Does your boyfriend have one night stand with others?

[jackkisser]

you see, i love this man very much, but even i found that he has slept with other men, i still love him very much....

so i am wondering how many of you have an open relationship...

ps:i dont do any one night stand, but now i am thinking if its an open relationship, why not have fun with others?

 

[Christopher123]

you see, i love this man very much, but even i found that he has slept with other men, i still love him very much....

so i am wondering how many of you have an open relationship...

ps:i dont do any one night stand, but now i am thinking if its an open relationship, why not have fun with others?

Well the first thing I'd be finding out is if your boyfriend uses condoms with these other men.

 

[jackkisser]

well...will u accept that if he uses the condoms

 

[Christopher123]

well...will u accept that if he uses the condoms

Well, I dunno, I mean to each his own, right? I'm not saying there's anything wrong with open relationships. They happen. And some people are cool with it.

I've never, to my knowledge, willingly participated in an open relationship. I'm a little picky about that. I'm a selfish bastard, I want my man to myself. I went to an old boyfriend's house once and found him in bed with a guy that was supposed to be my friend. I was NOT cool with that. I told him to fuck off and walked out. And that was that.

A few days later the two of them had the nerve to call me and ask me if I wanted to do a threesome.

That didn't fly with me either.

Have I been involved in a threesome? Yes. But neither guy was my boyfriend. And basically all we did was play with each other and suck each other off. To be blunt.

But as far as being cool with an actual partner - someone I love and care about - screwing other guys? Nah, I don't think I could do it.

 

[jackkisser]

i dont feel like that have that open relationship either...

so now, i can either dump my "slut" boyfriend, or accept it, which is quite dangerious for me...

man this is tough, especially when u love someone

 

[Christopher123]

i dont feel like that have that open relationship either...

so now, i can either dump my "slut" boyfriend, or accept it, which is quite dangerious for me...

man this is tough, especially when u love someone

Yes, it is. And the decision is totally yours.

But the thing you have to look at is how it makes YOU feel. Does knowing he's sleeping with other men make you feel insignificant? That's what you need to focus on. Sit back and really think about it. How do his actions make you feel about YOU? Not how you feel about HIM.

 

[jackkisser]

he always say that he loves me faithfully, and i am everything he needs...

and he said he wants this relationship to last and i should love him exclusively...

why is that

 

[eddielee]

An open relationship sounds like a bad idea. You said that you don't have one night stands, but your boyfriend does. Your understanding of what's acceptable differs from your boyfriends. That's a serious issue and a stumbling block to building a successful relationship. If he's willing to give up his running around, the relationship would have a better chance.

 

[Christopher123]

he always say that he loves me faithfully, and i am everything he needs...

If he's screwing other men, that's not being faithful, sweets.

Like I said, it's how YOU feel. About yourself. That's what's important.

If you're everything he needs, then he doesn't need those other guys.

 

[jackkisser]

the problem is that he doesnt know that i know he's messing around

 

[Christopher123]

the problem is that he doesnt know that i know he's messing around

Holy crap....

So he's messing around but telling you he loves you faithfully and you're everything he needs.

In my book that makes him a liar.

A big one.

Do you need that?

 

[jackkisser]

yeah...this relationship is really doomed...screw that liar

 

[Christopher123]

yeah...this relationship is really doomed...screw that liar

You're positive he's doing this, right? I mean, that might be a totally stupid question, but how did you find out he's sleeping with other guys?

 

[gabriel1]

he always say that he loves me faithfully, and i am everything he needs...

and he said he wants this relationship to last and i should love him exclusively...

why is that

he wants YOU exclusively, while he can play around? dump him.

 

[RicanDAB]

he always say that he loves me faithfully, and i am everything he needs...

and he said he wants this relationship to last and i should love him exclusively...

why is that

You're kidding right? Why the double standard? You're a fool if you put up with that.

 

[JASON0980]

i was engaged to a woman years ago. and she used to do the same thing to me. i knew about the other men. and she knew i knew. but she told me over and over that i was the only one she loved.

i wasn't enough for her, and it hurt my self-esteem. and no one is worth that. you will never be happy knowing that he is not being faithful.

and if he thinks you don't know, that is not an open relationship. that is cheating. you are better than that.

 

[Ninja108]

OPen relationships basically mean the person likes you but wants to fuck other people as well... not healthy at all. I would say move on

 

[ronboy]

I don't believe in open relationships for myself, but if it works for others, I will not condemn them.....

I don't cheat when I am in an exclusive relationship.

I expect the same of my partner.

I have been with the same man for 11 years. He chased me down to start this relationship, wouldn't take my refusals for an answer, and totally convinced me that he was all the man I wanted or needed. He was so right.... I want to grow old with my Dave, and I know he feels the same about me.

 

[Christopher123]

Problem solved.

Next...

Agreed.

Yep.

 

[TravisMT81]

Why is this dangerous for you? And I am with everyone else, NEXT!