Ever Met or Are You this Kind of a Guy...

[Bidude117]

1. Says All of His Exes Are "Crazy"
Be wary of a man who refers to his former boyfriends as crazy, psycho, or clingy — because what's the common denominator here? Him. The dude's either looney-bin glue, or he never really wanted the relationship to work in the first place.

2. He's Hot and Cold on the Phone
He'll text you 10 times in a night, then go MIA for days. He'll chat on the phone for an hour, then ignore your messages for the rest of the week. Wondering what the heck is going on? We're going to be brutally honest: He's mostly likely busy dating other men.

3. He Guilt-Trips You
He makes you feel like everything wrong in the relationship is your fault because you're too "dramatic" or "clingy". Knows how to turn every situation around to make you look like the "crazy" one.

4. Stuff Is Missing from His Facebook Profile
Is his facebook ultra-private? Has he untagged any photos of you and him? Does he post updates often, yet never mention hanging out with you? Is his relationship status hidden? Does he distance you from his friends?

 

[jaycee style]

hold up.

facebook is a part of dating now?

 

[Bidude117]

LMAO!!! It's all over guys. I'm done. I tried to remain friends, but that didn't work either. Oh well, fuck it!

 

[fetaby]

hold up.

facebook is a part of dating now?

It's not only part of dating, it's part of divorce as well. 1 in 5 new divorces site facebook as one source of conflict within the marriage.

 

[Bidude117]

It's not only part of dating, it's part of divorce as well. 1 in 5 new divorces site facebook as one source of conflict within the marriage.

Tell me about it! Facebook has the power to expose most cheating bastards/players. My guy was a pro at trying to hide shit. lol

 

[Bidude117]

*cues confetti*

Well done, man.

Thank you Moe! I feel so stupid for getting played like that! A part of me wants him back in my life so I can emotionally fuck with him as he fucked with me.

 

[quasar]

I've certainly met one with traits 2&3!

 

[roadtripboy]

I've experienced #2.

He was bi so it wasn't other guys he was dating.
He said it was easier to date women and have everyone think he was straight.

I can't argue with that...great for him and everything. But not an option for me. We're still friends though. He invited me to his wedding...I didn't go.

 

[jaycee style]

It's not only part of dating, it's part of divorce as well. 1 in 5 new divorces site facebook as one source of conflict within the marriage.

i am so totally in the stone age, i can barely get facebook to do whatever it is it does.

 

[initiallyyours]

At least he tagged you in photos (though I don't understand untagging. What's the big deal?). The only guy I dated was "single" (when we were together) and was interested in "women" (which obviously I am not).

 

[CorporalAris]

Well, my ex WAS crazy. Who the hell puts salt in someones bed cause they are mad? What does that even mean?

 

[Kester]

2. He's Hot and Cold on the Phone
He'll text you 10 times in a night, then go MIA for days. He'll chat on the phone for an hour, then ignore your messages for the rest of the week. Wondering what the heck is going on? We're going to be brutally honest: He's mostly likely busy dating other men.

I can be like that sometimes. Ah well, what can you do eh?

 

[bluedragon4]

I am for sure the number 2 on that list, no pun intended, lol. But it's not cause I am dating many other men just that I get busy with my friends. I am not a guy that swoons over a guy I just meet. If a guy just gave up and stopped texting me I would text him but if he didn't text back I wouldn't care and move on to another guy. That bad?

 

[The_Reaper]

1. Says All of His Exes Are "Crazy"
I only have 1 ex, and effectively, I think I can honestly say that he was a little off his rocker...And I'm not just saying that, he sort of switched between a lot of moods in record time frames...

2. He's Hot and Cold on the Phone
Hmmm...This sounds a bit like the b/f and me, but it's more of a by choice thing. We don't have to talk every day, but we almost always do. And if we're chatting and one of us isn't answering, it's usually because we're also playing video games with our friends at the time...So, no problems there.

3. He Guilt-Trips You
I like false guilt-tripping; coming up with outlandish stories, that are utterly ridiculous and nonsensical...But not actually guilt tripping, so I think I'm safe here.

4. Stuff Is Missing from His Facebook Profile
With the b/f still in the closet to his folks, there's a reason neither of us have our dating status updated. And there may not be many photos of us either, but that's mostly because we're not the kind of couple that takes a lot of photographs...

I think that about covers everything...

 

[innocentbychoice]

Oh facebook...the source of many many fights between couples.

 

[BostonPirate]

And I have just been using facebook to keep up with friend around the country.

well who wants to date them?

hmm

maybe I'm doing facebook wrong.

 

[erobert]

I agree with number 1, if a boyfriend is referring to someone as crazy than they still have unresolved issues with this person and may even carry them over to your relationship. Run don't walk.

As for being hot and cold on the phone. I like consistency of phone communication but it's a individual preference. You need the right balance, text too much and you might drive them away. Text or call too little and they might think you're not interested. I try to match their rate and prefer face to face communication.

A big red flag is if they don't respond to your texts or call after a couple of days. It's either time to move on or fill out a missing persons report.