does my boss want me?

[24dnph]

My boss knows that i am bisexual as i am currently in a relationship with a guy. he is married with 2 kids and is a really friendly guy. i am not saying that i would do anything with him as this is a job for life type situation and i think that if anything happened between us it would be a disaster.

the thing is i would like to know if he is taking our conversations more seriously than i am in case he thinks i am leading him on. he is older than me by a few years and we have a good relationship....we laugh and joke but when i am coming down or up the stairs he always goes behind me and i can see him checking my ass out in the windows on the way...especially when i wear tight suit trousers. i also catch him staring at me at the odd time during lunch and breaks.

i have to admit i am really attracted to him and he has an amazing ass and i have definitely looked at his bulge more than once. am i on dangerous ground by letting him flirt in a casual way and me flirting back or do you think he is just being laddish?

 

[heir-to-the-wind]

I see a sexual harassment claim in the future.

 

[mcbrion]

If, "i am not saying that i would do anything with him as this is a job for life type situation and i think that if anything happened between us it would be a disaster" is the case, flirting is the start of disaster, using your statement as the Last Word.

This is work. I'd keep it that way.

 

[seioussuction69]

Don't bother flirting with him, you don't have to avoid him, just keep things professional. Try not walking up the stairs infront of him, and don't flirt back. Eye contact alone says plenty. There is no way to stop him from looking at you, just don't return the gesture. How long have you worked with him? If he hasn't tried anything yet, he probably won't. If he gets divorced, and you find yourself single, then see what develops....after you find another job. When you have conversations with him that don't involve work, talk about his family life or your partner, he will get the hint. One safe option is to use him for a jerk off fantasy, that way you will have a sexual release with it ruining your life.

 

[star-warrior]

I think the fact you're attracted to him is perhaps what is clouding your judgement, but that's just my opinion. If you value your job for life, I think professionalism should be the order of the day. He has a family, and you have a partner. You know where your priorities lie, and it isn't worth sacrificing your job, your relationship for a fling that could cost him also his family too.

 

[ballcaphair]

I can so relate to this. Do not flirt with forbidden fruit, especially at work, especially out of respect for both your relationships. I work in a very emotional environment and empathy runs high. Be true to your committed partner if you're looking for a "for life" situation.

 

[novastar]

Leave well enough alone.

 

[Frankie13]

My boss knows I'm bisexual and that I've had crushes on him in the past, and since we're good friends he'll do things to deliberately tease me just cause he can. It's fun, but the situation you're describing is very different. If he's got a family, I'd pump your brakes on this right now. Too many people could get hurt if you decide to pursue anything sexual with him.