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ethics/morality of NSA

blahman16

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If you are looking for a NSA, is it wrong for someone to lie about his own stats in order to get sex? Is there any guilt at all about lying, or does it just come down to what one gets out of it.

I guess I fell on the other end. I was stupid and some guy who pretended to be 35 years old was actually 47 years old. I mean, at the end it is my decision to have sex or not, but I feel I have been cheated and I really feel disgusted and used.

I was curious about using craigslist and I guess this sort of initial encounter made me think about online hookups in a new light.
 
Next time, do a mutual massage first.
That way both don't need to have sex if one don't want it.
 
This is just the latest version of lying at the first encounter. I'm a doctor, my dad owns ---, I'm not involved with anyone. Don't get jaded but take things slow at first. It's a shame we can't all be trusted.
 
Lying's definitely not right, but it's not going to stop some people from doing it. You just have to play it really safe next time.
 
You can always say no. At any time. Even if you're naked with your legs in the air. You can say, "Nope - this isn't what I signed up for" and walk. Going through with it, if anything, shows lying pays off.

Lex
 
If he shows up at your door, 30 years older and 200 pounds heavier, why go through with it?

How were you cheated? Craigslist makes no guarantees. The guy lied, OK, not the first time that happened. You didn't get the guy you wanted, not the first time that happened.

But you weren't after happily ever after, so what does it really matter. Next time you want a hookup, find a nice bar, no matter what they say, at least you know what you're getting up front.
 
blahman16 said:
If you are looking for a NSA, is it wrong for someone to lie about his own stats in order to get sex? Is there any guilt at all about lying, or does it just come down to what one gets out of it.

I guess I fell on the other end. I was stupid and some guy who pretended to be 35 years old was actually 47 years old. I mean, at the end it is my decision to have sex or not, but I feel I have been cheated and I really feel disgusted and used.

I was curious about using craigslist and I guess this sort of initial encounter made me think about online hookups in a new light.
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NSA used to confuse the shit out of me.

DDF = Drug and Disease Free

PFP = Party for Play, meaning that they'd do drugs with you (poppers, coke, meth) if you played, and in most cases provided, and sometimes as a condition!

There are about as many text message acronyms on Craig's List as anyone can shake a stick at. MFM, BFM, MFGM, etc......

Just think of NSA from now on as NSA = No Sugar Added. :wave:
 
My mistake. I was dumb, stupid. I'll be smarter next time (if there is next time).
 
blahman16 said:
My mistake. I was dumb, stupid. I'll be smarter next time (if there is next time).
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Well, I wouldn't call you stupid, just naive. I never do the online hookup thing. Did it once, found out that for me at least it's not rewarding, and kinda furtive.

What you might try, is going out somewhere the type of guys you like hang out, spotting the guy you want, then going after him, for me the chase is like foreplay, and really, guys aren't that hard to bag. I don't find any sport in the online hookup, it's like delivery pizza, sure you can eat it, but it's not really that great.

Even if you go down in flames the thrill is still there, and there's always the next guy one bar stool over.

Oh, and you know what they look like upfront.
 
texpatriot said:
NSA used to confuse the shit out of me.

DDF = Drug and Disease Free

PFP = Party for Play, meaning that they'd do drugs with you (poppers, coke, meth) if you played, and in most cases provided, and sometimes as a condition!

There are about as many text message acronyms on Craig's List as anyone can shake a stick at. MFM, BFM, MFGM, etc......

Just think of NSA from now on as NSA = No Sugar Added. :wave:
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At first I thought we were talking about the Morality of the National Security Agency!
 
I'll admit (here) that I've lied about my age before on cl.

Not like the OP's experience, that's a little extreme. I've shaved no more than 3 years off my age. I guess that's still "wrong", but I don't think it's really all that bad. I never really mask any other stat though, since if I say I weigh 140 and show up weighing 180, I'm pretty sure it'll be blatantly obvious and probably end the encounter right there.

I met my boyfriend on CL, and we both lied about our age online. Turns out, we're the same age.

I met another guy online who said he was 19, turns out he was 17. Good thing I checked.


Online "hookup" sites are hit and miss at best, but they can work too. I've met some pretty cool people on CL, even if we didn't have sex (I don't post for sex anymore, I post for cuddle buddies and the like).


I do agree though, if they're lying that badly, just call them on it and leave 'em at the curb. If they say they're 25 and they're really 27, it's your call. But hey, women do that ALL the time.
 
Yeah, I mean I was just stunned by the age difference. I mean, he doesn't act that old, and but still, it's not right. And the thing is it just scares me that some1 would like about age with that large of a gap, it scares me what other lies or surprises are in store.
 
I agree, and I think it raises cause for concern.

Fudging a year or two is one thing, but 12? This guy is either delusional or he's looking for 'prey'.

I like guys my own age so if a guy showed up and he was 12 years older than me he'd get his ass tossed to the curb quick anyway, but even if you still find him attractive enough, ya gotta wonder what's wrong with his head
 
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