Does the internet depress you too??

[TJx123]

eh more specifically for me anyways dating sites.

for me bear 4 1 1, biggercity maybe for some of you Adam4adam or silver daddies, dudesnude or some im not even aware of

Ive been feeling so depressed lately, and I recently saw a youtube video of a guy explaining that he started gardening because of his depression and he said that sitting on the computer at these sites for hours and hours at a time depressed him.

And it really got me thinking that I do the same thing, on top of being depressed about a guy, which is not completely resolved anyway (and i met him from one of the sites) and being cooped up in my house with those sites open for hours on end can't be helping that.

and when I really think about it, if im off doing something or distracting myself from my problems, I dont feel the slightest bit depressed (well unless im at work, that gives me time to also walllow in my problems and sorrow)

So i feel like I need a new hobby (not gardening lol) or something to get me out of the house more.

I mean i guess im asking for suggestions or if anyone feels the same way.

Im 22 and closeted if thats relevant.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

I feel the same way at times.

And then I cut the internet off and do something else.

I'd hate to make it seem that simple, but it really is that simple. The guy that did gardening because the net was depressing him eventually came back to the net when he could handle it. So should you man.

 

[Ram]

The Internet can be a messed up place.

I don't think you should distract yourself from your depression. Confronting and treating it is the best way to overcome your depression. Perhaps maybe you can always share with us your problems in this thread or at the Coming Out forum. There are people here who can give advice and empower you.

Currently going through seasonal "depression". I don't think it's depression, just a sudden dip in happiness and stable emotions. Not because of the Internet. Life has been a cruel whore, constantly fucking with me and leaving me penniless with three kids.

Yes, anything that distracts you can help you temporarily. Gardening, to me, sounds like a great way to keep myself depress and insane. I like the company of people so I trying to nurture an active social life. Same reason why I posting again here at JUB. Fake or not, people are still people, and while posting you get to discuss, laugh and fight -- sometimes all in one thread.. At the same time, I am exploring my spiritual side and discovering Christ and His love through a liberal, gay-friendly church has helped me a lot. Physically, I want to engage myself with dancing. I have always wanted to dance so I am researching on either ballroom dancing (it's not that gay, right?) or something more Spanish.

 

[TJx123]

And then I cut the internet off and do something else.

I'd hate to make it seem that simple, but it really is that simple. The guy that did gardening because the net was depressing him eventually came back to the net when he could handle it. So should you man.

you know i thought so too, but i almost immediately feel depressed going there, even if i have a couple of friends there. I just feel like something to occupy more of my time could really help

The Internet can be a messed up place.

I don't think you should distract yourself from your depression. Confronting and treating it is the best way to overcome your depression. Perhaps maybe you can always share with us your problems in this thread or at the Coming Out forum. There are people here who can give advice and empower you.

Currently going through seasonal "depression". I don't think it's depression, just a sudden dip in happiness and stable emotions. Not because of the Internet. Life has been a cruel whore, constantly fucking with me and leaving me penniless with three kids.

Yes, anything that distracts you can help you temporarily. Gardening, to me, sounds like a great way to keep myself depress and insane. I like the company of people so I trying to nurture an active social life. Same reason why I posting again here at JUB. Fake or not, people are still people, and while posting you get to discuss, laugh and fight -- sometimes all in one thread.. At the same time, I am exploring my spiritual side and discovering Christ and His love through a liberal, gay-friendly church has helped me a lot. Physically, I want to engage myself with dancing. I have always wanted to dance so I am researching on either ballroom dancing (it's not that gay, right?) or something more Spanish.

Im not necessarily saying I want to run away from the depression by distracting it, I just feel like it couldn't hurt. Maybe something could help in a somewhat therapeutic way...without going to therapy lol. I mean ive been pretty messed up for almost 2 months and I thought time would help and its done quite the opposite, I havent been quite as far down as "suicidal" not that the thought hasnt crossed my mind but i think thats just because when you're at the lowest point you can think of, the human mind will explore those dark places. Its hard to get over something when it was pretty much your own fault because then i think we as people tend to dwell on it more if we do feel that way.

 

[mbamike]

I understand where you are coming from. I spend hours upon hours on the Internet. I have accounts of several of the hookup sites. It does get to me after awhile.

So now, I spend time outside. Mowing the lawn, pulling weeds, pruning trees is a big release for me. If nothing else, just sunbathing for about an hour. I feel much better afterwards.

 

[TJx123]

You need a hug. I think many of us have been in your situation. However, I don't think the internet itself is depressing you but loneliness. Listen to lots of music, record your thoughts and feelings and for God's sake, don't spend the rest of your life in the closet. You'll know when the time is right to come out. Who knows? It may even be today.

I do! thank you lol. Actually Im not only going listen to a lot of music but i also kind of play the guitar and i may have just found a distraction

 

[maxpowr9]

I used to spend a lot of time on the internet too if only it was playing WoW. I honestly thought this was gonna be about how many stupid and crazy people there are on the internet (there are a lot as we all know) which does not give me much hope for humanity. I have browsed those "dating" sites before and most of them IMO are just not worth the time. Dead end after dead end with the occasional gem. As I read in a book recently "you can't really expect to find love in a periodical" or at least have lofty expectations of it.

Actually what has been most depressing for me is that as more and more of my friends (straight if it matters) are getting married, it is starting to get to me deeply though this is the first time I actually admit it. They keep on telling me to go out and find that 'someone' as if being single is some horrible disease. Even when I was with my ex for over 2 years, they treated me different then. Now, I become more and more isolated from them as the "single" buddy.

I will say as for the music suggestion, there is also a SHIT TON of depressing music out there also so try to find upbeat music. Video games have always been my escape from the real world and lately, I have been reading feverishly.

 

[freshjock90]

I think Facebook can be even worse than those gay hookup sites. On Facebook you get to read and see all the fun everyone is having while your at home on your computer. Seeing the relationships of exes can also suck when you're single. I tend to try and avoid Facebook, I really think it is more of a social nightmare then a gift. Who ever thought that knowing ur classmates went out last weekend without calling you would be a fun thing to hear about.

So yeah dude you've got to get out and find a hobby. I started going to the gym more and creating a running schedule, even got a hot friend to go with me most days. I know it's shallow but if you can't feel good on the inside, try making yourself look better on the outside, it may boost your confidence.

 

[willsboy84]

Damn youtube man. I'm always finding myself getting choked up over the WEIRDEST things while watching youtube. Latest incident: I was watching the trailer for the upcoming "Street Fighter X Tekken" game. Everything's fine, but then they show Chun Li. The crowds cheer...and I fucking started sobbing. Dunno wtf that's all about.

The weirdest though? I was watching a clip from "One Life to Live". Don't even remember what the clip was, but I remember that I spent 1/2 the clip with a lump in my throat, but then something in the scene made me start laughing hysterically. Hmmm...can't remember whether I was sober, or not...

 

[evanrick]

yes literally i think it fueled my addictions which probably didnt help me...its hard to quantify what the internet has "done".

 

[sixthson]

I think there are many downsides to the internet. A major one, as far as I can tell, is the attitude users have toward each other. And I think user is a good word for them, too.
These people see others as expendable. They take from others, without ever giving back, then toss them aside like garbage, as if the people online are not as real as the people they see in everyday life. From what I can tell from JUB, the internet is a very selfish place. It doesn't depress me, it just makes me more distrusting than I already am.

 

[GameOver]

Damn youtube man. I'm always finding myself getting choked up over the WEIRDEST things while watching youtube. Latest incident: I was watching the trailer for the upcoming "Street Fighter X Tekken" game. Everything's fine, but then they show Chun Li. The crowds cheer...and I fucking started sobbing. Dunno wtf that's all about.

Is it because they have increased the muscle mass on her legs again?

But seriously, the Internet has raised a generation to feel desensitized, lonely and isolated.

 

[willsboy84]

Is it because they have increased the muscle mass on her legs again?

But seriously, the Internet has raised a generation to feel desensitized, lonely and isolated.

Well...it IS a bit disheartening, knowing I'll never rock thighs like that