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Excuses and Second Chances

PlayingwithChance

PlayingwithChance

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So, as some of you may have read, I was potentially played. I was stood up, and I had decided to forget about the douchebag forever and ever, move on and forward. See the following thread:

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=239113

>>> UPDATE: <<<

SIGH. So, as you all have warned, he has contacted me.

He says that he's so sorry, and that I must hate him. But the reason he didn't make it was because he had to fly to another province (Canada's version of a state) for some emergency. He didn't have my number because it was on a piece of paper in his car, and he didn't contact me on MSN because of spotty coverage (well, he DOES come from the really isolated province of Newfoundland)... and he blocks everyone on MSN, or something, whatever. Piecemeal excuses, I know.

I want to believe him, I really do, so bad. I just wanted to forgive and say I understand and that I want to see him again. He said he'd be back in a day or two, and so I decided to do the prudent thing.

I told him that I'm sorry I'm defensive, but given the circumstances, I have a right to be. He said he'd make it up to me. I told him that if he really wanted to make it up to me, he'd figure out a way. I wished him all the best with his "emergency", and told him I had to go to bed, so I logged off.

I didn't make plans with him, I didn't forgive him. I'm not calling him a liar, nor am I saying that his story is the truth. If he wants to see me again, he'll have to call me, or message me and ask ME out. I'm not going to sleep with him again. He can take me out on a date and talk to me like a real fucking person if he wants, but he's going to have to make the effort here - I am done expending energy to accommodate a potential player.

Did I do the right thing, giving him this chance to explain himself and regain my trust? I didn't give him my trust, and I am trying so hard to remain on the skeptical side.

How should I proceed? I'm so torn, because I liked this guy. I thought he would be different. What if he actually is telling the truth, and that he's just the victim of horrible circumstance at the worst possible time? I don't know. I need your help guys, cause I'm not objective enough to figure it out for myself.
 
PlayingwithChance said:
>>> UPDATE: <<<

SIGH. So, as you all have warned, he has contacted me.

He says that he's so sorry, and that I must hate him. But the reason he didn't make it was because he had to fly to another province (Canada's version of a state) for some emergency. He didn't have my number because it was on a piece of paper in his car, and he didn't contact me on MSN because of spotty coverage (well, he DOES come from the really isolated province of Newfoundland)... and he blocks everyone on MSN, or something, whatever. Piecemeal excuses, I know.
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You realize that he's lying like a dog, right?

And he's not even a good liar.

Block him on MSN. Block him on your cell. Don't pick up his calls at home. Don't waste any more time/money/energy/semen on this lost cause.
 
You replied to him in a very honorable way. Yes, let him set up a date to take you out, explain things, etc. Emergencies do happen. You just have to determine if he is truthful to you or not. If not, don't take it personally. He is the same way towards everyone if he is not dependable and a liar. Then you just have to move on and look for another guy. Tho I've never met my soulmate, I've met so many honest and respectable men in my time. Good people are the rule, not the exception.
 
Do just what you said: wait for him to call/initiate and don't give him sex. If sex is all he wants, that will prove he is a player and he won't last long. You seem like the kind of guy who will regret not giving him another chance. If he fails, you are no better or worse off than you are now.
 
Thanks for the responses guys. I'm kind of nervous, and guiltily, a bit hopeful. There was just something about this guy that sparked for me, which doesn't usually happen with guys I just meet for a night.

I know I shouldn't get my hopes up, because his excuses seem pretty shitty, but I'm just the kind of guy that's too much of a fool/sucker when it comes to giving people the benefit of the doubt.

I'm not going to chase after him, and he better call or bring flowers. If he really is a player, then he's just such a cruel, cruel fucker for toying with me like this.
 
PlayingwithChance said:
but I'm just the kind of guy that's too much of a fool/sucker when it comes to giving people the benefit of the doubt.
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PlayingwithChance said:
Nope, and I don't care anymore. I've moved on, and I realize now that I'd rather be single than settle.

I'm not going to rush - I've got time, I'll wait for the right guy :)
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Good for you, sweetie. Cut the drama off you like a cancer.
 
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