Ex boyfriend - what to say!?

[GL]

I think a simple "Hi" would be a good place to start. See if he's interested in drumming up a conversation.

 

[Croynan]

"You Can’t Go Home Again" - Thomas Wolfe
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[MRMATTX2]

Right, I'd just give a "hi, how are you?" and leave it at that. if he responds, chat on...if not, well.....so be it.

 

[GL]

"You Can’t Go Home Again" - Thomas Wolfe ​

eM. ​

Well... that's probably true.

I don't know, I guess I'm always hoping that things will turn out.

But what the hell do I know?

 

[slobone]

I think enough time has gone by that you don't need to carry grudges against each other. Why not renew the friendship? Start with something simple like GL said, just "Hi, how've you been?"

Ex-lovers make great friends, once you get over the hurt. But go slow to start with.

 

[Danugh]

Say nothing.

Its been 4 years and you are still pining away for him?

You really think he is thinking about you?

Time to move on. If you message him now it will only add to his ego, thinking that men will never get over him. Don't give him the satisfaction. If he messages you then you have the upper hand but just let it be.

Yes he will always have a place in your heart because he was your first love, but there is life after your first, so start living that life now.

 

[looseliam]

I wish i hadnt even come across it now... all i can think about is the past.... not so much how i felt for the guy... but more... i dunno... more, how's he doing... is he keeping well.

It's strange... i'm not obsessing over the guy... but i cant help think, how it would be great to meet him for a drink, catch up on the gossip... see what he did and where he went following our break-up....

Jesus... you know, for years i wondered if i'd ever cross his path again... now that day is here... and i wish it had never arose!

"There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."
-Oscar Wilde

 

[Danugh]

Not pining for him..
I'm in love, with another guy, and i would willingly lay down my life for him.. but Tom has that special place in my life.... always will....I just want to say hi.

You want to say hi because you are not over him and you hope that one thing will lead to another and you too will reconnect.

You seem just like Sheridan on NBC's Passions.

PS - there is a relationships forum. I dont know why you feel your love life is a hot topic

 

[slobone]

I think your desire to get in touch again is perfectly natural and not something you need to feel embarrassed about.

Relationships with ex-lovers can be emotionally complicated, especially if there's "baggage."

But just to find out how he's doing? Go for it. He may be just as curious as you are.

 

[Danugh]

I hear what you're saying - but you're wrong.

Denial is not a river in Egypt

 

[andyspete]

Quote to him the lyrics of Mariah Carey's song, "We Belong Together". JK of course. Just be yourself.

 

[fiorio]

hug him in surprise "helloloo, my dear ex, did you miss me after we broke up?
what about let's having a re-encounter-sex?"
stuff like that

 

[Soilwork]

My ex and I are great friends.

we share custody of the dogs and hang out together all the time.

His new BF is such a great guy, and I was the one who introduced them.

we're technically still married to each other. We never legally separated after we broke up.. we just moved to America where our marriage is illegal.

But in Canada, we're married men.

we share a pension and still have financial obligations to each other.

I'll be with him in some way forever.

We were lovers for 13 years... how could that ever stop?

 

[JASON0980]

i would say hi. even if you are not interested in a relationship again. if you want to know how he is doing then you should talk to him.

 

[Swellegant]

Do it! Just keep it simple, along the lines of "Hey! Fancy meeting you here! How are you doing? Let's get together some time and catch up." It's what I'd do with someone who used to be in my life, even if I hadn't ever been in love with him, but especially if I had. It's always nice to touch bases with our pasts.

Oh, and never take advice offered by a person who actually watches Passions (no offense, sweetie, but you need to upgrade your viewing choices to something for grownups... that has got to be the worst soap in the history of soaps, and considering the overall horridness and pisspoor quality of the genre, that's saying something).

 

[trawler69]

Talking by text often is, if that is what you are doing. Can't beat voice. I share my boat with my ex, he is my best friend. So it can work.

 

[looseliam]

Well, made contact and we're chatting - but its slow and awkward.

Most likely it will be awkward for a bit. But once you get past it, a friendship may develop.

"Nice and easy does it, every time..."

 

[thewiz]

Congrats Joe on breaking the ice. If you are somewhere close, suggest meeting and going out for a coffee; I just did with my first boyfriend and while it started out tense and quiet, we were laughing and chatting by the end and agreed to keep in touch.

Sometimes making contact helps to finally close doors on past relationships; sometimes it can open old wounds as well so be careful and know the difference!

 

[TriBi]

Well - "slow and awkward" is much better then "fuck off I never want to hear from you again".

Stick with it and try and turn it into "we shared something special and it's good to be friends again".

 

[shea]

Joe if you want to say hello do it. You know yourself
how fragile life can be. You never know what is around
the next corner. If you miss this chance and God forbid
something happened you would never forgive yourself.
I do know how you feel believe me.
Shea