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Dream Come True: Fooled around with straight guy!

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Hey everyone! I've been a lurker for a short while and thought I'd share my latest news!!

So basically here is how it goes. I have a friend who is pretty close to me and is straight. He knows I'm gay as I've been out for a while. We are both 18, almost 19. He was dating a girl for close to two years. Last summer, he texted me randomly and said that he was curious about guys and how we have sex and stuff. I told him a couple details and he said that he was horny and should come over. We kissed and gave blowjobs, but he was the only one who came. Then he felt guilty because he had a girlfriend, and it sort of messed up our relationship. We were still friends just not as close and we never spoke of it.

A couple months later he pulls the same crap and being that incredibly hot person he is, I couldn't resist. I went over and this time we fucked too. It was AMAZING, he seriously is the most talented top ever. But he was way too tight, I couldn't fit inside him, so we jerked off. I was surprised that he was open to trying things like being fucked even though it didn't work out. Unfortunately he doesn't like kissing guys either... but still it was good and we became closer friends again. However, he still maintained his stance that he was straight but appreciated me allowing him to test his "curiosity."

Now we have been texting a lot this past week and finally he brought up he really wants a blowjob. Now he STILL says he is straight but I know he is at least bi, maybe gay. The great thing is that he and his girlfriend broke up. So I went over yesterday and had the best sex of my short sex life so far! He is enormous but once it is in I can't imagine anything else. He's incredibly ripped too, and while I'm not bad I just can't compare to a soccer player. :p It was great and the nice thing is that it wasn't awkward this time when we were done! We know we are friends but each of us doesn't want anything more than this so no one gets hurt. I just can't believe that is STILL says he is straight!

Anyways, sorry! I just had to share my success story with my "straight" friend because, well, it almost never happens! I just hope I don't fall for him really hard.... I'm sorta starting to see someone else and I'm confused what to do! My friend will never have a relationship but he is the perfect "friend with benefits..." so what do I do?

Thanks!
 
You grow the fuck up and stop playing around with this fantasy relationship you have with your friend. If you really want to see this guy, don't be a cheating whore, and commit to seeing him.
 
You figure out where the other guy your seeing is and decide if he's relationship material, if he's not, enjoy the "straight" soccer player. If he is, then you need to either dump him or stop fooling around with the soccer player. ;P
 
There's little chance that this has a real future. It's no different from straight guys who have the backup booty call. If they're single, horny and don't get lucky with another girl, they ring up the sure thing and have her come over for no-strings-attached sex. The booty call doesn't get dinner or any of the things that a girlfriend gets. They're lucky if they get to spend the night and maybe they'll get a Pop-Tart and a glass of orange juice in the morning before they're sent away.

If both parties are consenting adults and both parties understand that they're just using each other, then that's their choice.

Your friend may be going to through a little experimental phase. And he's not ready to put a label on that other than "curious". But plan on him being a BUG (bisexual until graduation) which means that this won't go any further than the occasional booty call and the calls will end once he has a steady girlfriend again.

But the dilemma- as you're discovering- is that feelings aren't always easy to keep out of it. And these fuck-buddy/snuggle-buddy arrangements can be an obstacle to finding a more well-rounded relationship.

Your friend has control of this situation at the moment because you're the sure thing. If you're happy with things as they are and you accept that you're just the backup booty call, then there's little reason to change anything. But if you're interested in something more substantial and something where you're an equal, then focus your energy elsewhere.
 
I can see a guy claiming straightness if it's just hand jobs and blow jobs (I don't believe it, but I can see it). However, once you get to fucking (top or bottom), he's clearly gay/bi.

Whether he admits it or not is another story.

He may want you or you may simply be practice for him and he'll go onto other guys. Or he may get married to a woman. It's impossible to say without knowing him.

But for reasons others have mentioned I don't see this working out well for you; I just see a broken heart developing.
 
The fact that your bi friend is pretending to be straight doesn't make much difference, unless maybe it turns you on like if he pretended to be a burglar or a trucker or some other kind of role-playing character.

Umm. But if you both just want to fool around once in a while, as long as he's single and you look out for each other's health, then enjoy.

BTW, occupying yourself with a "friend with benefits" will not help you build a relationship, if that's what you really want.
 
As long as you clearly understand that "It's just sex" and it will never be a real committed relationship, have a blast! Keep your options open, see other people and enjoy. If you begin to fall in love with this straight boy, it will break your heart so you need to look at him like YOUR side piece. Keep us updated.
 
As ye reap....so shall ye grow.

When lifetimes were considered good and log at 40 years, people had to start

that long term meaningful stuff at 16, 17, 18 even as elderly as 19 or 20.

The coffee is and has been on for a while kiddo. Smell it and savor some life

in 'all' the lanes. You are probably stuck on the planet for another 80 years or

so. True love can last that long but in this modern world you need to experience

the options. Would you buy a Ford just because that was the first dealership

wanting to make a deal?

Get out and live, learn......love will come in its own time and at its own pace.
 
Thanks for the advice guys. :)

I think I'm going to go for the new guy. It's nothing official yet but we've hung out even more recently and things are going really well. And let's face it - you're right. I mean I want a relationship and stuff but my friend isn't exactly that material. I don't want to risk falling for something I can't have, even though that isn't a problem yet it could potentially fall that way. Plus, if he isn't even mature enough to man up and accept that he's at least bi... well, I don't want to get into that.

Is sex different when you're in love? I feel like I'm just the horny young adult like everyone else. And falling in love seems hard and just... well, difficult at this point in time. Maybe when I'm done at the university things could work out that way... I just don't know. But I think I should give the new guy a chance. The worst comes to worst, nothing comes out of it except sex.

I haven't cheated or anything so don't worry about that! I'm sorry if it sounded that way though. Thanks for the help! :)
 
^ This is a good approach to take. Go for the guy who you know you can expect a meaningful relationship with. Your friend can be put on hold while you look for a more satisfying connection.

Still, it's hot you've had that with your friend. I hope he's able to recognize he's bi at some point in the future. At least it's not your problem. It's his. :)
 
You've gotten some good advice. I'll just add a little perspective from the social sciences:

Surveys consistently show that about half of men who have had sex with another man nevertheless consider themselves straight. Is this denial? I think it has more to do with the fact that sexual desires for both sexes are prevalent and natural, but our society stigmatizes bisexuality (maybe even more than homosexuality). For a lot of different reasons, most guys don't want to identify as bisexual.
 
Why does there necessarily HAVE to be a future, for those of you who are making these comments? If this comes with benefits and the guy is hot, then what is the problem, as long as the OP knows this?
 
:=D:#-o#-o:=D:

Thats what I said wizzy mystic one

but I told it so it might sound more fun

Not part of still another lecture done.
 
Smart ass remark opportunity averted.
 
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