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Emergency Advise Help Me!

What should i do?

  • Give him a chance?

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Give him the boot?

    Votes: 27 100.0%
  • Total voters
    27
luckyass69

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I really need some help in deciding what i should do about a bad guy!
We have History it was a very confusing friendship/relationship.
He was very abusive Mentally and Fiscally.
He humiliated me, spread rumors about me, and hurt me.
He would say that he never wanted to see me but then call me two days later as if nothing!

He would call me a wale fat ass because i was a bit more toned then him.
He would get angry if someone payed attention to me.
I think he liked me or he just wanted me to be miserable?
I broke it off once and for all and now he reemerged and is trying to build a bond.
But still, He was arrogant really pretentious and rude.
And every time I chat with him it turns Ugly. but last night it was OK.
He finally admitted that me and him had relations but never brought up any emotions.
He just said " You where pretty good to fuck with I enjoyed myself".
And every time he taught about me he would think about our kinky moments.
I don't know if I should be Flattered or Insulted?

We had a difficult friendship But I gave him permission for him to treat me that way. But I Loved him and cared for him.
Should i give him another chance to see if he changed.
Or avoid him and not permit him to play with my emotions again.](*,)
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Uh, this is easy, sweetheart. Don't you think you deserve someone who can sex you up just as well AND won't ever treat you like crap?

He only keeps you on a leash because he likes to have sex with you and mess with you.

Drop him. Drop him now!
 
Luckyass69. This planet Earth is full of amazing and wonderful things for you. Why be stuck with somebody who in the end doesn't really care for you and has to put you down to make himself feel good? So to answer your question. There's the door buddy....don't let it hit you in the ass on the way out! There's plenty of more fish in the sea. Find your catch and through this one back!

okay! :)


hope this helps!
 
"...but last night it was OK.
He finally admitted that me and him had relations but never brought up any emotions.
He just said " You where pretty good to fuck with I enjoyed myself".
And every time he taught about me he would think about our kinky moments."

To recap - he says that he was emotionally detached from the relationship and he enjoyed himself fucking with you, it was only the sex that interested him - when you factor in the examples of his past behaviour is this really your definition of an OK relationship? he seems completetly selfish and egocentric.

By and large people are incapable of changing - what you see is what you get. When change does take place it's only because the person is highly motivated to do the hard work to change themselves. The work is hard because it usually means constant vigilance and changing the way you think. You can't change some-one else, they can only do it for themselves.

From what you relay of last night's conversation I see no evidence that he has changed his thinking or behaviour of that he is motivated to change.
 
Luckyass.....
Friend, you already know the correct answer to the question you posed.... Leave the guy and move on. Life is too short to mess with someone that doesn't love you totally and completely for who you are my friend.......

There are about a million guys out in this world that would probably give their right nut to be with you man.... you've just got to find that person. Shouldn't be too hard, just do it.

Take care and best to you friend. (*8*)
 
I ask because it's nice to hear other people.
and if anyone has been trow some thing smiler.

The word ASS HOLE Lit across my head when he said that.
so thats where i put my guard up!
That would be something to what he would always say.
He swore that he knew Psychology to the tea!
Basically he knew how to manipulate people...
He would brag about revers psychology shit.

i completely left out how he stole from me.
he always wanted me to buy him food and give him money.
I would let him Barrow my things he would never give them back.
Then i let him come over my house he stole my DVDs and a chain.
this chain meant the world to me i got it in a Madonna care package she sent.
I caught him in the middle of the act.
i was like dude just ask that why at least i know what happen to them and turn my room upside down.
i went to the bathroom and i herd my drawers open and i went back he was looking trow my things!
i was like what are you looking to take now!
he got angry and did a number on my DKNY sheets from Bloomingdales's.
he called it quits and then called me.
a few months later I'm at his house and i find my Chain so i put it on
and i could see it bothered him he got so angry that he ditched me at a club!

one time in Barnes and noble
i went to look for a book and when we left the store he said let me see your bag and pulled out a book he stole!

then thats where i came to the conclusion this ass hole is only using me for money and sex
 
Thank you all for the encouraging words.
It's easy for some one to have there way when your depressed.
And I'm still feeling a bit under the weather.
 
I'll go one step farther here. Not only should you get rid of this guy immediately and never look back, but you better make sure you have your eyes completely open in every other relationship you have in the near future. Just as he most likely has a pattern of being a complete prick to whoever dates him, I'm betting you're headed for a pattern of continuing to date guys just like him if you're not careful. If you don't care enough about yourself to treat you with respect, it's a given that you're going to be drawn to men who won't do so either.

So, to recap...dump him, and then make sure not to date him over and over again in the new men who come into your life. Good luck. I fear you're going to need it.
 
Ohhh attitude damn!

The emergency is he wants to meet up on the week end!
his coming from Florida?
and i need to get my head straight.
If i wanna go trow that shit all over again.
Or give him a chance?
I'm sorry i always take full responsibility for all of my actions.
there is no fucking crime in asking other peoples opinions and advise.
Because I'm gonna guess there are people Older and wiser and know more.
and have been trow it all already!
so your pretentious commentary is not needed I'm sorry don't mean to offend you but.
That really was nasty and unnecessary? and found to be presumptuous and rude.
 
Killjoke said:
I'll go one step farther here. Not only should you get rid of this guy immediately and never look back, but you better make sure you have your eyes completely open in every other relationship you have in the near future. Just as he most likely has a pattern of being a complete prick to whoever dates him, I'm betting you're headed for a pattern of continuing to date guys just like him if you're not careful. If you don't care enough about yourself to treat you with respect, it's a given that you're going to be drawn to men who won't do so either.

So, to recap...dump him, and then make sure not to date him over and over again in the new men who come into your life. Good luck. I fear you're going to need it.
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Thank you. cuz the Other guy i just dumbed after a month of
"GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER"
was a prick he was to dominant and when he grabbed me
by the arms cuz i said something cheeky
I Said OK buddy you have to get going bye!

And I'm just constantly bombarded by assholes!](*,)
 
He might have redemed himself from being an asshole, but for no fucking reason, should you have a relationship with him!!! Let him live his own life with his own new friends, he hurt you now he has to deal with the consequences. Don't let him back into your life.

People need to learn (both you and him) that actions have consequences. A few pretty words do not erase these consequences.

So give him the fucking boot. Also take pride in doing so, take pride for taking out the trash and thus living in a far cleaner and nicer enviorment :D
 
luckyass69 said:
Thank you. cuz the Other guy i just dumbed after a month of
"GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER"
was a prick he was to dominant and when he grabbed me
by the arms cuz i said something cheeky
I Said OK buddy you have to get going bye!

And I'm just constantly bombarded by assholes!](*,)
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Darlin', that's just what I'm talking about. You're probably not just bombarded by assholes...you're probably DRAWN to them. The expression "creatures of habit" is very real for most of us. We have a tendency to live out patterns of behavior. If you've dated two abusive guys who treated you like shit, then you're well on your way to establishing pattern behavior. My advice would be to slow down, figure out what it is that drives you to these guys, get to know the next person over a long period of time before getting serious about him, and at the first sign of any kind of abuse, you not only tell him you're not going to stand for it, but then leave and prove you won't.

Bottom line is this...if a man's first instinct in any stressful situation is to react cruelly, aggressively and/or abusively, then that's going to always be his pattern. Make sure your pattern isn't letting him.
 
I say tell him to F*** Off. Even if you had kinky moments, whatever you did in the bedroom (or kitchen or dungeon) should have stayed there unless you gave him permission to bring it from there, which I'm guessin' you didn't. Kick the bitch to the curb.
 
Ewwwwwwww
I am sitting here imagining that you ultimately go against all this good advice to drop this shit heel and set yourself up for another round of abuse, only this time worse.

Run like hell away from this guy. Keep his picture and his profile posted or in your wallet and use it to remind yourself of what not to want in a guy. Stay away from psychos like him. I agree with killjoke.
 
I say run as far away as you can get from him..................................and find someone you can confide in and sit down with them and talk...........I repeat "and talk when" things get "out-of-control" for you........trust me there are plenty of non-judgemental counseling services available (I have used them)
 
Don't see him this weekend.

He has not changed.

People who deceive and steal from people they say they care about are untrustworthy. They will hurt you again and again as long as you let them. Don't let them in your life. Even if you love them.
 
I have to agree with everyone here. This guy is bad news for you, and thankfully you know that on some level. You don't need us to tell you the obvious--just believe in yourself and what you know is right for you. Your instincts are telling you to tell him to Fuck Off, and that's exactly right. Follow your gut.

Good luck to you. Find someone who loves you, and gives you the love and respect you deserve. It'll do wonders for your self-esteem!
(*8*)
 
I am glad to see the poll is unanimous so far and may it forever be.

In my life, when I consider someone as dead, they remain so. Someone like this needs the same treatment.

Sorry for the harshness, but you neet to know that you deserve better people in your life than this.
 
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