Does being bisexual mean your eventually going to be gay?

[justwant2know]

I JustWant2Know... what do you guys think... if you are bisexual can you really have an emotional, mental, and physical attraction to both sexes without favoring 1 or the other. If so can you love both and how would you go about choosing one or the other when you want to settle down. Would that just lead to cheating and choosing the other sex over the 1 you have already chosen? -JW2K

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Yes. Just like being gay means eventually you'll be straight.

 

[pat grimshaw]

I'd like to give you a one word answer.





But I won't, because yours is one of the biggest taboo/bugaboo questions in Gayland.

 

[justwant2know]

Lol... its alright i laughed while I wrote it I'm bi and acknowledge it as well (gotta change my preference) but the main thing I REALLY would like to know is answers for this not so much the other shyt....

"If so can you love both and how would you go about choosing one or the other when you want to settle down. Would that just lead to cheating and choosing the other sex over the 1 you have already chosen?"


Whats the thoughts on that? -JW2K

 

[heroesnhunks]

No it doesn't mean you're eventually going to be gay. There are actually real bisexuals. But there are also gay men who use bisexuality as a transitional phase. So while it doesn't mean you're necessarily gay, It probably ups your Kinsey odds quite a bit.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

^^My thoughts are that you're confusing bisexuality with polyamory(and that the site is moving hilariously slow today).

If you love a person, you love a person. End of.

 

[justwant2know]

Thanks zack... it was a damn question people lighten the hell up people... even though some people seriously are inclined to thinking in such a way... I am not one of those people and if I was I would talk to a trained professional instead negative commentors to help me out... I am glad that Zack could get a laugh off of that question besides myself... its a forum to ask questions right so if your gonna be a handjob about it then dont reply... So if any others would like to share their feelings on the matter of the real question I asked after the fact pleae feel free and dont be a Handy-J about it... Thanx again -JW2K

 

[frankfrank]

I've always thought of strict homosexuality and strict heterosexuality as being the two ends of a line, which covers the entire territory from 0% hetero to 100% hetero.

I think it's probably more common for people to be on the >95% part of the line, than on the <5% part of the line, but people's sexual preferences can be anywhere along that line. Those who fall into the (perhaps) Middle One-Third portion of the line are the true bisexuals. People outside of this range and not at the very ends are STILL BISEXUAL, but they have preference for one gender above the other.

I think it is UNLIKELY, but certainly not unknown either, for a bisexual to "go gay" at some point. As we are talking about human beings, there is no one rule that fits all.

I feel that being a true bisexual is a special and great gift, if anything. For one thing, it doubles the "universe" of people who you can eventually come to love, and have a relationship with, if that's one's preference.

The exact 50% part of the line does NOT mean that the two halves of all people fall equally on each side of that mark, but only that somebody is absolutely bisexual without preference. Most likely the population falling "to the left" is considerably smaller than the population which resides "to the right" (i.e. prefer or are entirely straight) of that 50% marker.

Some people are asexual, though not very many - they will not be on that line at all.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Lol... its alright i laughed while I wrote it I'm bi and acknowledge it as well (gotta change my preference) but the main thing I REALLY would like to know is answers for this not so much the other shyt....

"If so can you love both and how would you go about choosing one or the other when you want to settle down. Would that just lead to cheating and choosing the other sex over the 1 you have already chosen?"


Whats the thoughts on that? -JW2K

First come, first served.

 

[bankside]

The situation would be clearer if:

a) gay people would stop pretending to be "bi" because they think they get some kind of bonus points for "still being kind of straight." Seee???? I touched a boob!!!

b) bi people liked men and women emotionally mentally and physically along the same terms. But a lot of them don't. They'll get physical with men but not emotional, or vice versa. There probably needs to be some other word that describes people who only have a limited connection to one gender but not the other. I think "bi" should be saved for people who truly do connect with both genders.

...but yes, there are really real bi people.

 

[Dolmance]

There are no had and fast rules, no strict definitions here. Though, thanks to the pressures placed upon LGBT communities and individuals by those who would rob them of their rights on the basis of biological incidence, there are those who have developed their own idiot tribal prejudices and phobias ("biphobia" not being least amongst them), there are not only legitimately bisexual human beings, who can be attracted to human beings regardless of sex on a variety of different levels, there are also those for whom sex is an utter incidence, who fall in love with individuals based on their own criteria; there are men and women who identify as straight their entire lives then suddenly find themselves falling for someone of the same sex AND vice versa; there are those who have superficial attractions to one gender and more profound to another; there are those who have absolutely no sexual or romantic urges at all (asexual; arguably the rarest condition). It's something of a rich tapestry. All one has to do is determine where one sits on it, and acknowledge that the position may or may not be permanent, depending on a variety of factors, and finally what you want to take from the weave.

I, for example, have had relationships with women in the past, and enjoyed it immensely, connected very deeply, BUT currently identify as gay because that's what I want; it has become clear to me that I function domestically and emotionally better with other men, and it would be cruel and unfair to engage with a woman romantically when there's no hope or possibility of anything beyond the superficial. HOWEVER, I am utterly open to the notion that, some day, I may in fact meet a woman who makes me reconsider that position. I'm monogamous by nature; I only get involved with people romantically if there's some potential for us, and what I really want is a dedicated relationship. The labels exist for the purposes of elegance of communication, and little else.

 

[barnbuddy]

if you get hard thinking about, or looking at pics of both men and women, yr bi

if it's just guys, yr gay

if it's just women, yr str8, and you wouldn't waste time thinking about it

it's a physical reaction

it's when people start thinking about emotional commitments and issues, etc...

that people start to have trouble - like wanting wanting to be a trad husband and father

or making yr family and friends happy, or not to be rejected by those close to you

emotions often confuse what is a basic question:

What gets you hard?

 

[diamondstar]

Unless U like boys more lol. To be honest I don't know much about Bisexuals other than the fact I don't mind them. However from I seen on TV is that bisexuals love both sex, but tend to prefer one more than the other.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

No. It means you are already gay, but in denial.

At least if many of the posters of this site are to be believed.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

Of course there are legitimate bisexual men out there. They enjoy men and women. Whether they have a higher preference towards one or the other is irrelevant...they still are attracted to both genders.

With that being said, is common for most gay men to stop at the 'bi' train before admitting to being gay. I did it, and basically every gay guy I know did as well. Being bisexual means you're 'half normal' and it is a lot easier to chew than being out right gay.

So bisexuals who are just that...stay just that. Gay guys in denial come to terms with this later on in life after realizing why they hunt out at the gay club but never dare to prowl on the opposite sex

 

[Kabluey]

Nope, definitely have a thing for women still.
Standards might be higher though