Does he like me or is he clowning?

[ezwriter]

I know a LOT of young straight guys today who do NOTHING but gay-bait each other.

Here's just a couple of examples from a couple of friends of mine's Facebook pages:

Evan posts: Revenge is sweet. L.A. all day
Evan's friend comments: But what is sweet AND salty?
Evan replies: You know the answer to that. Your favorite 4-letter word. Catch it!

Steve comments on friend's photo: Let me see your serious face, Dan.
Dan replies: I don't have one. Or an in pain face. Hint hint.

That's just a couple of examples. I've seen and heard them joke with each other about glory holes, power bottoms, cum facials, all kinds of gay shit.

So, just because he's into making all kinds of gay jokes with you doesn't mean he's gay. It doesn't mean he isn't, either. It's irrelevant.

You clearly have the hots for him, so there's a good chance you're mis-reading him, because you want him and want him to want you. Or not...there's also a chance you're reading him perfectly. Unfortunately, if things continue the way they are between you two, you'll never know.

So what should you do about it?

The next time he starts up with you, you need to just flat out tell him "you do know I'm gay, right?". Just fucking man up and throw it out there. Hopefully that will open up a REAL adult conversation between you two, instead of this juvenile game-playing you two are engaging in at the moment. During which, you can tell him that because you're gay, the things he says and does to you take on a different kind of meaning than if you were straight.
I wouldn't mention anything about being attracted to him, not at first. If he's gay or bi or curious, and not just a grab-assy str8 guy making gay jokes, then he's clearly a bit of a head case, and you need to proceed with caution.

Good luck, and let us know how it goes (unless you're just going to continue the same way with him, in which case, please don't bother...)

 

[Rolyo85]

no and this is supposed to be a no flame zone remember

Um, it is a no flame zone, but it's also a no trol zone. I mean, geez, I hadn't realized you're the same person from all of those threads.

Buddy, should you maybe just stop getting in these situations? Painful comfort zones are very unattractive.

 

[Rolyo85]

Also, why did we not get the heads up like the guys over at Empty Closets?

Let me quote real quick:

had a heart to heart with him. I may now officially have a boyfriend

played video games, went to mcdonalds, sat in his car and talked, which ended in a make out session with HIM making the first move.

Add to that the comments from this same topic in Hot Topics here, like for example this one...

Oh i remember you from last year, kept us all going with a pack of lies you made up because you were bored, i take it this is the same rubbish as before as i haven't bothered reading it,

I'll just pop over to that other site where Johaninsc caught you out last time peddling the same nonsense, see if anybodies fallen for it over there.

...and I'm beginning to feel lied to. No flaming whatsoever, just pointing things out...

 

[fluxflux]

Invite him to hang at your place and see what happens when you are alone.

 

[goodbadenergy]

so he jokingly hands me some windex and says "you are gonna have to remove the cobwebs from back there!" I told him i was watching man vs wild, and he said "ooooh i thought you were gonna say man on man"

 

[Rolyo85]

Troll alert!

 

[goodbadenergy]

and the trolls come out to derail my thread

 

[TX-Beau]

Well, it seems you have a history. In here most guys will give you the benefit of the doubt or at least play along because it isn't hot topics – the whole point of this thread is to try and help - so they just assume you’re legit until they start to feel taken advantage of.

Most of the posters in here spend a lot of thought and sometimes time and energy trying to be helpful, and if the OP seems to be fiction or obdurate or ignoring everything it's pointless to continue, and kind of insulting to have put in the work on a guy who's just jerking you around.

Or if the OP seems to be only interested in the "...guess what he did now..." thread whose only purpose is to entertain the OP and string along the rest of us.

Which is what it looks like you’re doing. Why?

Because no one is that clueless. If everything is the way you say it is – you might as well walk away because you will never have the balls to do anything even if he’s dry humping you in the hallways.

If everything is the way you say it is, you’ve had multiple opportunities to take the advice given you in here – while everyone was assuming you were legit – and you completely ignored everything then posted another variation of the same thing you originally posted.

What you’ve done instead is keep tossing obstacles at your story all the while wailing “…oh but what shall I do…”

If everything is as you say it is you get off your ass, tell him you’re gay and ask if he is.

Problem solved.

End of story.


If you won’t do that there is no point in continuing this discussion because nothing will ever change and you don’t want our advice you just want us to pay attention to you.

Which is fine – but there are better ways to get attention, and better kinds of attention to get.

And BTW you haven’t been flamed once – at least in here.

 

[goodbadenergy]

hes really been kind of mean to me lately, like, trying to get me to admit i'm gay, pretending i am a dog (he'll say "good boy!") and pretending hes my mommy "dont catch a cold little boy! its cold out there!"

 

[Rolyo85]

Nope, still not buying it. And this was kind of a half-hearted attempt, you gotta admit.

 

[Melb lad]

Move post to gay stories? If u like to talk sh*t

 

[MrRochesterNY]

hes really been kind of mean to me lately

Y A W N ! !

 

[goodbadenergy]

ok well he doesnt really like me.... he just had fun torturing my ugly ass, and i was made a fool of

 

[Rolyo85]

Nobody here is buying this anymore. Go invent stories someplace else.

 

[Raincoat Massacre]

Well, it seems you have a history. In here most guys will give you the benefit of the doubt or at least play along because it isn't hot topics – the whole point of this thread is to try and help - so they just assume you’re legit until they start to feel taken advantage of.

Most of the posters in here spend a lot of thought and sometimes time and energy trying to be helpful, and if the OP seems to be fiction or obdurate or ignoring everything it's pointless to continue, and kind of insulting to have put in the work on a guy who's just jerking you around.

Or if the OP seems to be only interested in the "...guess what he did now..." thread whose only purpose is to entertain the OP and string along the rest of us.

Which is what it looks like you’re doing. Why?

Because no one is that clueless. If everything is the way you say it is – you might as well walk away because you will never have the balls to do anything even if he’s dry humping you in the hallways.

If everything is the way you say it is, you’ve had multiple opportunities to take the advice given you in here – while everyone was assuming you were legit – and you completely ignored everything then posted another variation of the same thing you originally posted.

What you’ve done instead is keep tossing obstacles at your story all the while wailing “…oh but what shall I do…”

If everything is as you say it is you get off your ass, tell him you’re gay and ask if he is.

Problem solved.

End of story.


If you won’t do that there is no point in continuing this discussion because nothing will ever change and you don’t want our advice you just want us to pay attention to you.

Which is fine – but there are better ways to get attention, and better kinds of attention to get.

And BTW you haven’t been flamed once – at least in here.

OMFG. THIS. SO MUCH THIS.

 

[Kyanimal]

I was going to say something ... butt now I won't ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[MrRochesterNY]

The only person who is making a fool of the OP is the OP himself. Lame, lame, lame!

It might be interesting to know what drives him to do this.

 

[Georgiadude]

found it quite interesting when the cover was blown the next post was it's over and he's mean, making a fool of me. how coincidental.

Dude you should have just let it go. Nobody here is going to believe or trust you any more. The members of JUB have seen many game players before and we don't take being played lightly. No wonder you got flamed in hot topics.

Steven.

 

[Georgiadude]

Yeah he jumped over hear the minute he got called out in HT.

yeh. this coming from someone called "goodbadenergy". LMAO Looks like someones karma has come around.


Steven.