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Does experience matter?

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I was told I was very good at giving head the first time I did it. He may have been trying to be nice :P. Practice certainly makes you better at sex.

Just the other day I was with my boyfriend for my 8th time (or so) and the looks of pleasure I got out of him were amazing. :P
 
RazorzEdge88 said:
So I'm very inexperienced, but I'm considering hooking up just so I can learn some things before I ever get into a relationship.

Thing is, I really don't want to that much, but it seems like it'd help to know your way around.

This leads me to ask if sexual experience is really that important. Is there really that much to learn from it? Is it possible to be really good in bed while having actually done very little?

I'm not interested in rule of thumb here - like I'd bet anything that guys are just generally better if they've done it more - that's just logic. I just want to know if it's really something you pretty much have to learn by practice.
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Here's my opinion...DON'T DO IT. You will probably regret it when it's over that u wasted ur first time on someone u will never see again. I felt the same way as u and I hooked up for my first time, and my second, and a few more times. Worst decisions I've ever made. If you start seeing someone and hit it off, ur experience should not matter. Because relationships are more than just about sex. Even if u are "bad" at sex the first time, if ur in a relationship it shouldn't matter. You can practice with him and get better at it.
 
Save your first time for someone you have a special connection with, dont waste it on a random hookup like I did.
 
Save your first actual time for someone that you feel completely comfortable with.

Experience isn't really the key factor to having great sex because everyone is different. Having great sex is about knowing your body and knowing what you like and also being able to communicate it to your partner.
 
RazorzEdge88 said:
This leads me to ask if sexual experience is really that important. Is there really that much to learn from it? Is it possible to be really good in bed while having actually done very little?
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We have this idea that being good in bed means being able to suck a golf ball through a garden hose.

Being "good in bed" is not about any particular skill or circus trick that you can do in bed. It just means that you are willing to try new things and that you're focused on your partner's needs as well as your own.

If a guy likes you, he's not going to ask you to fill out a resume listing your sexual honors and accomplishments. If he likes you, he's going to have a good time whether or not you're able to swing from a trapeze during sex.

So, focus on finding the right guy and get your experience there instead of just hooking up with a stranger that you'll never see again.
 
Quanchi said:
I think experience does matter, there is a LOT to learn about sex... but experience doesn't mean amazing sex and inexperience doesn't mean bad sex.
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Also, how does an inexperienced person become experienced? Right, by having sex. So I say: don't worry about being inexperienced. Just explore and enjoy!

Of course that doesn't mean he should have sex with anyone. But I have to say that I am currently experimenting and I am doing so with one-night stands. Although I would not say no to a relationship, I am also quite happy with just sex at this point. To each their own.
 
Nope...............not at all...............
 
There is some experience that you can get for the more "technical" parts of sex, but apart from that - every guy is different. You need to find out how someone ticks, and that's one of the fun parts of it :)
 
Yes, experience matters. I got my experience with the one guy I'm still with for a decade now. Sex is better than ever. We both get more out of sex now than when we first started out, and it was really really fun learning along the way. Really fun.

Experience matters. If his experience was sleeping around with random people just so he could say he did, that would have put him in the "thanks but no thanks" category. Sex is not like learning to drive a car. You don't need a minimum number of hours before you can get licensed.
 
Experience doesn't matter.

If you're with a guy you like, and who likes you, then he'll be patient and help you through it to make sure you both get the most pleasure out of your experience together.

Better to wait and do it with someone you like, take some pointers and ask questions, than to just rack up experience before hand.
 
OK I didnt mean wait for your one true love, lol just make sure its not some random gross guy, lol
 
Since you said you've done the oral and jackin him off, even though u weren't sober I'm going to focus on anal.

To 'practice' anal you don't need another man. And in some cases that can put you off the whole thing anyway. Read up on anal cleanliness, practice getting yourself squeaky clean, and stretch yourself sometimes when you jack off. A vast majority of first time anal'ers report discomfort with their first because of either not being clean in side and things shifting around uncomfortably, or that they're body 'rejected' the foreign intrusion.

My first time was regrettable. The man took his time and stretched me out so that it wouldn't hurt as bad. But there was no pleasure because other than causing some kind of physical damage he wasn't concerned with how I was feeling. He just wanted to get off. I'm not saying random hookup for your first time is wrong 100% of the time, some people have no problem with doing that. But for me I have regretted it ever since. And I'm guessing that since you asked this question in the first place you will as well.

Let your first time be with something special. It is a gift to allow someone to penetrate you. Don't just chunk it at the first guy with a boner you see. Also try doing some of the oral and mutual masturbation while your sober.
Play safe and good luck.
 
save your first time for someone special. If some complains of your inexperiance , then you need to find some one else.

Sex is just sex to some not all some.

But when in a relationship it's a combination of many things that make it work.

I had only bj from 1 guy before when I was under 18. I had been with a couple of girls around 17/18. But they said I was not good.

I met my honey of 24 yrs now, and we fell in love from the first time. He was a bit older and had some experiance. But he never said anything was wrong and he was more than happy to show and teach me many things.


So wait until you find someone special...
 
well i was rejected cause i'm inexperienced.
I dont think experience matter BUT if you are looking for someone that u will never see again for u first time, i dont think that's right, look i'm virgin COMPLETELY inexperienced , and i really wanna do it, but i will not be with someone that i will never see again, i think it should be with your BOYFRIEND someone special :)...that's what i think :kiss:
 
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