddly bonding experience at times, but as a whole, I just remember if someone would borrow 25 cents from me, I'd ask for it back the next time I saw them. I was that broke. No fun. I definitely don't miss the dining hall food either.

I've been a bit of a gypsy for the past four years or so after college, and only really buckled down with my first professional 9-5 gig a year ago, and it's just been a rude awakening. The mundanity of my life is ridiculous, and it's causing me to miss the more uncertain, experimental and challenging environment of college.

I plan to go back at some point for a Masters/PhD but I know it won't be the same as my undergrad years. I still go back to my old campus a couple times a year and it's always a bit awkward, with the feelings of nostalgia but yet an increasing sense of not belonging as I see the Freshmen and realize I'm in a very different place in my life. So I guess as cliche as it is, I'll always have the memories.

 

[hotatlboi]

^ great post. I agree with a lot of that, except I do like my job and do find it stimulating. I think maybe that's what your missing.

 

[Ram]

It was horrible for me.

how so?

LOL. Sorry for the super late reply.

One word: love. And erm three more other words: straight college hunks.

Bad memories.

 

[onetimething]

^ great post. I agree with a lot of that, except I do like my job and do find it stimulating. I think maybe that's what your missing.

That definitely doesn't help matters. It would potentially solve the intellectual stimulation I'm missing at the moment.

I think I'm in a bit of a rut. I think one of the cool things about college is the relative brevity of situations. For example, everyone has one semester that is more brutal than others, but that's just one semester. You only have to get through those 3-4 months and then the slate is wiped clean and you start anew the following semester which granted, may be brutal as well, but at bare minimum, you at least get some sort of time off beforehand (summer, winter break, etc.). In the working world, it's just knowing that every day is the same, and will be the same, and that even though it sucks, it's going to continue to be this way until....who knows when? There's no escaping it without uprooting oneself and switching jobs which is a whole brutal endeavor in it's own rite.

I'm on vacation at the moment for one week, which has been really my first vacation since I started my job 13 months ago and I just think back to how neverending this whole thing has been, same bullshit every day, 9-5, Monday-Friday, looking forward to the once-every-three-month three day weekend. And comparing it with college, it just sucks. For the record, I am looking to change jobs/careers this year in several months, but I just think the whole 9-5 world is a big culture shock coming from college, regardless of the job.

Like I said though, the thing I miss most is the social aspect of college. The fact that it's been years now and I've met maybe two people since college that I'd consider friends, whereas I met about 15-20 good college friends that I'm still in touch with to various degrees. In college, we were just placed into a hyper-social environment. Now, I go to work and everyone is of different ages, in different stages of their lives, one lives one hour the other way, one lives two hours the other way, etc. It's not like college where everyone is there, and where for the most part, we're all just studying and going to school, with the occasional part-time or full-time jobbers. Marriages, children, commutes, etc. hadn't really entered into the mix yet to monopolize our time. And of course, many people with their already heady time constraints, feel like they already have their friends (mostly from college) and aren't looking to make new ones. When I was in school, if I wanted to do something at any given night, I could just walk down the hall to find someone. Nowadays, I'm always so tired, and when I'm not, it takes several days seemingly of scheduling. My college roommate with whom I lived with for four years, he lives 30 minutes away from me and in the 1.5 years we've lived in the same city, I've seen him three times, just because our schedules don't coincide. It sucks.

I realize college isn't the same way for everyone and that many people have enriching and social post-college lives, but for me at this very moment, yeah, I'd prefer college.

 

[helzeena]

I don't like it much! Long commutes, really busy schedule, heavy workload, so much expected of you... blehh. No time for any events really. Can't really be social because of the commute.

And half of my course I don't even like...just have to do it

 

[helzeena]

I don't think I'll miss these days too much at all because I'll be too busy making sure my future days are even better. It seems like about half the responses in this thread indicate it's really all down hill after college, which is a shame because college life really isn't all it's cracked up to be. I'm sure it just gleams a little brighter in retrospect because we always get nostalgic about the "old days". But honestly, nothing was ever as good as we remember it to have been. Hell, I think I miss high school. Key word being "think".

If my college years are to be the best years of my life then I may as well off myself right now. I mean sure I'll have less freedom in the future as the responsibility of a career slowly crushes my mind, body, and spirit throughout all those 12-hour shifts, but that seems to be what being an adult is all about. Sigh...

I totally agree man!

I 'think' I miss high school, but do I really really want to go back? Probably not.

 

[heartfly77]

I thought life was so hard when I was in college. Looking back, I wished I had enjoyed it more. It definitely was a turning point in my life and I am so thankful to have the experience. I don't miss the schoolwork or classes. But I miss all the social aspects and all the hots guy : )

 

[Yuki Sohma]

I remember the good times and the bad times............there was this blue eyed sweetie who I could not bring myself to ask out on a date............he was in my philosphy class and I wanted to kiss and date him so bad............whenever I saw him around campus I could just melt into his arms............just wasn't to be............

............and then this other lad I asked if I could suck his cock and he said no and told everyone that I had asked him if I could suck his cock............he wuz' a cutie but so homophobic he wuz'........he doesn't know what he missed............I bet he had a beautiful cock............

............nah, I don't miss those days............they were phun & care free but today is phun also............

 

[Yuki Sohma]

We worked in the same restaurant & we saw each other nearly daily..............so we get off of work and we went to a friend's apartment to hang out and listen to music before classes started..............sometimes we would just hang out until morning becuz' sometimes it wuz' easier to stay awake than it wuz' to go to sleep & try & wake up for a boring, boring early morning seminar..............

..............so the stage is set..............when we get to the apartment no one iz' there so we just grab a couple ales, choose some tunes, settle in, and just chat like we normally do..............we were all friends so hangin' out in someone's apartment when they were out iz' never a concern for us..............

..............well, I iz' very attracted to my friend and as the early morning drags on and no one else comes by my sexual urges -r- enticing me & the thought of being naked next to my friend are overwhelming..............well, I need some cock and I want his..............

..............I just wanted to suck his cock..............it wuz' that simple..............& nothing could be sweeter than to be f'd by him before we went off to class..............in my mind the situation wuz' the perfect situation..............we were alone together..............the lights were low (we always kept the lights dim)..............so I offered to suck his cock..............he wuz' not interested..............

..............Wow! wuz' I disappointed..............I thought for sure he would just lean back, relax and let me stroke his cock..............but alas it didn't happen as I had envisioned..............seems he wuz' a bit upset..............well although disappointed I thought oh well, maybe there will be another time..............

..............geez, wuz' I wrong..............before I could say "what's for breakfast" he had told our mutual friends that I had asked if I could suck his cock..............seriously, our friends just had to mention that he had told them and others that I had asked to suck his cock..............

..............why he just didn't let it go I don't know but I never expected him to say "no" so it never occurred to me not to ask him..............I don't know why but I just let it goooooooo..............too much drama so why draw more attention to an uneasy & unfair situation..............life went onnnnnnnnn & so did sexxxxxx..............

..............a long boring story but all true..............

 

[Yuki Sohma]

^
Good question, sometymes I ask myself the same thing ................I don't know why...............I once had someone from France ask me if I wrote that way for some gramatical reason & all I could answer wuz' "no, it is just a personal preference for writing"................so I guess my only answer is "just becuz' "................as my mind likes to wander I think that the periods help me organize my flow of thoughts into written form................one of my favorite all tyme songs is "Happy Wanderer" the lyrics seem to sum up my whole life................ I lyke twins & triplets even more

 

[rareboy]

I just had the rerun dream of not having my thesis presentation complete.

I'd love to spend a year or so back in University as a student, but I'm thinking that ship has sailed.......

And more than 15 years on...still have the same dreams...and of course now...wouldn't likely have the stamina.

One of my regrets that has bizarrely come back to me with Covid and pneumonia are all the guys I never fucked around with there...including some of my roomies and others that I went to school with or knew socially.

Some of them...and memories of some of my profs have been populating my dreams the past few weeks.

 

[belamyi]

 

[LeicsDom]

Looking back I regret the various opportunities for sex that I missed. Because I was living on campus I was worried about 'muddying the local waters'

 

[belamyi]

I get more "college sex opportunities" everytime I walk around true college guys, like my nine months and three weeks of "college" that I spent in China 20 years ago now, or the past few years in a BCN crowded with foreign college jocks... and working local young men, than I ever did back in the oughtie nineties... I mean, "casual" "for-free" sex, of course.