Do you think he likes me?? any advice??

[SUP3R B0i]

so theres this guy nd he is sooo cute
his names Chris by the way nd hes in my Anatomy class
well i have a huge crush on him lol [i no right]
but idk if hes gay or not nd he seriousley makes me wonder by the way he acts towards me
so i need help and advice from my fellow jubbers on how to approach it??
you know when you have a guy friend and you seriously wonder if hes gay or not?? well thats the case but a little more strange.....idk what it is but he deff trips off my gaydar
soo ill just tell you the little cute things he does that led me to believe that he likes me and is a actually gay[in the closet]....[like me]

1.At random boring moments in class he would reach his hand over nd rub my hand and try to hold it nd he did that twice when i was driving with him my hand was on the gear and he put his hand on mine......[we sit next to ech other in class] also he does this lilke every day but he puts his hand on my thighs nd he dosent say anything just puts his frkin hand there]nd then he says after a minute or so does that make you nervous nd i was like lol no but if you go higher

2.Every time i see him or meet him anywhere he dosent great me with a hey wassup dude or a simple hi its a warm hug[nd he gives good hugs i could feel his penis rub agianst my leg]

3.I was in class nd we where just hanging out i no rihh[some proffeser i have]lol
he would just give me a random back massage nd it wasnt like a minute or two it was 4 minutes or so nd im so turned on but uncomfortable at the same time cuz theres people that i go to college with that have seen you no??
[amazing hands by the way hits thte spot]and ive brooken out of my comfort zone nd returned the favor in CLASS nd he was like "wow i wonder what else you con do with thoose hands babe"

4.We were at my old highschools football game nd it ended realy late nd he invited me to go home with him and spend the night this isnt the first time hes offered either nd i refused because hes such a good friend and i just didnt want to make the mistake and cross the line....

5.But this one is the best today in class theres this guy thats totally homophobic nd we have like a love hate friendship nd we had like a group assignment nd obviously i choosed Chris nd he was lyke ''aww you two butt buddies are going work togther" nd Chris was like"so yea were butt buddies nd what about iit?"
nd my heart was just like OMG that was so neice of him to defned me like that

6.He always comments my apperance which is something only gays notice[fashion that is] telling me i have preety eyes nd that he likes when i wear fitted shirts makes my body look banging also did i mention that he is sooo cute and his body is amazing

7.And well now this is soo sterotypical but im just going to say iit hes a Dancer nd hes been dancing since highschool nd hes realy good at it now ii now that dosent mean hes gay cuz he dances but i mean given his actions and the way he acts imm guessing soo.... also he told me a cute story that how in highschool he was ridiculed so bad for dancing that peple called him a fag nd secluded him nd that guuys treated him so diffrently nd his dad dosent talk to him cause he thinks hes gay nd i was like awww poor baby nd gave him a hug nd i was sooo close to kissing him but i didnt

uggghh i feel like a little school girl in thats all GAGA over some guy [but hes not just some guy] hes a realy sweet guy that nows how to make me smile sooo yea its strange because iv never had a guy friend that treated me this way nd what sucks is that im starting to fall for him [if you havent noticed already ]^^lol nd i realy dont no if i should just make the first move you know cuase i dont want to ruin that friendship what do you guys think?? i need all the help i can get soo please i despreatly need advice???

 

[puka-pride]

ok just the holding hand/thigh thing would be more than enough for me to get the ipmression he likes me LOL

go for it guy if he doesn't liek oyu then he is pretty fucked in the brain

 

[Ramindra]

My advice would be to take things softly, softly. I suspect that if he were on JUB, he might make a similar post about you. He seems to be literally feeling his way.

I think you should respond positively to any action he takes that you suspect are indications of his liking for you. If he puts his hand your thigh, give it a short gentle squeeze which is an acknowledgement by you that his actions do not offend you, and that you are in fact OK with his hand being there.

If he gives you a hug, accidentally let your lips brush his ear.

Grab a couple of beers one night and go and park by the lake or the scenic lookout, or go to the movies. See what develops from there. If he is serious, it will soon become readily apparent, let me assure you.

I certainly would not say, "Hey dude, I am gay and I have got the hots for you and want to jump your bones." You mention "comfort zone". Allow him to stay in his comfort zone. I am pretty sure that your comfort zone is very close to his.

Best of luck.

Ramindra S

 

[Centexfarmer]

Hey SUP3R B0i, I moved your thread here because I honestly feel that it would be better served in a safer environment.

Now I don't want to be a dick and move your thread without commenting on your request so here's my two cents on your situation :

If this guy is the friend that you say that he is, you need to have "a talk" with him.

I'll help you:

SUP3R B0i: So Chris, you know how every now and again you'll touch my hand, or give me back rubs?

Chris: Yeah?

SUP3R B0i: What's going on there? What's that all about?

Chris: ???

SUP3R B0i: Don't freak out or anything, I was just wondering how you really feel about me.

Chris: You're my friend.

SUP3R B0i: I got that, but I'm kind of confused. I'm not saying that I don't like the attention because I do, I'm just wondering where your feelings are at.

Then see what he says.

I know that it's kind of scary, probably for both of you, but rather than wondering, projecting, or fantasizing, it would probably serve your friendship well if YOU were MORE direct with him about what his behavior is doing to you.

 

[SUP3R B0i]

thnx for the input guys nd honestly im realy scared to take ur advice centexfarmer but ill slept on it nd see what happens

 

[Ares]

ill just tell you the little cute things he does that led me to believe that he likes me and is a actually gay[in the closet]....[like me]

Come out to him. I'm guessing it will go well.

 

[cityboi]

He definitely wants you. He's showing you every which way.

 

[Jo-thin]

yeah I don't think you'll know your answer enless if you come out to him! (not telling him you like him)

cause a guy can do all that stuff but he can turn out to be "STRAIGHT"
Same crap happened to me.... this guy hugged me and he sat behind me so he would lick the end of his fingers and place it on the back of my neck and make a kissing sound!
Hes so sweet!
butI came out to him and he was straight! hahaha but till this day he treates me the same!
Seems like your friend would be cool with it if he was straight! so think about it

 

[Centexfarmer]

thnx for the input guys nd honestly im realy scared to take ur advice centexfarmer but ill slept on it nd see what happens

Set your "desire" behind you for a moment, and consider the friendship that you've established with him.

If you "clear the air," you have the chance to either deepen your friendship with him because now the two of you will be able to share your feelings with each other, and/or you could be on the thresh-hold of something more.

The important thing is, is that you remain true to yourself while giving him the chance to decide just how much of a friend that you are to him.

 

[Ares]

also he told me a cute story that how in highschool he was ridiculed so bad for dancing that peple called him a fag nd secluded him nd that guuys treated him so diffrently nd his dad dosent talk to him cause he thinks hes gay

Am I missing something here? haha

I was expecting to hear a cute story and got one about ostracization and disownment. I'm sure you didn't mean it that way, so it made me laugh a bit.

Maybe the reaction from his former peers and especially his father will have lingering effects on his decisions. Go slow. Come out to him first with no strings attached.

 

[thermodynamics]

Well, the next time you're in class together, put you hand on his, and give him a warm smile while doing it.

A sure fire way would be to come out to him, that way he knows you're bi.

 

[Toddxxx]

You give 7 examples showing that the guy is into you. Go for it! Start by reciprocating his touching and you will be in bed together fast. Good luck.

 

[SUP3R B0i]

i wish it was as easy as it sounds coming out to him but its just scary cus i only meet him at the begining of the semester sooo idk but what if hes striaght nd totally rjects me???

should i realy take that risk?

 

[Ninja108]

yes, sometimes you have to take risks... because it can pay off in the end

 

[Centexfarmer]

i wish it was as easy as it sounds coming out to him but its just scary cus i only meet him at the begining of the semester sooo idk but what if hes striaght nd totally rjects me???

should i realy take that risk?

Well look at it this, you can keep torturing yourself on the what ifs, or you can wait until the moment is right and just ask him, "What's going on here?"

Then see what happens.

He may have the same fears as you.

If you're truly friends, there's nothing wrong with an open discussion. Obviously this is making you uncomfortable.

I have a guy at work who's always flirting with me. I suspect that he knows that I'm gay, but I've never come out to him.

Then one day I called his bluff and said, "I bet you're a six-pack away from being gay aren't you?"

He replied, "It would take a lot more than a six-pack."

So I just left it alone as someone who likes to flirt.

I consider him a friend, and the flirting continues.

 

[Jo-thin]

i wish it was as easy as it sounds coming out to him but its just scary cus i only meet him at the begining of the semester sooo idk but what if hes striaght nd totally rjects me???

should i realy take that risk?

well if he rejects you atleast you don't have to
wonder and waste your time over him!
look you should just play the same games as him!
He can't say anything..... I mean one thing leads to another right!?
I know its hard especially if you're playing the straight role......
but just play the same games he's playing and see what happens

 

[SUP3R B0i]

well heres an update im spending the night at his house tonight sooo? what should i do?

 

[Coffee]

well heres an update im spending the night at his house tonight sooo? what should i do?

buy some condoms

 

[yeahman21]

Sooo did you get any?

 

[Coffee]

Sooo did you get any?

me??? prepared! ...uhm...