Bittersweet One
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Hey guys I need some advice. I feel that what I want to do is okay, but I want other opinions.
I meet this guy while I was doing some volunteer work and he was pretty cool. It seemed like we were becoming friends and seemed interested in each other, but then the work ended and so I haven't seen him since. I learned that his real job is actually right across the street from where I work, so hanging with him wouldn't be too difficult.
My question is, do you guys think it's okay for me to e-mail him and ask if he'd like to hang some time? All of our info was put onto a contact sheet, so I have his e-mail and cell number but feel that it would be less creepy just sending an e-mail then randomly sending a text or calling.
Now I can give a little more background info, so my placing of this post in the Str8/Bi forum will make sense. I don't feel this is as important as my question above because I want to just become his friend and figure him out before anything else.
I don't know what was up with him. I can only assume he is straight, but he was acting really weird toward me. This girl that he had worked with before ended up at the same gig as us and he would go and talk about me with her. I was really quiet at first and just focused on the work and I guess he kept complaining to her about it. In fact she made it seem like he was always talking about me to her about whatever I was doing.
One time there were multiple conversations going on and I turned to her and said I was 'so confused', but I meant about what everyone was talking about, and she says 'Yeah, so's he' pointing at the guy. Then she made a whole bunch of allusions about him liking me, which he overheard and didn't deny. He just sat there smiling at me. I was talking to this other girl while that was happening and I was flirting with her a little and it seemed to be bothering him. He made a comment like 'she's too young for you.' or something. A little after that he kept trying to get me to pay attention to him rather then her. Then finally just gave up looking a little upset.
The only real problem I have is that when I would reciprocate anything I felt was flirting, he would shoot it down. So it was cool and I got it, but then he'd be flirty again. I was scared that if I said anything to him that dealt with gayness or whatever he might flip out, so I figured that just becoming his friend first would be the best to figure him out. Then one day I would tell him that I'm bi and see where it goes from there.
I meet this guy while I was doing some volunteer work and he was pretty cool. It seemed like we were becoming friends and seemed interested in each other, but then the work ended and so I haven't seen him since. I learned that his real job is actually right across the street from where I work, so hanging with him wouldn't be too difficult.
My question is, do you guys think it's okay for me to e-mail him and ask if he'd like to hang some time? All of our info was put onto a contact sheet, so I have his e-mail and cell number but feel that it would be less creepy just sending an e-mail then randomly sending a text or calling.
Now I can give a little more background info, so my placing of this post in the Str8/Bi forum will make sense. I don't feel this is as important as my question above because I want to just become his friend and figure him out before anything else.
I don't know what was up with him. I can only assume he is straight, but he was acting really weird toward me. This girl that he had worked with before ended up at the same gig as us and he would go and talk about me with her. I was really quiet at first and just focused on the work and I guess he kept complaining to her about it. In fact she made it seem like he was always talking about me to her about whatever I was doing.
One time there were multiple conversations going on and I turned to her and said I was 'so confused', but I meant about what everyone was talking about, and she says 'Yeah, so's he' pointing at the guy. Then she made a whole bunch of allusions about him liking me, which he overheard and didn't deny. He just sat there smiling at me. I was talking to this other girl while that was happening and I was flirting with her a little and it seemed to be bothering him. He made a comment like 'she's too young for you.' or something. A little after that he kept trying to get me to pay attention to him rather then her. Then finally just gave up looking a little upset.
The only real problem I have is that when I would reciprocate anything I felt was flirting, he would shoot it down. So it was cool and I got it, but then he'd be flirty again. I was scared that if I said anything to him that dealt with gayness or whatever he might flip out, so I figured that just becoming his friend first would be the best to figure him out. Then one day I would tell him that I'm bi and see where it goes from there.
