Facebook Dating - Warning Rant!

[evil_danger]

This pisses me off a little. Well I was a match with this guy on the stupid “Are you interested” application, if you don’t know what facebook is, or don’t have one, basically it’s a ‘addon’ that allows you to look through pictures of people and vote if you like them ‘hot or not’ style.

Well this guy messaged me, if someone messages you on facebook you can view a limited part of their profile. He was single, cute, I over looked the fact he kept calling me “babe” because he was tall, which is a turn on for me.

We didn’t talk much but it was going in a friendly direction, he then added me as a facebook friend, which allows you to see a full profile. I had a proper look and thought to myself that, it would be nice to have another friend at least, but he did make it clear to me he at least wanted a ‘hook up’, which to be honest I'm gagging for it so I probably would have done

We were messaging each other today, then I looked on his profile, since like 3 hours ago he’s listed as having a boyfriend. I was just thinking WTF! Was this planned when you invited me to your hometown?

I feel a lil cheated actually. I just want to yell “TIME WASTER!” (well, type it in big font) at him, but that’s not true because I cant say I’m activly looking, still I could have been! ugh.

At the very least it’s a confidence booster, I’m not as ugly as I think I am if a guy I could see myself ‘doing’ thought the same of me. Although… he could have just been messing with me… no I need to be positive.

Would you... 'do me'?

Chris xX

 

[G-Lexington]

I'd say yes, but I'm partnered, and I don't want to waste your time.

Lex

 

[Brijan]

It is called "evil fb" for a reason... it is evil.

 

[drhladnjak]

Take whatever you get online for what it is and nothing more. You got a confidence boost and enjoyed the interaction, but the guy turned out to be a douche. Live and learn.

 

[evil_danger]

Dang it, someone else has done it.

Why click "Yes" if you have a partner!? it makes no sense to me.

lol, I know its just a game and I should take it for what it is, but it still annoys me.

 

[rareboy]

Forget MYFACEBOOKSPACE and invest your time in meeting real people in the real world.

 

[evil_danger]

^ cant I do both?

 

[FLGG2007]

It couldn't be that he was thinking of YOU as his bf, is it Evil?? I mean some guys really rush stuff! Maybe the thought of you traveling to see him put you in the BF slot.

 

[evil_danger]

LMAO!

No, that would be creepy, but his boyfriend has a name and a profile and everything. Bizarre, weird people on the internet.

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

Maybe he doesn't have a bf. Maybe, & it happens a lot on these sites- he says he has a bf to confuse or ward off guys he isn't interested in. Just like people listing locations they live, where they don't or the most popular lying about age. It's as easy to type I gotta bf as it is to post a pix of some hot guy one wishes they look like.
Maybe he & his bf broke up or aren't that serious. A profile for the bf doesn't sound good but does the guy you like really think people are so stupid they can't figure this out? Most guys don't care and will go for the hook up.
You can get messed over with on line dating but its about the same in a bar except you can see the loser who will muck you up in person with the same lies and there is no way to do a search for their bf at the Ramrod bar, you gotta take their word for it.
You hook up first then later find out about the bf from the guy at the bar, that can complicate things even worse.

 

[tHaTeViLmOnKeY]

A lot of my friends list 'married to' so and so when they aren't married at all. Granted it's mostly my female friends, but some gay friends do it as well, just for laughs. Maybe thats what's happened?

 

[waynemm]

Had that one as well on one of the other applications, Zoosk. Had a rather cute guy flirting with me, and when I finally found his full profile, I also discovered he was in a relationship with a MUCH older guy. Naturally he wasn't accepted as a friend!

However, through the same application I met my current BF. So it can't be all that bad!

 

[evil_danger]

Well theres a guy I'm chatting to through facebook, we really get on and have a lot in common in ourselves and what we want out of a relationship, I just don't think hes interested in me, he says I'm too tall, but there is probably more to it.

 

[windgates]

Maybe he just started dating someone that three hours ago? It could happen!

...

okay, not so likely but I like giving people the benefit of the doubt.

I'm in a kind of similar situation where I'm flirting with a guy from myspace (and we've met once) but I've decided to pursue a boy in my class that I have a crush on. The first guy is nice but I don't feel that much chemistry, kind of not a good match. I really just need to be honest with him, he seems really into me and the longer I let it go the more it'll probably end up hurting him.

 

[musicalgenius14]

Ok, I'm just gonna put this out there. If one were to look at my facebook, it would say that I am married to one of my best female friends. Then if you looked a little further, you would notice that it says that I am gay and on facebook for friends/dating/serious relationships.

Just because someone is listed as having a bf/gf or husband/wife doesnt mean they really do. The two of us did it initially as a joke, to see people's reactions. Then we just never bothered to change it...

Which brings me to my next point, a lot of people don't even think about changing their relationship status when they breakup with their significant other. It actually happens all the time!

 

[evil_danger]

Yes, I know about the whole joke relationship status thing I'm not stupid, I know enough to read a little bit beyond that. I doubt if it was a joke with the public love letters back and forth (well more stuff like "you know I love you" than love letters but you know what I mean)

And if someone is creepy enough to carry that kinda joke to that extreme then I'm glad he stopped replying to me.