No self respecting genuine transsexual wants to draw attention to themselves. They just want to be left alone to live their authentic lives.
I'm not so convinced.
And it's not just trans people.
Methinks we are too sold on gay theory that would make all gay men caused by the same thing, be it genes, parenting, or in utero environment.
From entirely personal observation, there seems to be at least socially more than one kind of gay psychology. Although all seem to be attracted to other men, there is definitely a stripe or strain that seems to express it as a type of rebellion, whether as feminine or just rejection of binary thinking and types.
There is a co-worker at my site, a young man who is about 30. He has progressively become a different person over the last two years. He is married, has two small sons in early elementary school, and is a financial analyst doing the same job I do.
He self-announced 2-3 years ago that he is non-binary, and made some kind of pronoun statement in his work group. Since then, he has begun dressing in feminine ways that do not include dresses, but do include sexualized attire, such as a bare shoulder with an off-shoulder one-sided sweater over some tank or something.
He has painted his nails an array of colors and designs, begun adding eyeliner with Egyptian exaggerated outer eyelash lines and jewelry that is feminine.
All through his changes, I have simply talked to him as I have always done, dropping by with humor, gossip, and whatever, but never commenting on his appearance, just as he has never commented on his identity.
I will say that things like the off-shoulder attire in an office appear to be intentionally and aggressively disruptive. A woman is not allowed to be bare shouldered in this company either, so bending it for him/her isn't ok.
Not sure if he's hoping to get fired, or get fired and sue, or simply act out against binary dominance, but it doesn't come across as simply being non-conforming.
