Does being bi mean you can't commit

[AngelFromAbove]

Ok...so I'm genuinely bi, not openly, apart from me admitting it to a gay pal of mine. He says that biguys have the worst deal in sexuality because if you are straight...you can commit...if you are gay you can commit..but if you are bi, whether open or closet, you can never ever sexually commit to one person, because that other side to you, either one one way or the other will never ignore the opposite to what you have in a relationship...if you get my drift. I'm not so sure....but thinking about it, as a biguy...perhaps he has a point...comments?

There are plenty of heterosexual and homosexual people with commitment issues. Being bisexual does not equate to unfaithfulness; the inability or ability to remain monogamous is individual. He has a point, but it is highly biased and skewed.

 

[puka-pride]

if you commit to a str8 woman you have to be str8 the rest of your life...

if you commit to a gay man you have to be gay the rest of your life

can u honestly label yourself as one or the other the rest of your life?

if not then you can't commit to either life

I'd suggest if you want commitment find another bi guy or bi girl.. ad commit with them.. that way if you love each other and either of you get a lil antsy about wanting to fuck the different gender you can just have a 3sum with one and problem solved

 

[CallMeHTD]

Basically, when you find the person you're going to want to spend the rest of your life with, you'll commit to that person, be it a man or a woman. You have a lot of options!

After a while, some people have an impulse to cheat. Some act on it, and some don't. When people are committed and think about straying, it's always basically for the same reason- the want of something new; a new dick, asshole or pussy. For you the packaging might be different, but that need is basically just the same as a gay man or straight mans need to stray. So, you're really not that different than most of us in that case. Does that make any sense?

 

[yama900]

I dunno if it would be quite two fold. I mean it would seem to make sense that there aren't as many guys willing to be with another dude as a woman wanting to be with a dude. But yes, there would be more to be tempted by. I would have to agree with the idea that if you're in a committed relationship, it wouldn't matter if you're bi, straight, or gay. If you can't commit to one person, I would have to think it's more just a personality thing then being related to your specific sexual orientation.

 

[star-warrior]

Folks, I'm moving this to the "Coming Out, Relationships and Bi-Sex Talk" forum.

 

[Stitch627]

If you're straight, you like girls. So, your girlfriend may be enough to fill your needs.
Same if you're gay. You like guys and your boyfriend may be enough to fill your needs.
But if you're bi, it means you like both guys and girls. So if you're in a committed relationship with a girl for example, will she be able to fill all of your needs? Or only 50%? which would involve that at some point you'll be craving for a guy...

A friend, who got married recently, has told me he was actually bi. So far he's always been faithful. It's been 7 years. But I think the question of "can I really commit to one person if I'm bi?" goes through his mind. Especially since I told him I was attracted to guys.

 

[Audio Tech]

I had a long talk with a friend of mine about the same thing.

I am somewhat bi, because I like a nice body regardless who's wearing it. I have been turned on by a few girls and a few men. But in my HEART, I know I cannot be truly fulfilled emotionally by a woman, so I really am "Gay".

Geez... it's a tough one... but I think real commitment is emotional, who is it that completes you, your soul. Being bi, in my opinion, is more a sexual attraction than a truly emotional one. And that's ok.... as long as you know the difference.

So, in all, I think you CAN commit to someone that completes your soul, not just your desire of the month.

Life sure is complicated...

 

[3nipples]

Hetero, bi or gay, we're all the same basic model.

No partner will ever be able to satisfy all our needs 100%. A relationship is always a compromise. It doesn't matter what your orientation is, you'll always be able to find someone that looks interesting and tempting.

Either you're able to commit to your partner or you aren't.

 

[Dolmance]

Identifying as bisexual doesn't mean you are more or less likely to engage in a successful committed relationship than anyone else. It's the individual, their perspectives, their drives and, more signignificantly, their behaviour that determines whether or not a relationship is a success. I identify as bisexual (my particular sexuality manifests as an attraction to certain individuals, regardless of gender) and am currently in an intensely committed relationship with a gay man. I want him and no one else, despite still being passively attracted to others in a fleeting, superficial way.

 

[irydion]

if you commit to a str8 woman you have to be str8 for the rest of that relationship

if you commit to a gay man you have to be gay for the rest of that relationship

corrected.

 

[NineOfClubs]

Tough question.

The only bi guy I've known well was committed to a woman for 10-12 years.

However, he did end up leaving her for a guy....

Hmmm....

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Commit to the truth, and the truth will set you free...

If you truly follow your own way and carry your heart on your tongue, then you will know the answer.