Ejaculation and age

[mustangman]

I hope this is the right forum to post this question so here goes...
I know that ones libido goes down as one gets older but is it unrealistic to expect to be able to masterbate and to cum every day at 49 years of age? I have a hard time doing it after just 2 days and want to make sure that there is not something else wrong that I need to be concerned about? I am in generally good shape, not over weight etc...
Any advice will be appreciated...

 

[runner]

Yes, a guy 49 should be able to masterbate and cum every day.

 

[Lawnmowerman]

I don't believe any of us here are doctors but everyone's body and libido is different. I know there are physical changes that take place and in general the sex drive will drop off a bit as you age.

Have you noticed a big change? Did you normally masturbate much more than once or twice a day until say the last few years or year ago? If there was a drastic change, you may want to speak with a doctor. If it slowly dropped off as the years went by, that may just be normal, for you.

Right now, I know what is "normal" for myself, so I would definitely notice a change.

 

[Corny]

Hey there, I moved this thread to the Health and Wellbeing Forum where more people from the medical field might read it.

 

[thisisinteresting]

Totally natural if you ask me. My partner is your age and I'm sure if he really wanted to he could masturbate every day, but it would be a chore. I think it would be nice to not have to think about masturbating all the time, personally. Don't worry about it.

 

[KaraBulut]

You should be worried only if this is a significant change in your usual pattern.

Libido does decrease with age. But you should still be able to get hard, masturbate and ejaculate when you want to, assuming that this was your usual pattern in the past.

If this is a change for you, you may want to schedule a physical with your physician.

 

[thewiz]

There are many things that can affect the sexual drive. Extreme stress, lack of sleep, diet .... all have affects on the male sex drive as does exercise (or lack thereof).

I'm 52 and, since my partner is 27...we have sex a couple times a day....but there were times in my "coming out" when I wasn't that horny and didn't masturbate or do anything.....

 

[fingers]

Certain medications can also decrease your sex drive.

 

[mustangman]

There are many things that can affect the sexual drive. Extreme stress, lack of sleep, diet .... all have affects on the male sex drive as does exercise (or lack thereof).

I'm 52 and, since my partner is 27...we have sex a couple times a day....but there were times in my "coming out" when I wasn't that horny and didn't masturbate or do anything.....

WOW, what an age difference.... How did you get to be so lucky? Seriously though. I don't think this would have been an issue other than I am vacationing at a gay resort and all the other younger guys seem to have so much more staminer than I do. I was taking paxil but have cut that down and want to be proactive with my overall health. I agree that excercise is good (which I will be doing more of) as well as stress, which I can not do anything about.... I just wish I could turn back the hand of time...

 

[asian87]

Don't worry about it. I'm young but I don't masturbate every day. I have a low to average libido but sometimes it won't get hard. I even failed to get hard several times when I was with my man.

I don't let it bother me.

 

[radioian]

My partner doesnt get a hard on for days, and has a low sex drive. Hes 45 now, and has always been like this the 10 years we have been together. I used to fuck him and that would get him going, but its been rare for him to want sex through his drive. I wouldnt worry about it, Im 43 now, and I find I sometimes want to wank every day, or sometimes every 3 or 4 days.

 

[TomahawkEagle]

I've stated to wind back on the wanking since I was 24. Used to wank more often when I was younger.

Nowadays, I try to make wanking a once a fortnight thing.

 

[Nelson]

Some of the SSRIs can decrease your libido, some even makes it difficult to cum (retarded ejaculation). How long have you taken Paxil and have you noticed any change in your libido since starting? Some of the sexual sideeffects go away after some months of taken it. Depression in itself often decreases your libido.

Check your testosterone-level at the doctor too if you go - if it is low - or you still feel your libido is lower than desired - you can try a testosterone patch.

Another option may be Cialis or Viagra ...

 

[mustangman]

Some of the SSRIs can decrease your libido, some even makes it difficult to cum (retarded ejaculation). How long have you taken Paxil and have you noticed any change in your libido since starting? Some of the sexual sideeffects go away after some months of taken it. Depression in itself often decreases your libido.

Check your testosterone-level at the doctor too if you go - if it is low - or you still feel your libido is lower than desired - you can try a testosterone patch.

Another option may be Cialis or Viagra ...

I am now off paxil but on lunesta. WOW, talk about killing any libido I had. Can't even get an erection, let alone cum.

 

[Nelson]

The effects and sideeffects of Paxil will wear of soon af discontinued use.

Did you get paxil to treat anxiety caused by stress? Or depression? (You can answer in comments if you prefer). Since you get Lunesta now (a prescr. sleep med.) I presume you suffer from insomnia. The stress you mentioned is worth looking into! Try to find ways to cope with stressors better! Severe stressors can cause decreased libido (While in other men it will increase their libido - because sex can relieve stress ). You need to look into ways to manage and cope with stressors that works for you - regular exercise is important - so is rest and good sleep!

Since it seems Paxil did cause your decreased libido - and you are off that now I would wait and see if your libido do not return to YOUR normal level again. Comparing yourself to younger guys or even other men is not going to do you any good since we are all different. If your libido doesn´t increase to normal again you need to go see your doctor. You may benefit from using viagra or cialis if you would like to perform - just remember that these meds have sideeffects too - and it is better to do something about the root causes. Men are not machines that have to be able to perform all the time. I hope you will become better soon.

 

[Bastille714]

I was in your position at about your age - low labido. Although married and sexually active, I masturbated daily. Then things went downhill. It was just sex drive, it was energy too. I went to my doctor and asked him to check my various hormone levels. When the labs came back, I found out that my testosterone level was abnormally low - hypogonadism. I have been on testosterone supplement now for almost ten years and it changed my life. Probably saved my marriage in addition. I have to see the doctor every 6 months to check levels, PSA and liver functions. A small price to pay. Some things to also consider - Low labido, if recent onset, can be caused by medications, depression, stress, pituitary gland issues, diabetes, high blood pressure, etc. One thing I was asked more than once was whether I had nighttime erections or erections on awakening. I presume this was to see if it was physical (mechanical). See a doctor, be frank and good luck. Human sexuality is a gift from God. Don't waste the gift by ignoring your symptoms. It may be normal for you, but if not, a little TLC may work miracles.