Extremely Awkward Moment At the Doctor's Office

[Lostlover]

That's gutsy. "Anal sex" and in the Bible Belt? Kudos to you. At least you got your vaccine.

 

[hotatlboi]

LOL, you don't have to tell them anything you don't want if it is not relevant to the treatment.

When I had that done I just said "because I wanted it".

 

[paatreides]

...I'm really bummed because I need to talk to my male doctor about why it hurts when I have sex and now I'm even more scared

Then you need to make an appointment to see the doctor. When the receptionist asks for the reason for the visit you say "a consultation." If the female nurse, or female Nurse Practitioner, or female Physician's Assistant attempt to ask what you need to see the doctor about - - you tell them it's a Male Plumbing issue and you aren't comfortable discussing it with themand insist upon seeing him.

Don't be afraid to assert yourself!

Really, female medical professionals will fully understand - especially given your age.

If you are having pain during sex, do not delay in making another appointment!

 

[Corny]

those are all standard questions. my doc asked me the same .. i told him and he gave me the shot. don't see where the problem is.

 

[Lostlover]

The Nurse practitioner asked me when it was just her before if I was engaging in any risky behavior. No idea what she meant by that and I said no. Later on they both came in and were blathering about something else and then he asked me why I wanted it. I finally told them lol. I feel like my doctor has an aversion to me now.

Just say, "my (insert relative, real or imagine) is a doctor." It works for me every time. In fact they seem to go all out to make sure I am fully informed before they go forward. I find that I have gotten better and more thorough treatment once they know that my brother is a medical doctor.

 

[KaraBulut]

The reason we ask that question is 1) to find out if you're planning on traveling or if you think you've had an exposure and 2) to find out if you're in a high risk group.

If you want to feel comfortable talking about sex with a physician, find a gay doctor or a doctor who has a large number of gay patients in his/her practice.

 

[Fire]

I just think of doctors as medical droids instead of people, and that makes it easy to ask any question. They really are not there to judge you.

 

[Seasoned]

I don't think being evasive with a doctor ANYWHERE in the western world is a good idea. Your doctor should know who he or she is treating and why. Acting like you're doing something wrong is doing nothing for your self esteem and could in an extreme case lead to an untimely death. The bible belt has as many homosexuals as anywhere else and they better just get fucking use to it.

I'm happy you did what you did and congratulate you for it. These professionals need to be aware.

 

[sixthson]

I misread your post the first time. I thought you posted "the waiting room was covered with babies". You can tell where my mind is.

First of all, when you make your appointment, tell them you want to see your regular physician, not the nurse practitioner. It is your right.

Second, be forthright with him and tell him you are gay. Ask him if he has a problem with that. If he does, ask him to recommend someone who doesn't. It's highly unlikely he would not take your concerns seriously.
While there are doctors who think they are god, most do not. Stop being afraid of them and stop being shy about your health.

BTW, nurse practioners give excellent care and, like doctors, have heard it all. Many patients prefer them because they feel they give them more time and attention.

Good luck.

 

[cocksucker4use]

There is a gay or gay-friendly physician within driving distance of you. Start googling and you will find something. That said, just because a doc is gay, white, black, male, female, whatever, does not make them a good physician for you, however. It is about their practice and experience (e.g., gay patients and gay men's health issues). You might start looking in a large city near you (Atlanta, Memphis, wherever) and when you find a resource there, either connect with them or get a referral.

 

[canadianguy91]

I admire your courage! Im going to my doctor on tuesday for a checkup, and I think im going to tell him i'm gay, just to see if he thinks anything else should be done/tested.

He's Indian- not being racist, but all of my previous "friends" that were Indian stopped talking to me after I came out...
If he suddenly stops being nice to me I'll definitely be finding a new doc, but I think it will be fine

 

[lockeroomguy]

Just because you are in the Bible Belt don't assume your Practitioner and Doctor don't have plenty of admittedly gay/bi patients. Unless it's your Practitoners first week out of school, you can't tell her anything she hasn't heard many times before. You probably started off the relationship poorly by lying about your depression issues. Any Practitoner/MD is an expert at interviewing people, and will pick up the fact that you're not being truthful.

I'm in the heath care field and am familiar with the Practitoners traing programs. As a rule, they are trained to be holstic in treatment, and culturally sensitive (including sexual orientation). If your Practitoner doesn't treat you well because your gay, she's a lousy Practitoner.

Next visit be up front with all your concerns. If your not happy with your care get a new provider. Try a male Nurse Practitoner. Working in a female profession, and enduring the "gay male nurse" stereotype, they are usually sexually comfortable with themselvers and their patients.