Ever since I came out, my bro has been avoiding me

[hanzosword]

Re: Ever since I came out, my bro has been avoidin

I think that is really messed up of him to be that way. You should just show up at his apt unannounced and confront him about this. Hopefully he'll get over it soon.

 

[Lube]

Re: Ever since I came out, my bro has been avoidin

To one extreme, he could be gay too and not dealing with it very well. On the other hand, he is 19. He hasn't gathered the wisdom of your parents. Most of his life, being "gay" was probably seen in a very negative, shameful light. Give him some time.... Just be yourself and the person your brother grew up with.

This is pretty much what I was thinking.

 

[homemadehuman]

Re: Ever since I came out, my bro has been avoidin

if he can't get over his own insecurities to be there for you as a brother,family should,he doesn't deserve your concern,he's just selfish,you are the one going thru the situation,he only needs to assimilate it. don't isolate yourself from the family just because of him

 

[badchicken]

Re: Ever since I came out, my bro has been avoidin

like others have said: give it time.

My brother and I are very close, and like you, it was kinda awkward when I first came out to my brother. For a while I thought he was mad /unaccepting about it, so I confronted him about it, and he said something like "I've known for a while. Just give me time. I love you know matter what. I'm just sad we can't go to strip clubs together."

In my head I remember thinking "wtf?"

but really,
just give it time.