"Don't Call Me 'Sweetie', Okay ?"

[gotdimples77]

I think he got to thinking he might be interested what with the good old days and all and wanted to work up to it but the sweetie thing pushed a little faster than he was willing to go. so my vote is homophobic but curious.

 

[pjlikesporn]

^ Where did 'dude' come from?

 

[unclaimedblessing]

I agree with gsdx.
You said things were "touchy" with him when you came out.
He might have regretted not being more accepting and that could have prompted the phone call.
Calling him Sweetie might have made him think you misinterpreted the reason for the call.
If you want to keep him in your life as a friend, call him back and explain that when you get calls at 3:00 AM you're always groggy and not a sparkling conversationalist.
If you really don't care about him, fuck him. Next time he calls drunk or at an inconsiderate time tell him you don't care to hear from him any more.

 

[buzzj]

When I was in college, we lived in two man rooms, four of which were on a hall or suite... so we all had roommates and sweeties!

 

[Croynan]

He reacted better than I would have, I hate being called sweetie

I totally agree with you. I resent the term and do not appreciate it being used when directed at moi.

I think it is a homosexual Cliché - that just Reinforces negative stereotypes of one homosexual towards another and or towards other persons - homosexual or not.

We often wonder why people have the reactions they do about homosexuals and the use of this word Wantonly is precisely one of the reasons - small that it may be.



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i am just a super sensitive local village idiot, so then again, what do I know?

 

[blooeyz]

don't worry about it honey
he's young, he'll adjust

 

[just_mills]

Why is it because he is straight, and didnt like it, that he must be a homophobe
(BTW, VERY valid point from GSDX, up above)..

I HATE being called "Sweetie" & "honey", and im a fag... so..er, yeah.

 

[lunarus]

Maybe he IS gay.

Ditto!

I usually just call everyone dear, and this is because I deal with my hubby's mother on a daily basis. And I usually talk to her in endearments and there have been times that I am dealing with others and I slip and call then dear. Most of them wouldn't freak out on me for it. They just smile because they know who I am and above all else I mean well and in no way is it a demeaning form of endearment or a come on.

And Josh anyone that called me up at 2 am would just have to live with what I said. Sweetie is so very different from "I think you are a big poofter!" or "Why don't you just shut up and let me fuck you because I know you want it!" I didn't read anywhere you said this to him.

I am nice to everyone until they act a fool, he, sorry to say acted a fool and in all fairness you were nice enough to deal with his drunken ramblings at 2 am. Don't ever apologize for being nice.

 

[mike0501]

Any o'you homos call me Francis, and I'll kill ya!

Haha...love that line. Anyways, I hate when people call me sweetie. Sometimes, someone on here that I don't know will IM me, I'll reply and the next thing I know, they're calling me sweetie....I don't really get offended by it, it's just that it's kind of weird to me, but that's just me. I'm a really nice guy and your buddy probably is too. He probably just isn't too crazy about another guy calling him sweetie and should have expressed that in a different tone. I wouldn't think too much about it.

 

[biravatch]

If he doesn't want to be called sweetie... don't call him sweetie...

what's the problem?

 

[RationalLunacy]

Perhaps he's diabetic.

 

[mike0501]

Perhaps he's diabetic.