Ever mess around with a straight guy?

[Bi Married Male]

 

[MeDarrin]

I've had closeted gay guys hit on me and get me hot and ask for sex. Then when it came time for actual sex they got cold feet, made up excuses and it never happened.

Very true!!! I once was played by a coworker. This guy was all over me, practically stalking me. It got to where he's stare at my cock and let me see his eyes intensely looking right at my bulge.

So I suggested we go hang out and see a movie. What happens? I meet him there and he shows up with a friend (to act as a buffer, I'm sure) and he acted so cold and distant and macho. Like he was a different person.

I was hurt, felt betrayed, crushed, abandoned, fucked over, dissed.

I kept my distance from him but then he started up again with his staring at my cock and pursuing of me. I weakened and figured he was scared the first time and needed time. (Big mistake. Stop making excuses for fucked up people's behavior.)

So I AGAIN suggest going to a movie. He then mentions that his "girlfriend" wants to see that movie, too. GIRLFRIEND? I've worked with the guy for three years and he never mentioned a girl and has been staring at my cock but now mentions a girl? I felt stabbed in the heart, betrayed, like he was really saying, "I'm not one of you gays." (No, not much, you're just salivating at the sight of my cock and can't get your eyes off my cock.)

I had the strongest urge to say then: "Well, TAKE your so called GIRLfriend then!" But I was horny and feeling madly in love with the guy. So I weakened and we went to the movies again. I met him there and AGAIN he showed up with a third wheel.

He again became macho, distant. I thought to myself, He's changed into Machoboy, with long drawn out "wuzzups," etc. And once again, I was left feeling betrayed, abandoned, deserted, stabbed in the heart.

I vowed NEVER again. I left that job soon after and cut all ties with him. I even went to Alanon meetings, because I couldn't afford counseling and I wanted help in dealing with this. I felt I was allowing him to manipulate me because I must have had low self-esteem, stemming from growing up in an alcoholic background.

Alanon helped me sooo much and today I feel really good about myself and only seek out healthy, good relationships. I won't put myself at the feet of an alleged "straight" man, trying desperately for breadcrumbs to be tossed my way.

I have much more self-respect than that today.

And there are a LOT of very handsome and masculine gay guys out there who will RETURN your sexual attraction and love. And that feels GOOD. Fuck these "straight" curious slobs.

Been there. Done that.

 

[Bi Married Male]

 

[XLeatherX]

What's with all of the worship of bisexual and gay closet cases on this site? Since when does having a GF or wife make a guy straight or heterosexual?

I've been with them before and these guys are not "straight" or heterosexual even if they wish that they were or some people want them to be.

If a guy is really hetero or Straight he's not going to have sex with other men at all. Even if he's horny and desperate.

These guys are closeted gay and bisexual men. If they're so straight and desperate for pussy they're not going to have sex with men. They're going to go out and find a slutty woman, GF on the side (aside from the wife/GF), or visit female prostitutes.

It's a nice fantasy that you read about in gay/bisexual male erotic fiction and see in porn but that doesn't reflect the reality of heterosexual/straight men who don't have sex with men, or have any sexual attractions to men at all.

Straight men having sex with men does happen in prison and with illegal non-consensual sex but prison and non-consensual sex do not happen to every straight guy.

Real actual straight men only have sex with women and only want pussy.

If sexuality were really this fluid as people on this thread are claiming us gay men would be somehow wanting women or being sexually attracted to women and that does not happen if you are really a gay man.

Any guy who has sex with men and claims that he's somehow "straight" or hetero is nothing but guy that's bisexual or gay and closeted or in denial about his sexuality. Or he's just on the Down Low.

 

[MeDarrin]

I disagree with you. There are many very masculine, very straight men who love pussy and are mostly in to pussy, but are not completely turned off by the idea of getting sucked off by a dude or maybe doing a little more.

If you want to label that person as actually "bi" or "not straight," then technically maybe that's correct. But basically, for all intents and purposes they are most definitely straight.

Yes, sexuality is fluid. But you can't compare one scenario with another. Just because most gay men are not going to fool around with a woman does not logically mean that most straight guys are not going to fool around with a man. This is deceptively simple and incorrect thinking.

In fact, Kinsey research states that more than 70% of hetero men will have at least one homo erotic experience to orgasm in their lives. Whether they loved it or would do it again is another matter.

I fucked a woman once, by the way.

 

[monk66]

What's with all of the worship of bisexual and gay closet cases on this site? Since when does having a GF or wife make a guy straight or heterosexual?

I've been with them before and these guys are not "straight" or heterosexual even if they wish that they were or some people want them to be.

If a guy is really hetero or Straight he's not going to have sex with other men at all. Even if he's horny and desperate.

These guys are closeted gay and bisexual men. If they're so straight and desperate for pussy they're not going to have sex with men. They're going to go out and find a slutty woman, GF on the side (aside from the wife/GF), or visit female prostitutes.

It's a nice fantasy that you read about in gay/bisexual male erotic fiction and see in porn but that doesn't reflect the reality of heterosexual/straight men who don't have sex with men, or have any sexual attractions to men at all.

Straight men having sex with men does happen in prison and with illegal non-consensual sex but prison and non-consensual sex do not happen to every straight guy.

Real actual straight men only have sex with women and only want pussy.

If sexuality were really this fluid as people on this thread are claiming us gay men would be somehow wanting women or being sexually attracted to women and that does not happen if you are really a gay man.

Any guy who has sex with men and claims that he's somehow "straight" or hetero is nothing but guy that's bisexual or gay and closeted or in denial about his sexuality. Or he's just on the Down Low.

!AMEN! u r tottaly right dude , of course we have fantasies bout guys but come on!! its just a fantasy , just as u said str8 man only want pussy!!

 

[Butter My Biscuits]

Yes I fooled around with a straight man before and now I regret it. He and his girlfriend are good friends of mine but now I can't look at her in the face because of the unspeakable acts I did with her BF.

 

[MeDarrin]

Oh please. Cut the drama. "The unspeakable acts..."

If HE isn't worried about it, why are YOU?

What's so unspeakable about sucking cock? No big deal. Get over it and don't give it another thought.

Again, if HE isn't worried about it, why are YOU?

 

[TennisAce]

At my old job there was this one straight guy that I worked with who approached me about being gay. I am not out to a lot of people who aren't my family or close friends, so when I told him he was totally interested in my lifestyle.

We ended up becoming tight, and once in awhile I would suck him off and he was interested in trying it out on me (which I wouldn't reject.). We are still friends, but after I quit a few months back we kind of stopped talking. It was fun while it lasted.

 

[XLeatherX]

I disagree with you. There are many very masculine, very straight men who love pussy and are mostly in to pussy, but are not completely turned off by the idea of getting sucked off by a dude or maybe doing a little more.

If you want to label that person as actually "bi" or "not straight," then technically maybe that's correct. But basically, for all intents and purposes they are most definitely straight.

Yes, sexuality is fluid. But you can't compare one scenario with another. Just because most gay men are not going to fool around with a woman does not logically mean that most straight guys are not going to fool around with a man. This is deceptively simple and incorrect thinking.

In fact, Kinsey research states that more than 70% of hetero men will have at least one homo erotic experience to orgasm in their lives. Whether they loved it or would do it again is another matter.

I fucked a woman once, by the way.

The men who you label as "straight" in the first paragraph are bisexual not straight or hetero.

Kinsey in his studies never said that most men or people are bisexual or have homosexual experiences. I've actually read the studies and this just means that in his core group of people surveyed for the studies who were mostly prisoners, bisexual men, and gay men had sex with men. This should not be a surprise.

In more recent studies about sexuality gay and bisexual men make up a very small percentage of the population and if a man is really heterosexual or straight he's not going to have or want sex with men.

I understand that some straight men in prison have sex with men but these men who the thread is about are not in prison and can easily find women to have sex with.

As for thinking or fantasizing about women when a man is blowing them or sometimes thinking about having sex with them this is something that bisexual men do.

 

[rysmiley88]

By "straight" I mean a man who desires only women. There are some men who only feel desire for a woman, but will agree to let a man suck him off, just for fun or because no woman is currently available to him. If you want to say that man is bi, not straight, go ahead. But I still think of a man like that as straight. That behavior I call "gay for play" but the man is still a heterosexual man. To me a bi man is a man who actually feels desire for both men and women. I think a straight man, who feels no physical desire for men, will engage in sex play with another man, just to get off, and that doesn't mean he is gay or bi, it's just a matter of convenience. But if you want to define it on actual behavoir rather than desire, then he would be defined as bi. You can tell, though, when you're with a man like that, it's one-sided, he won't do anything for you, it's all about just getting him off. He may even be pretending in his mind that it's a female blowing him rather than a male. That's the sort of man I would categorize as straight, even though he let a guy blow him.

I completely agree. I've had a few experiences with Str8 guys that just wanted to nut. No touching or anything sexual reciprocated. I was just happy to help another guy with something his wife or girlfriend wouldn't.

 

[BIMICHAEL4FUN]

I've been fortunate to have a couple of testerone-filled, constantly horny str8 roommates, and have been fortunate to both give and receive hot oral with them, although it was typically in a very drunken state after we were both disappointed with our lack of success in picking up and bringing home someone to fuck from the bar. There are a lot of details in my blog.

 

[MeDarrin]

You have a right to an opinion but it's not factual.

You claim "in more recent studies...." Those recent studies were commissioned by anti-gay forces. No surprise that their "conclusions" were that gay and bi barely exist.

There are some people who just cannot accept the nuances of human sexuality and feel the need to categorize any homosexual participation, no matter how brief, as that person being "bisexual."

And there are some people who will not accept that gay people comprise at least 10% of the population, bisexual even more, and a majority of straight men who will have experimented at least once in their lives, (i.e., masturbation with a friend). As I said, about 70%.

But you can keep telling yourself what you need to for reasons I guess only you know. It's just unfortunate that you're disseminating egregiously apocryphal information.

Ciao.