Ex-boyfriend being part of social group

[TomahawkEagle]

I broke up with a guy back in August last year and this was my very first relationship. I'm trying to be friends with my now ex because we have some friends in common (unfortunately). Often when I hang out with my gay friends, my ex is always there. At first it was awkward but now I'm desensitised to the awkwardness. Is it ever possible to be normal friends with an ex?

 

[Rolyo85]

Of course it is. But it's different in every case. Sometimes it can work, other not, especially when it's a bad break up. If both of you thought things had run their course, there is no reason not to be civil.

That said, it usually takes some time after the break up, before some normalcy can be attained.

 

[maxpowr9]

Of course it is. But it's different in every case. Sometimes it can work, other not, especially when it's a bad break up. If both of you thought things had run their course, there is no reason not to be civil.

That said, it usually takes some time after the break up, before some normalcy can be attained.

Pretty much this. There has only been one breakup in my life that was mutual and we were friends before and after we dated. There was just no sexual chemistry between us.

As long as mutual friends are not causing drama between you two, I say just let the pieces fall where they may.

 

[tipmyscales86]

It is possible to be friends with an ex. I didn't talk to an ex for about a year, and then we randomly bumped into each other. We talked about so many things that I think we were afraid to talk about while we were together. He's not one of my primary friends but we're on good terms.

 

[Seasoned]

I'd stick with being civil and not attempt to force a friendship. It can get tricky when one of you starts dating.

 

[AlmondMilk]

I have a gay friend who talks to an ex. I don't with mine, though

 

[KaraBulut]

Is it ever possible to be normal friends with an ex?

Yes, if you're both willing to be friends.

If you're finding yourself together in social situations, then either take some time aside or pick up the phone afterward and say, "Look, we're obviously going to be running into each other in social situations. I don't want our friends to be uncomfortable including either of us."

 

[ipippini]

I am trying this as well after my last relationship ended not quite so pleasantly. I like the guy as a person (for the most part) but as a boyfriend he was terrible. The best you can do is be mature about it- you didn't work out as a couple, but if you still enjoy being around each other you just may work as friends. Just don't try and rush it.

Luckily, feeling desensitized to the awkwardness is one of the first steps You just have to be mature and let the dead past bury its dead. Scars will heal, and sometimes you may find that horrible boyfriends can still make decent friends.