Yeah, I know. I've been a member here for 2 years and only started to post today. Long story short, I've been at odds about my sexuality for quite some time. I've only recently accepted that I'm gay (I always thought I was bi as if that were somehow "less severe" even though I was always only attracted to men), but something has been eating at me for some time now. As a guy who is of smaller stature, I'm always in fear that I'll never be able to find a guy because of my height. I'm only like... 5'3" or so and I'm afraid to search for love because I'm afraid that no one is interested in shorter guys. Is this a completely ridiculous belief, or am I hitting the nail on the head? Maybe this is such a triviality, but I've dwelled on it for so long that I feel as though I've become entirely disillusioned by my insecurity.
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Doomed to be alone forever?!
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Hi ryuuaku and thanks for posting
I think we all look at ourselves and wish there was something we could change - tall, short, fat, thin, bad teeth... I could go on
Don't let your height hold you back. Lots of guys like men who are shorter than they are. Its only a problem if you allow it to be
Good luck to you
B
I think we all look at ourselves and wish there was something we could change - tall, short, fat, thin, bad teeth... I could go on
Don't let your height hold you back. Lots of guys like men who are shorter than they are. Its only a problem if you allow it to be
Good luck to you
B
nihilis
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You're 23? You have a looong way to go before you need to worry about being alone forever. However, if you believe you're going to be alone, then the belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Don't be so quick to lose hope, even when things look shitty.
I'm around a million pounds overweight, 30, and a closet case, but regardless of this, I know I'm not going to be alone forever, even if I get lonely now. Why? Because I know that there's someone out there for everyone. It may take time, but don't worry so much about it. I'm told that when you least expect it, love will come looking for you, and I highly doubt that being short is a turnoff to every single man on earth. I for one, wouldn't give a shit. Don't worry so much.
TNGayGolfer
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Man, trust me... the notion that guys won't be interested is ridiculous. Sure there are some guys out there that have another ideal type, but there are plenty who will find you attractive and even some who will become fixated on your height (stay away from those guys). Just be yourself, be comfortable in your own skin, and use the assets you have - whatever those are.
My boyfriend is 5'6" and I'm 5'11", and I find him to be especially attractive -and not because of or despite of his height - but because he's smart, sexy, funny, generous, and so much more.
Best wishes man - and remember, if you do face rejection based on your height - simply chalk it up to their loss. You're much more than just a height measurement.
SilverRRCloud
I'd rather be a Sexgod:)
You are dead wrong, frankly speaking. A lot of guys, including yours truly, are completely turned on by shorter dudes. I am not saying that a tall dude is a deal breaker in my books, but yeah, a short dude gets my attention first.
A guy who is nicely put together with a personality to boot is irresistible.
Some dudes will always only go for tall guys. The others are into black dudes only. Some are into twinks and no one else. That's all good and fine. To each one his own. That however, should never stop you or anyone else from being a happy and fulfilled person.
No one but no one is absolutely everybody's type. And everyone gets rejected ever so often. That comes with the territory and won't change anytime soon.
SC
A guy who is nicely put together with a personality to boot is irresistible.
Some dudes will always only go for tall guys. The others are into black dudes only. Some are into twinks and no one else. That's all good and fine. To each one his own. That however, should never stop you or anyone else from being a happy and fulfilled person.
No one but no one is absolutely everybody's type. And everyone gets rejected ever so often. That comes with the territory and won't change anytime soon.
SC
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ryuuaku: I know exactly how you feel. I'm about as tall (or should I say as short?) as you are. And sometimes I wonder if guys aren't interested because of it. Seems like every man out there is 6'+ and I'm guessing they wouldn't go after a runt like me...but the advice of the others is always encouraging and helpful. Glad to know there are others out there who like us shorties.
Oh well. I'm slowly getting over that insecurity. Now I just wish I didn't look like a 13 year old so I could actually get a date.
Oh well. I'm slowly getting over that insecurity. Now I just wish I didn't look like a 13 year old so I could actually get a date.
I met this cute guy tonight at the club that I went to. He was 24 years old, he was only 5' 3" and we danced from 10:30 until after 2. He was dancing on stage when I first saw him; he definately made eye contact and kept looking and smiling at me. I walked over and...well...we ended up at breakfast and tomorrow will go on a movie date....
So 5' 3" are attractive; he is sooo cute. I have dated one other guy that was about that size as well and had no problem except when we went to crowded spaces, he laughed and said he wished he were me because he got tired of looking into other guy's belly buttons!
So 5' 3" are attractive; he is sooo cute. I have dated one other guy that was about that size as well and had no problem except when we went to crowded spaces, he laughed and said he wished he were me because he got tired of looking into other guy's belly buttons!
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Hey Ryuuaku,
Welcome to the boards mate!!! Great to see you posting!!!
Do not be afraid to search for love...love is something that overcomes all things. Love is something that makes strength out of weaknesses. Love is so blind that no matter what faults you think you have, they will mean nothing to your partner.
I can tell you as a tall guy... and one who battled the reverse of your situation... standing out in crowds, feeling every set of eyes look at you because you stood out... that short guys have a sexiness that is unique to you. Theres something about the way short guys are built, the way they move...
But would that be what attracted me to you? No mate no. Its the way you talk, the way you smile, the way you think. Its how you treat others, the way you care, the way you love. Its about what you carry around inside and the way you fill the room when you walk in.
Dont let yourself get fixated on this Ryuuaku... short guys, tall guys, dark guys, white guys, Asian guys, European guys.... we all have characteristics... but thats not who we are. Those arent the things that help or hinder us in love.
They're not what people fall in love with. They fall in love with you.... all of you. Of that I'm sure.
Welcome to the boards mate!!! Great to see you posting!!!
Do not be afraid to search for love...love is something that overcomes all things. Love is something that makes strength out of weaknesses. Love is so blind that no matter what faults you think you have, they will mean nothing to your partner.
I can tell you as a tall guy... and one who battled the reverse of your situation... standing out in crowds, feeling every set of eyes look at you because you stood out... that short guys have a sexiness that is unique to you. Theres something about the way short guys are built, the way they move...
But would that be what attracted me to you? No mate no. Its the way you talk, the way you smile, the way you think. Its how you treat others, the way you care, the way you love. Its about what you carry around inside and the way you fill the room when you walk in.
Dont let yourself get fixated on this Ryuuaku... short guys, tall guys, dark guys, white guys, Asian guys, European guys.... we all have characteristics... but thats not who we are. Those arent the things that help or hinder us in love.
They're not what people fall in love with. They fall in love with you.... all of you. Of that I'm sure.
trawler69
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Some will go for tall guys, some will go for short guys but the ones that matter will not give a damn about height and will go for the person who inhabits the body. People of all heights, weights, and other physical attributes find partners and so will you.
G-Lexington
Lex. Icon. Devil.
Welcome to the posting side of JUB, ryu!
There tends to be a misconception, especially among the "newly gay", that the only people who are gonna ever get any are the tall, trim, muscular, beautiful, well-hung, rich, secure, funny, personable guys....and if you fall short (no pun intended) on any of those traits, you're destined to spend every Friday and Saturday night alone in front of the computer jacking off to porn.
Nope.
Keep your eyes open. Look at couples, gay and straight, everywhere you run into them. You'll see short folks, ugly folks, insecure folks, fat folks...all of whom have found somebody to fall in love with. It really is open to everybody.
Just keep your eyes, your mind, and your options open. It may be that there's a great guy out there for you who isn't tall, trim, muscular, beautiful, well-hung, rich, secure, funny or personable, either.
Lex
There tends to be a misconception, especially among the "newly gay", that the only people who are gonna ever get any are the tall, trim, muscular, beautiful, well-hung, rich, secure, funny, personable guys....and if you fall short (no pun intended) on any of those traits, you're destined to spend every Friday and Saturday night alone in front of the computer jacking off to porn.
Nope.
Keep your eyes open. Look at couples, gay and straight, everywhere you run into them. You'll see short folks, ugly folks, insecure folks, fat folks...all of whom have found somebody to fall in love with. It really is open to everybody.
Just keep your eyes, your mind, and your options open. It may be that there's a great guy out there for you who isn't tall, trim, muscular, beautiful, well-hung, rich, secure, funny or personable, either.
Lex
This whole height thing is so crazy!
I used to only look at guys shorter than me, after many years I no longer care about how tall (or short) a guy is, there's so much more to be concerned about.
Anyway, one of my long term BF's was 5'3" or so, but his personality made him seem so much taller that I don't think anyone ever noticed his height. Damn, if he were any larger, he couldn't be controlled at all!
I used to only look at guys shorter than me, after many years I no longer care about how tall (or short) a guy is, there's so much more to be concerned about.
Anyway, one of my long term BF's was 5'3" or so, but his personality made him seem so much taller that I don't think anyone ever noticed his height. Damn, if he were any larger, he couldn't be controlled at all!