Emotional Attachments to a Straight Guy

[lifegboi001]

I completely agree with everything people have said thus far. Any true friend that cares about you will have no problem giving you what you need no matter what the consequences. Earlier you asked about what happens if he rejects you... My question to you would be would you rather find out that you have an amazing friend who will always be there or go through life wondering if he just listens to you to be polite? Life is all about chances and risk-taking which is why the people who have the courage to live life get the most out of it.

My last thought is this quote which means a lot:

"Be Who You Are and Say What You Feel Because Those Who Mind Don't Matter, and Those Who Matter Don't Mind"

 

[Raistanelf]

Yeah, he knows I'm bi, and he's cool with it.
Things have eased off a bit, so, I told him bout how I really wanted a hug etc, like in the post, and he said he was fine with it - as long as he didnt wake up to find his pants gone and me in his ass.
Twas quite a funny exchange.

 

[Raistanelf]

Although - I have to bring this up - I mentioned that I thought he was cute, and he knows I'm bi, and since then, he seems a tad more flirty...I mean, he's mentioned he's not had sex in a while, bemoaned his blue balls, raised his shirt to show me how he's getting 'fat' ( he isn't - he plays rugby and has an Irish accent) .
Maybe I'm just more aware of them, but seriously... He does seem a little interested.

 

[neditesjamais]

More people should ask for hugs. They'd get them. Glad you took the chance.

ned

 

[clicker]

We all need physical , non sexual affection, especially males, because society wrongly condemns same sex affection, whereas it openly accepts female displays of expression without batting an eye. It hurts all men into feeling more isolated from themselves and others, especially fellow males. For those who need to express sexual affection, as with all PDA ( public displays of affection), it should be modest. Western society is sick with homophobia.

 

[genthree]

The reason it is difficult for you is that you would interpret a good hug as a prelude to sex - I have a straight friend that I could and would hug and talk intimately to and not have the least sexual urge, yet , another friend where the situation would be uncomfortable and full of "pregnant" moments.
It is difficult, best of luck...........................

 

[lifegboi001]

As far as him being more flirty... There is two possiblities: 1) He just enjoys the attention and being wanted from you or 2) He actually is trying to see if you would be interested in making something happen... I know personally, I have many straight friends who love me telling them they are cute, hot, sexy, etc. It's a confidence booster for them even if it is a dude. There are those that want more though but it's usually best if they approach you for it and not the other way around

 

[cloud101]

Omg and here I thought I was the only going through a situation like that (as naive as it sounds I know) but yeah I have been for the longest time and still am sexually attracted to my straight best friend (even though at times its instances where I think he may be gay deep down) but I'm sure that's just me wishing that deep down that were really true, cause I know he is a lady's man and he dates alot of woman and is always talking about women every now and then. My best friend knows that I'm gay and our relationship is really good with one another and he's perfectly cool with me being gay and it hasn't weirded out our relationship in anyway every since I told him, but its just so hard being around him sometimes because he doesn't know how I really feel about him and that I sometimes want to just have a sexual encounter with him but I know that could ruin our great friendship. The weird thing about all this is that I'm in a serious relationship with a guy that I really love very much and we've been together for two an a half years but yet I find myself still having feelings for my best friend and wishing that one day he would just kiss me (or that I would just kiss him and see what happens) because sometimes here and there he makes jokes about how he sometimes get sick of women and that if women piss him off so much to the point that he couldn't deal with them that he would definitely get with me........buuut I think that's just him talking crazy at those times.....ugh I don't know guys just figured I tell you my delima and see what you think about it.