Ever Been Molested........

[RationalLunacy]

No molestation here, but I once was the victim of sexual harrassment in the workplace by my own godfather. It wasn't pretty.

 

[gazzax2]

when i was on a plane flight from San Fran home to Australia when i was 14, he kept touching me. then he went and got drunk at the bar at the back of the plane for the rest of the 13hrs of the flight.

 

[Just_Believe18]

No, I never was.

But it is so heart-wrenching to read your stories. How could they do that to you..?

 

[kevin7620]

I don't think I've ever been molested.

I did have a recurring dream a few times during my very early youth that essentially involves an erect penis sliding effortlessly into an asshole, without any additional movement by the penis's owner. Quite weird. The more that I've thought about it, the more I've associated it with my uncle... But he's a very old-school str8 guy...

There was also an episode around first grade when I made one of my first real friends. The only faint memories that I have of this involve us peeing at the same time into the toilet at school, and walking home with our mothers. Around this time (I had just turned 6) I somehow discovered masturbation and have been doing that ever since.

So was I molested? My best guess is probably not.

 

[tonyboy]

This is an interesting thread.

I've never been molested.

But a question to those that were. Do any of you think the molestation made you gay? Do you think that you may have been molested because you were perceived as being gay?

 

[theatreboi]

wow, this thread is intense. i don't think i was molested, but my best friend and i used to play naked games all the time and masturbate together since before we knew that that's what it was called. He was only a few months older than me. however, when i was still very young, i had a male babysitter who was the boyfriend of one of my regular babysitters and i remember him being extremely attractive and that i wished that he and i could play the games that my best friend and i played. i kept asking him to play games with me, like monopoly and stuff and i was really touchy with him. does that mean that i molested HIM even though he was so much older? i wonder if that's why he only babysat for me once...

 

[Kurn]

I've never been molested. Well, maybe a little...very minor stuff.

But this thread teaches me that I need to be kinder, gentler, more patient.
Encourage, even if they aren't looking like they need it.

 

[troyboy]

I was never molested but when I was 13 I give and received blow jobs from the 18 yr old neighbor boy. I'm not sure who initiated the sex but I remember that I was definitely willing.

 

[Riverrick]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you were able to grow stronger from it. Same thing happened with me. My mother didn't believe me...Or maybe it was too much for her to handle....I still don't know. Anyway, as a result, the abuse continued for years...Eventually it reached the point where he would give me cocaine to sedate me somewhat. I was so depressed and withdrawn that I once overdosed on it.
My depression continued to get worse. I went to my uncle's house and took all the pills he had in the medicine cabinet. I wanted to die. A friend found me and I ended up in the hospital getting my stomach pumped. Some Child Welfare people wanted to talk to me. But how could I tell them that my mother's husband and the father of my half brother and sister was fucking me? I didn't want to ruin my family's lives.
The worst part came after when I found that he was not only doing it to me but my two sisters also. My full sister a year younger and my half sister, his daughter who is about 10 years younger than me. That hurt more than anything he did to me. I wanted to stop all of it but no one believed me....It wasn't until they came forward that they actually did. Even then nothing came of it and now he lives with a new wife and son....

What a sad and terrible story, Elvin.

How alone you must have felt.

 

[Xavier_Holland]

When I was 13 my best friend who was 15 tried jacking me off. At the time I was a straight male and had just had my first sexual experience. I found his attempts horrible and it disgusted me what he did to me. So later when I got bigger, and I became a football player. I almost beat that fuckers ass.

But I asked him why he did it, and he said because he loved me and he admitted he fucked up our friendship. So hey, after that I was homophobic until I was 19. So there you go.....

 

[smile86]

my mum would jump to try and blame my homosexuality on what my uncle did to me, but i don't know. i can't remember much from the first few yeard of my life so i can't remember if i prefered boys to girls back then, i didn't really have many friends except one close male friend. but i'd like to think that my sexuality hasn't been influenced by that period of my life because i wouldn't like to believe that my life continues to be influenced by it on a day-to-day basis.

 

[smile86]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you were able to grow stronger from it. Same thing happened with me. My mother didn't believe me...Or maybe it was too much for her to handle....I still don't know. Anyway, as a result, the abuse continued for years...Eventually it reached the point where he would give me cocaine to sedate me somewhat. I was so depressed and withdrawn that I once overdosed on it.
My depression continued to get worse. I went to my uncle's house and took all the pills he had in the medicine cabinet. I wanted to die. A friend found me and I ended up in the hospital getting my stomach pumped. Some Child Welfare people wanted to talk to me. But how could I tell them that my mother's husband and the father of my half brother and sister was fucking me? I didn't want to ruin my family's lives.
The worst part came after when I found that he was not only doing it to me but my two sisters also. My full sister a year younger and my half sister, his daughter who is about 10 years younger than me. That hurt more than anything he did to me. I wanted to stop all of it but no one believed me....It wasn't until they came forward that they actually did. Even then nothing came of it and now he lives with a new wife and son....

that's so awful, i am sorry you had to experience all that. I was thinking about this, and at least i have the knowledge that whilst now he is free, he was punished for what he did to me and put out as an example that these crimes are wrong and disgusting.
And when you said about not wanting to ruin your families lives, that struck a chord with me too. I was too young to really understand what was happening to me but thank christ after a few months my mum found out because of the physical effects it had on me. She confronted her brother and eventually he was sent to prison. but sometimes, though i try not to, i do feel like i've runied her life. i mean i know it wasn't my fault, but when he was released from jail recently it was obvious that that hurt will never leave her which is for me the most upsetting thing because i love her.

 

[irish1]

that's so awful, i am sorry you had to experience all that. I was thinking about this, and at least i have the knowledge that whilst now he is free, he was punished for what he did to me and put out as an example that these crimes are wrong and disgusting.
And when you said about not wanting to ruin your families lives, that struck a chord with me too. I was too young to really understand what was happening to me but thank christ after a few months my mum found out because of the physical effects it had on me. She confronted her brother and eventually he was sent to prison. but sometimes, though i try not to, i do feel like i've runied her life. i mean i know it wasn't my fault, but when he was released from jail recently it was obvious that that hurt will never leave her which is for me the most upsetting thing because i love her.

There is no possible way that you, in any way, have ruined your mother's life. Your uncle was a grown man, and chose his behavior, not you, and not your mum.
A dear friend of mine was molested as a child, and, like you, was too young to know what was happening to him. It was impossible for you to stop it.
From your post, it is clear that you love your mother. Please don't let your uncle's evil behavior influence the way you feel about her. I am sure that she loves you, too.

 

[irish1]

I did. Thanks River....

That's why I have absolutely no sympathy or tolerance for child molesters and pedophiles. This is an issue a feel very strongly about.

Pedophiles and molester are reviled even by murderers in prison. They are usually taken out of the major population, because there is such revulsion to their behavior.

So many lives in this thread have been seriously compromised by their actions. Thank goodness the rest of us care about you, and would never want to see this happen to any innocent child.

 

[SFMusic]

The truly horrible aspect of molestation is not just act itself, but the way in which it continues to destroy lives long after the molestation is over. I was molested by my older brother, not just physically, but emotionally as well. In fact I would say the emotional abuse is much worse because the effects last so much longer and the physical molestation was at least a little bit enjoyable.

What was the worse was when I confronted my brother about the abuse when I was 25, he just told me I was crazy, and that I must have dreamed the whole thing up. That almost pushed me over the edge because, I realized that it was his word against mine, and who would believe me? I withdrew and became extremely depressed. If it weren't for my music, I think I would have been a prime candidate for suicide. Even though this all happened 30-45 years ago, the emotions are still as strong today as they were then.

What helps a little bit is that I have found out from my other brother, that this brother was emotionally abused by our mother when he was a child, so that leads me to believe that my brother took his frustrations with our mother out on me. It doesn't make it right, but at least now as an adult I can understand the motivation for why I was treated so badly by someone that I should have been able trust and turn to for protection.

If this were not bad enough, I also found out a few years ago that my mother was molested by her father (my grandfather) from the time she was 8 years old until she ran away from home with my father when she was 15. And just last year I talked to my mother's sister, who was also molested by my grandfather, who told me that she confronted her father before he died to ask him why? He told her a tale of growing up in a home where the children were routinely abused and forced to have sex with one another.

Where did it begin, who knows? Where does it end? Hopefully, in my family, it ends with me, but sadly I don't think so. Who really knows what goes on behind closed doors?

 

[NCSU4EVER]

You guys are just incredible. It's stories like these that sometimes put so many things in perspective.

To go with the thread, no, I was never molested. There were things that went on with peers in my childhood that I'd consider inappropriate, or exploratory at a minimum, but I was not abused.

On that note, however, I did find out later on that my brother and I had a babysitter (close family friend...) who later molested a child (she babysat my brother and I for nearly 4 years...), and maintainted a relationship with a boy who was not of age, and could not see what was so wrong with it. She just didn't understand.

My recollection tells me that nothing like this happened with myself and her, however.

You guys are just amazing, though. Tougher for the experience though, indeed.

*MUAH*

Mike

 

[sparky95]

I was molested by a boy a few years older than me when I was about 10. I think this was at least partly responsible for the clinical depression I had during my teens and now thankfully is under control. I guess I have forgiven him as he was young too. My suspicion is that he and his brother were being abused by his grandfather and that he carried that behavior onto his little brother and myself. There was one time they took me to visit their grandfather and I think if my mother had not turned up to look for me, well I would rather not think about it....

 

[dynk]

I was molested by one of our parish priests at age 13, it went on for about 6 months. It was traumatic at first, untill I outed him.

 

[Bi Married Male]

No...I feel horrible for all the people who were.

 

[kurtwild]

i was molested too.by my brothers friends,when i was 10 years old and they were 14.i liked it i think!