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Do you think it's wrong for an 18 years old guy to go out with a 30 years old guy? I Think there are nothing wrong but most of my friends think differently.....Somehow age for me is a man-made number.......this guy is sweet, caring, lovable, nice, knows how to make me smile, and love me or atleast like me alot....and best of all he is damn hot....O_O Are there anybody here that are going out with someone much older.......and it work out great? becuase most of my friend said he is first of all to old for me and second he is older that mean he have different interests and wont get along but when we talk it seem like we have same hobbies agree on almost everything understanding and same opinion....I'm just not sure.....
 
idunoo said:
this guy is sweet, caring, lovable, nice, knows how to make me smile, and love me or atleast like me alot....and best of all he is damn hot...
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Forget the age, ignore your friends and re-read your above discription of him. Get to know him and see where it goes.
Find common interest and get to enjoy your differences.
Don't propose marriage tomorrow, but work on your friendship.

Good luck, buddy.
 
I'm in a relationship with a man way older than the guy you are going out with. Nobody has really said much about the age difference, he's caring, loving, and we have almost the same interests and I'm starting to get into the same interests he's into as well. Don't let your friends choose who you want to be with, it's solely up to you to who you want to be with not your friends.
 
If the age difference doesn't matter to you or to him, then it isn't anyone else's business. Give it a try for a while. Do a little pillow talk after your nex F*** session and ask how he feels about it. When you reach 30 y/o you are going to realize that 30 is still young and this will become a non-issue. Enjoy life and be happy.
 
OF course it does. Older men tend to be controlling. They use their money and power to control the younger gay.
 
Some people say there should be an age limit to who you hook up with.
Others say "age ain't nothin' but a number".

I think they're both wrong. :)

Can you, an 18-year-old, have a successful relationship with a 30-year-old? Yes, definitely. But it may be a bit more difficult. I think the bigger the age gap, the less you might have in common. It's certainly not insurmountable, but it's something to be aware of. I don't think it's something that should be dismissed with a pithy "age is just a number" - it's something that actually should be recognized and discussed.

Next time your friends give you some grief about your older boyfriend, let them know you're aware of it. "Yeah, it can be a bit strange sometimes, but it's nothing we can't handle." :)

Lex
 
All that matters is that you both love and care for each other. If you have that then who cares what other people think.
 
I've told many times thruout these forums that I've always had relationships with Younger guys and they are the ones to initiate it .... The biggest gap was when I was in my 40's and was in a three year relationship with a guy who was 18 when we first started ... He had tried when he was 17; BUT I'm not interested in going to prison ...
He did his thing ... I did mine ..and everynight we ended up in each others arms ... as we slept . We'd also go fishing, camping, bowling, shopping and to the beach all the time ... we were very compatiable ....
So YES .. a younger guy and an older, more mature guy CAN have a great relationship .... it just takes TWO working at it .. to make it work ....
 
G-Lexington said:
Some people say there should be an age limit to who you hook up with.
Others say "age ain't nothin' but a number".

I think they're both wrong. :)

Can you, an 18-year-old, have a successful relationship with a 30-year-old? Yes, definitely. But it may be a bit more difficult. I think the bigger the age gap, the less you might have in common. It's certainly not insurmountable, but it's something to be aware of. I don't think it's something that should be dismissed with a pithy "age is just a number" - it's something that actually should be recognized and discussed.

Next time your friends give you some grief about your older boyfriend, let them know you're aware of it. "Yeah, it can be a bit strange sometimes, but it's nothing we can't handle." :)

Lex
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I agree with Lex (mostly :))... age does matter and it's not only what you have in common or not, but also where you are in the cycle of life and the difference in mind set that that implies.

There's nothing wrong in getting into such a relationship and no reason why it can't work out for the both of you. The way you have described him, it should be a no-brainer.
 
probably not... 30 isnt that bad but you still wont have much in common. at least he won't be a controlling sugar daddy, though. and that doesn't mean you cant have good sex.
 
age dosent matter and most of all if the two of you dont care about then thats only thing that matter who cares what others may think.
 
newboy12 said:
OF course it does. Older men tend to be controlling. They use their money and power to control the younger gay.
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This is an example of the type of post (and perhaps poster) to always ignore. Shows his ignorance with every word he types.

Age only matters if it matters to those involved. Age difference per se are irrelevent. Commonalities are more important. Granted, sometimes age does lead to not having much in common, but that's far from universal. I've seen very strong relationships between people far apart in age. It totally depends on the people involved.
 
Thanks for all the replies, He is 30 years old but he is act younger though, he is into type of styffs i like or maybe he is trying to and we get along great, i know him since i'm 17 years old and i waited until 18 and went out with him ..I did and my friend just worry about me, I talk to them about that I siad i'm aware of it and I told them that he is not a bad person and very easy to get along with. I hope this work out for us.
 
Oh for God's sake! - If we lived our lives according to what other people thought was appropriate for us there'd be no such thing as gay.

You ask if a relationship between an 18 year old and a 30 year old is wrong. It's certainly not 'wrong' on legal grounds since 18 is over the age of consent. That leaves 'moral' grounds. Do you think morality is a set of values that you develop yourself, or is it a set of rules made by those in authority to dictate to you how you should live your life so that their position of pwer remains unchallenged?

Since your morailty is capacious enough to accept the validity of two men having a loving relationship in a context of mainstream heterosexuality then I fail to see why you want to 'sweat the small stuff' and agonise over the age of the lovers. I mean what age difference would be appropriate? Would it be okay if you were 20 and he was was 28, or you were 25 and he was 37?

Just because people are gay does not mean they cannot be just as envious, intolerant or hypocritical as anyone else.
 
Of course it is OK.
Stop worrying what others will think of an age difference.
If you liked old men it would be OK.
If you preferred someone your own age, that too is OK.
In a gay man's relationship, I do not think age is a big factor.
Shep+
 
Nope. U r free to love as you please. Love is unconditional, it can break any barrier. If it can't, it's not true love
 
Other than legal matters, no. Age means nothing when it comes to love
 
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