Dude Mentality

[Ephemeral]

When guys are separate, they act like themselves. When put together, they seem to transform into a different person and adopt a 'dude' mentality, you know what I mean? They do things and say things that seem out-of-character for them. This has been puzzling me for a while now. I can never tell if this is another side of them or a complete façade to fit in with the guys. I've never seen this happen with girls. They may get chattier and more excitable, but their real personality's still there. Has anyone else ever noticed this phenomenon?

 

[bulge]

One guy is one guy. Two guys is groups dynamics multiplied by 100. Even when they aren't homophobe individually, together they will be homophobe multipled by 100. That's groups dynamics and it works extraordinarily strongly among guys cause guys badly beg for each other's recognisation 100% of the time. That 's male hysteria.

 

[fetaby]

First rule of fight club is never talk about fight club....

 

[BRIOHAZARD]

OMG, I know exactly what you are talking about.

It's SO annoying.



And they always tell gay/homophobic jokes, I guess to make them look "manlier"?
But it just makes them look like idiots.

Especially the closeted bi-curious guys. I just want to out them in front of everyone and say "Funny, you seemed to enjoy sucking my dick A LOT last night, what's changed?"

 

[Purplebic]

One of my ex's would act completely different every time i took him out for an airing. It got to the point where i didn't like to go anywhere public with him because i simply didn't recognize him and he was ten times more obnoxious.

 

[boxerdudeuk]

tons of gay men act different in their day to day/one on one lives than they do surrounded by other gay men.

i don't think it's a "dude" thing. i think it's a guy thing or a human thing.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

When guys are separate, they act like themselves. When put together, they seem to transform into a different person and adopt a 'dude' mentality, you know what I mean? They do things and say things that seem out-of-character for them. This has been puzzling me for a while now. I can never tell if this is another side of them or a complete façade to fit in with the guys. I've never seen this happen with girls. They may get chattier and more excitable, but their real personality's still there. Has anyone else ever noticed this phenomenon?

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[Críostóir]

A group of guys goes by the mob formula: the intelligence of the group is the intelligence of the dumbest guy in the group divided by the number of guys in the group.

Also, guys can be real when they're one-on-one with you, but when their other friends are around they'll constantly be watching their status, which makes them act stupider than they really are.

 

[saymyname]

I don't know, I've seen gay men do this too. My ex would start to act way cattier if he were around his friends.

 

[BearBoi]

A group of guys goes by the mob formula: the intelligence of the group is the intelligence of the dumbest guy in the group divided by the number of guys in the group.

I think examples like this one must be speaking of a specific class of ‘guys’, because when I've hung out with male friends (many of them straight, some married) we act like ourselves and enjoy stimulating conversation and intellectual debate.

While in University I’d often attend chamber music recitals with a group of male friends, most straight, and we were perfectly civil and decent.

I think it is a stereotype that all men turn into grunting pigs when gathered together. Maybe some do, but they are hardly a rule.

I think it would be more fair to suggest that people, in general, have ‘social’ masks and ‘private’ masks.