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Facebook's "Interested In"

I put it blank... basically, 75% of the time blank = gay or bi. i've known some genuinely straight guys who leave it blank but mostly its gay. especially when everything else is filled out.
 
Yeah, I've left mine blank. I left most of the other fields blank too, I guess so people don't question it. However, I still get the randoms adding me every now and then, so basically it only comes up when people ask personally about it, in which case you can respond however you want to.
 
I think there might be a couple pygmy warriors in Togo who dont' know I'm gay.

I never have trouble talking about being gay if it comes up, and people tend to respect you a lot more if you don't hide it but don't make a big deal out of it.

Listing it on your Face book is a great way to go. They find out and you don't have to make a big deal about telling anyone.
 
I did it on my facebook too, but so far none of the people who didnt know I was gay have said anything. To be honest, I dont want any friendships with people who dont know!

My advice: go for it, but as a precuation, remove it from your daily feed so nobody notices that you've changed the "interested in" part.
 
If you checked both "men" and "women," people could just assume that you're open to friending everyone. It's not uncommon.
What's possibly unfortunate about doing this is that people might assume you're bisexual.
 
I leave mine blank as well. I laughed when one of my straight friends put he was interested in men, because he thought it was for friendship!
 
If you dont feel comfortable putting something on the internet, dont do it, you might regret it later.
 
True, but it's a convenient way to keep in touch with your friends.

I set my "interested in" to men yesterday, btw :D
 
i have the same problem. i had facebook listed as interested in men and women (which is a total lie, it's just men), and then my sister joined facebook so i just completely removed the interested in part. as of now i still have nothing listed, but i really want to put it up there. i'm just not ready for my sister/parents to know.
 
You sound like a really nice guy on your profile. I imagine you must have a few contacts who are gay. You can start by coming out with them. They are likely to be understand and supportive. There are no medals given out for being alone or coming out and facing the outing alone. Not today.

As for myspace and other sites, I do not go there. I have no need at the moment for what they offer. I like Lex the Gargoyle's response in depth on that topic and it is sensible. Good luck.
Shep+
 
Im gonna start a facebook for college.. if i put "why do you care?" or leave it all blank.. would people suspect?
 
you can't put "why do you care?", they only have women or men as choices. but that would be a good idea. i left mine blank on both myspace and facebook. my mom has a myspace and asked me about it but i just said i don't know why it's not up there lol. i'm not 100% sure whether i'm gay or bi (still confused). plus it's not really that big of a deal. people will think whatever they want to.
 
i was just talking about this with a a friend the other day. he was (and still is) a friend from highschool and the way i found out that he was gay was through myspace. he told a few people who he was really close to that he was gay then just changed the setting from straight to bi (even tho he is gay).. too easy. everyone knew from then on. no confusion. nothing.. sounds so simple.

on myspace i have no answer as my orientation.. people can make up there own minds at the moment even tho im only out to a couple of people i dont mind if other people work it out for themselves. ive often thought how much easier it would be just to change it to gay and be done with it. that will prolly be the way i come out to a lot of people who i am friends with but dont see all that often, but i would defiently make sure all my close friends knew first..

good luck with it all.
 
It (outing himself on Facebook) worked out very positively for this student...
http://www.outsports.com/campus/2007/0221fisher.htm

"He decided that he would post on his Facebook profile that he was gay. He figured that a couple people might see it and that it would help him ease out of the closet. In that assumption, he underestimated the power of the Internet."
 
Well I finally did it, I changed my Myspace to 'not sure' lol... I might only leave it up for a few days but we'll see
 
I recently found out my sister has been playing around with Facebook, on which I am listed as interested in men. I took my orientation off of MySpace when my brother and sister joined, but I figured this is a good place to draw a line in the sand.

In all likelihood nothing will come of it. Even if she does see it, I doubt she'd mention it (not a very communicative family when it comes to the tough stuff). But I'm at a point where I don't want to take any more steps backwards, even if I'm not ready yet to take steps forwards.
 
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