Embarassing question about size

[Anders123]

I would never, EVER, reject anyone because of the size of their penis. Such a thing could absolutely shatter the confidence of even the most cocksure (pardon the pun ) men.

Personally, size isn't an issue for me, unless I was hooking up with a ridiculous size queen that doesn't 'do' anything under 8 inches, which is a position I wouldn't put myself in anyway.

 

[stoney]

Thank you all for your replies. I hope some more people answer to this.
The reason why I ask this is because all through my teenage years I was really selfconscious about my size, and I believe that made me shy about having sex. As I grew older and realised I was quite average, size became a non issue. But I was recently with a guy who had a very small penis. I was not very confortable bringing his size up in conversation with him but I imagine that in this world where everywhere you go you hear "bigger is better", it must be awful to be small. Specially so small.

Please, keep the stories coming!

Cheers!

Woah! Been a long time since I've been on JUB.

I think alot of guys go through a stage of really quite extreme insecurity about their penis size. I know I did, and only now that I've actually slept with people have I realised that it doesn't really matter, but also that I'm above average. I mean it's not like I didn't measure, but still, you need to see some cocks to actually get an idea

So no I've never been turned down, and I don't think I would turn someone down because of their size.

I mean, if it's a one night stand then it's just one night and doesn't really matter. You're in it for the sex, and if it's not the best thing in the world then it's far from the end of the world.

If it's in a relationship, I think you just end up adapting to how each of you want to be sexing each other, and how your personalities fit together. That's what happened with me and my boyfriend, I ended up topping almost the whole time, which is not what I fantasised as a teenager

Besides all of this, I'd hope I have the empathy to not be a complete tosser to someone about something they might be really insecure about. Not worth it

 

[bankside]

No. I can't imagine how that would happen because penis size was not a criteria. <soap box>I'm a bit tired of saying I have limited experience, because I don't. It's just that my experience is almost entirely with one guy, but there's nothing limited about it. </soap> Anyway the thing is, in my non-limited experience the only erect penises I've seen in person are all larger than average.

On one hand, it was never something I was hunting for. On the other hand, I love what I can do with my guy. I love the sensations of his size. Size has never been an issue. Maybe a delightful challenge, but never an issue. And I don't know what it would be like with a smaller-penised man. I don't know if sex would be different. I suppose it would be, but I don't know if it would be lacking. I wouldn't have anticipated problems.

I totally agree with what Corny says about self confidence however. If I'm happy to enjoy your body the way it is, and you dare to question me with your lack of self confidence, it would be a complete turn off.

 

[2untru]

relationship: if i like you enough to call u a bf then it doesn't matter.
sex: if it's less than 6inches then i consider you a bttm. that is unless you can dominate me, then i'll submit. for me it's all about the "who's dick is bigger" game, loser bottoms (not a fun game to play if you're a sore loser).

but if i have a strong attraction to the guy or if he is a new gay (bicurious) then it's whatever. But i wouldn't turn a guy away for what he was born with, just bend him over.

 

[billybob109]

Of course it matter do you want some little dick penetrating you and you not being able to get off? Especially i think it is harder for two men to fuck unless both are very skinny.

 

[chadinlou]

Of course it matter do you want some little dick penetrating you and you not being able to get off? Especially i think it is harder for two men to fuck unless both are very skinny.

Yeah, actually, I do. The hottest sex I've ever had was with a guy who was 4" hard...and I'm a total bottom. I'd get with that again in an instant.

Everyone is different, I know. But there are those of us out there who have a preference for small guys and find them way hotter than the alternative.

 

[Atzesp]

I once went out with a guy who got... I wouldn't say turned off, but mostly ashamed of his cock. I have one pretty huge , and the moment he saw it he was like embarrassed of his. During almost our entire first date, he spent the night with a hand in front of his cock...

I confess I thought that kind of disappointing - I don't get interested in guys only by their cocks or asses, I always take up on the whole. But he was a really nice guy, had recently got divorced, and was taking the first steps on the gay side. I just sat and talked to him about the whole thing. He blushed completely (LOL), but ended up agreeing with me. But also asked me to give him some time.

I went out with him many other times... It took us about 4 or 5 dates more, but I remember that suddenly, one day, we started kissing and then HE took his boner out of his clothes and, moreover, took my hand there, saying "look what you do to me".

Don't know... I think that even small cocks have their charm.

 

[sweetcar]

I can relate to what you are saying; and I probably worried about it and I've been insecure about it...It has NEVER turned out to be an issue though....My dick isn't really big...I would guess it's probably about average size though. I've never really bothered to measure, but to venture a guess (probably pretty close) is that it's 6" hard. I've seen lots of guys on internet sites that are A LOT bigger!

I've actually got a black boy friend. His dick IS bigger than mine; but it's nothing outstanding or anything. We've NEVER measured or compared sizes, and basically it is a NON-ISSUE. He likes my dick and even thinks its "big". That's all that matters.

I've seen, known and heard about guys with really big dicks, over 10", and it is NOT necessarily a good thing....It can be awkward, uncomfortable and hard to deal with...One lady (her boyfriend had a big one) said it Wasn't that great...he could never get it completly hard...

 

[Atzesp]

It's like it has already been said many times... It doesn't matter if it's big or small; What really matters is if you know how to use it properly.

Besides that, on the internet everybody has monstrous cocks, thicker than a bottle of water... Bullshit.
If people worried less about size - whether small or big - and paid more attention to doing things right, the world would be a better place.

 

[landers]

No. I have turned people down (for hookups) because their skill was lacking, and it had no relation to the size of their dick.

 

[toogood4u2have]

I'm about 6.5 and my girth is skinny to me but my ex said it was one of the thickest he'd touched but I'm still self conscious about it :/. I actually prefer guys my size and smaller because I'm a virgin. And also I'm not big on that kind of pain. I tried using to fingers once and it was not happening. If a guy is too big I may turn him down like 8 and above. Though I may do oral with him. Another thing that kills me is women and men who see a guy soft and think he's small. Growers and Showers people... That irritates me so much.

 

[NewUser2424]

I mostly lurk over at the porn area but saw this thread and felt like posting a reply. I rarely browse the "relationships" forum anymore because I have a tiny 4.5 inch penis and the humiliation I feel from this on a daily basis has gradually made it impossible to hook up with guys anymore or even entertain the idea of a relationship. Those of you avg or above avg have NO idea what it's like to be small, and I probably wouldn't either if I weren't small. You can't imagine the lonely prison your life becomes when having a rewarding sex life--and the human companionship it forms such an integral part of--becomes a remote, unlikely prospect.

Even with someone I really cared for (and who cared for me) I can't enjoy sex or the sexual aspect of the relationship knowing that I'm inadequate in that one, inescapably important area--that there's something missing, something not fully satisfying, and that sooner or later my partner will realize this, too (maybe some have, but wouldn't tell me). This is to say nothing of the embarassment of having to put yourself out there each time you get with someone new, and likely being seen as either (1) a joke, (2) a pathetic charity case, or (3) some weird, one-time "try anything once" kind of situation.

And the truth is: I don't blame guys for their preferences, because sex is sex and everyone has their own taste. I blame genetics, which endowed me with the one flaw you can't correct: you can lose weight, cultivate your personality achieve success, but you can't change your dick. I graduated at the top of an ivy league school, speak three languages, have a career in a field I'm passionate about, and I would trade everything I have, in an instant, for a normal penis. Indeed, I was stupid to think anything mattered in the first place when you don't have a normal penis, because it just doesn't.

These days I can't even watch TV anymore because the happy couples I see remind me of what I can never have. I feel like I'm watching life behind a glass ("look, don't touch"), and some days I wonder if I haven't already died and gone to hell. I'll find out soon enough, probably by year's end, when I work up the nerve to kill myself. I can't face a life without romantic love, having someone to wake up next to in 40 years, who's as crazy about me as I am him, knows me as intimately as I do him. I can imagine someone reading this and saying I should seek psychiatric help: well, I've been on antidepressents for two years; drugs can only change your mood, but not your beliefs; cognitive therapy only works if you can change your premises and accept new ones, but when it comes to having a (very) small penis, there's no escaping the awful truth, no matter how much you try to rationalize things or look on the bright side.

I would bet a lot of money that a large percent of annual suicides in this country are from men living with this curse. Some researcher somewhere should look into it; it would make an interesting study. I'd volunteer.

 

[Corny]

I think you might need to talk to a professional about it. It seems you already visited a doctor, but I am not sure if you spoke with him/her about this specific topic. It seems you and your view of your self, your self-esteem are more of a problem than your penis.
My first bf was very close to your length and we never had a problem. After we separated he "fucked around" quite a bit, so it seems it wasn't that much of a problem for his hookups either.
Have a look at my post #9 and what others said. Many people are turned off by an attitude like that. Much more than people who are turned off by a smaller penis

 

[castoono]

I always look at the man standing behind the erected cock. Size matter in place 999 out of 1000

 

[Prestobesto]

I agree with whoever said that the real turn-off is the guy who focuses on his penis size, feels insecure, can't get off. Confidence is the sexiest body part.

 

[mark1111]

I had a guy that didn't let me fuck him. I think his ass was virgin. Oh well. I had a bf that was smallish, I won't say the size. He was wonderful and loving and had a great ass! Wouldn't let me play with his cock much, think he was insecure. I moved away and miss him much.

Long story, size doesn't matter, the person does!

 

[toshiba114]

i dont like too big though , small is fine

 

[smoothoralbottom]

I've never been turned down by a male or female. But I have turned down a guy because it was too small. I know what I want and it has to be bigger than 7". Just happens to be my preference. Sue me.

 

[TX-Beau]

There are certainly size queens out there - whatever floats your boat, but for me, I'm not wildly enthused by trying to swallow 10x6 and you're defiantly not going to try fucking me with it.

Small, I have no problem with, poor personal hygiene however...

 

[marcag89]

So what does everyone think about the girth? Many say they arent concerned about the length so much and that girth is more important. What exactly is the average penis girth? Comments, thoughts?