Eldergay

[umjreon88]

First time I heard it made me LMAO so hard!

Well, how about Elderflower? does it make it less offensive?

 

[G-Lexington]

^ Seems to sum it up quite nicely.

I don't have a problem with 'eldergay' as long as the OP doesn't have an issue with 'kindergay' or 'babygay' to describe anyone under the age of 20. I have noticed, however, that the OP never uses it in that fun, light-hearted way that he would like to imply. It is always used as a pejorative.

Then again, I've seen it used in cases where a pejorative seemed more than a little apropos.

Cupidboy, and everybody, feel free to use "eldergay", and everybody can take it precisely as they choose to. As they say, "your reaction says more about you than it does about the term".

Lex

 

[Essex Boy]

I like the term because I've never heard it before and it makes me laugh (inwardly). I don't like 'daddy' because that's what a little boy calls his father. I'm old enough to be a parent but if I had a relationship with a younger man I wouldn't cast him in the role of a son. 'Sugardaddy' to me has a jocular or slightly cynical air about it. It suggests a relationship based on mutual exploitation--one wants sex with a twink, the other wants money to go out on the razzle and the use of the car.

The terms eldergay, twink and daddy are just marketing categories, like 'jazz funk' or 'easy listening': they make it easier for the customers to narrow their search.

 

[aaggii]

I´ve never heard the term before. I guess that it´s just a term you use to describe some people, but it (definitely) doesn´t define someone, just like twink, daddy, bear etc.

Besides, if you can take a dick up your ass with a smile on your face but have a bitch fit about a label, you need to man the fuck up.

 

[TX-Beau]

Daddy, Sugardaddy (which I do think has some negative unless he's buying me a Maserati) are role descriptive, it's possible to be 30 and a Sugardaddy since that's really describing money and what it buys.

Eldergay. Not so much. The primary descriptor of that word is about old age. I've never heard it used except to reference "over the hill" out of touch, ancient, etc. either jokingly or pejoratively.

I defy any of you to go on Gridr and find an profile that advertises "eldergay," you won't find it.

 

[TX-Beau]

Then again, I've seen it used in cases where a pejorative seemed more than a little apropos.

Cupidboy, and everybody, feel free to use "eldergay", and everybody can take it precisely as they choose to. As they say, "your reaction says more about you than it does about the term".

Lex

Your "reaction" says NOTHING about THEIR intent. If you called me a faggot I'm not going to care, that isn't the case in all contexts - what that says about me is that I don't like to be insulted. It doesn't make me oversensitive.

 

[palbert]

.... a pejorative form or word, as poetaster. ...

Inquiring minds want to know.

Poetaster = a person who writes inferior poetry.

 

[blublud]

I actually AM an elder gay person. It makes me quite proud to be recognized with a special status.

 

[G-Lexington]

Your "reaction" says NOTHING about THEIR intent. If you called me a faggot I'm not going to care, that isn't the case in all contexts - what that says about me is that I don't like to be insulted. It doesn't make me oversensitive.

I doubt many people like to be insulted, and because of that, I tend not to respond directly to anything that was even blatantly meant as an insult. I trust the outside observers to come to their own conclusions about the term, insulting or not. If Cupidboy (or anybody) wishes to refer to me as the "ugly bitter pseudo-intellectual gargoyle", I don't see much point in arguing the term.

Lex

 

[Essex Boy]

"I don't go along with all this talk of a generation gap. We're all contemporaries, anyone walking this earth at this moment. There's a certain difference in memories, that's all. We're all contemporaries, facing contemporary problems."

-- W H Auden, interviewed in 1970 at the age of 63. Auden liked younger men and looked like a prune. Where there's life there's hope.

"The nightingales are sobbing in
The orchards of our mothers,
And hearts that we broke long ago
Have long been breaking others;
Tears are round, the sea is deep:
Roll them overboard and sleep."

 

[eastofeden]

I actually like to be insulted by some people...it lets me know I am doing something right. I would worry if some people liked me...like some of the little 'mean girls' that used to come into the bar with their catty bullshit and bleached hair. The ones who thought everything they did was 'cute' (BARF) I enjoyed their insults....I was really uncomfortable when one of them wanted to bond. I would try to belch or fart or scratch my balls so they would think it was their idea...not mine... to get away from me.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

1 day human apes learn hows a speack if no silence da day

thankyou

 

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