Fallen in love with a str8 guy help

[TheTrueOne]

I am a bisexual male and I am new to the gay and bi community, and recently I fell for one of my str8 friends who lives with me. He is very attractive, str8 and masculine what I am generally attracted to. I tried dating other gay or bisexual guys but they never worked out because I am guess I am used to having sex with so called str8 guys and they seem to have a different approach to dealing with men on men dating that I am mostly used to. My question for the forum, although I think that my friend is 100% str8, however he sends me a lot of mixed sexual messages which confuses me at time. Most of the time it seems like we act as a couple, and like always wanting to watch porn with me. I know that trying to have a sexual relationship with him may be very emotionally unhealthy for me, and I never meant to develop the feelings that I have for him, and I experience major jealousy whenever goes out with women. When he talks about his sexual conquest he always talk about how he always have exclusive anal sex with the women that he is with. How do I just let him go or in other words how do I fall out of love with him. The most difficult part of this situation is that he lives with me.

 

[Dutch182]

Move out move out now. Besides being a difficult situation it could be dangerous. Maybe he gets drunk at home he strips down to his short and you think he's passed out at first you gently stroke his cock and when it's hard you pull it out and go down on it,
He make noises of pleasure and cums in your and at that moment he jumps up and starts beating the shit out of you untill you wake up three days later in the hospital. So get out.

 

[trojanboy]

Run for the hills.

 

[monk66]

i guess u should forget bbout him ...its going to hurt u a lot trust me I know the appealing of a str8 is very tempting but u r going to hurt urself, instead keep that friendship and if he doesnt u know u r bi its better cause hes going to be ok with u and u can see him naked and plat hoose stupid games that str8 guys like to play and it really hot!!! thats my advice try not to hurty urself just b playfull and happy

 

[Carnivorous]

Being that you watch porn together you might want to mix in a dvd of a couple of guys going at it. He does like anal & who knows, he may not be quite as str8 as you may think. What do you have to lose?

 

[star-warrior]

What seems like flirting may just be because he considers you a friend, and he can do that sorta thing and not be judged wierd because you are his friend.

However, the infatuation you have with him will magnify all those things he does as a come on in your mind. If he's straight, then don't ruin a good friendship by have sex then having it all turn sour, IMHO.

 

[Mnestor]

Follow advice of the first 3. No trip to the hospital or worse is worth it.

 

[TheTrueOne]

Follow advice of the first 3. No trip to the hospital or worse is worth it.

Hey thanks for the feedback, and regarding the trips to the hospital that's not going to happen to me, because I am a martial artist. Nor would I try to date rape my drunk friends. My thing with my friend is that I have developed feelings for him, and although I won't act on them; I hate feeling the way I do for him, it causes me a lot of pain. I agree that what he is doing may be amplified by all of his mixed messages.

 

[TheTrueOne]

WELL...
You already win half the fight.

Now you either..
"Deal with it and choke on the pain you endure."

or

...some other odd advice that wouldn't work...

You can maybe tell him you have feelings for him? And approach it in an awkward way.. like dude your straight and i think im starting to feel for ya so we might need to spend less time together for a while


but who the hell does that~? lol


Or... keep looking for a new guy.

So many people go through the same shit you are. It sucks and never turns out good.
But it can always teach ya some kind of lesson in the end.

Man that advice is so good, because I know that attempting to start something with him will not be cool, and no I am not going to share my feelings with him. He has to go for so many other valid reason than just my sexual attraction to him.

 

[TheTrueOne]

Well, then if it's in your finances, suggest ya start searching for a new place.

You can't get rid of him, or fall...out of love... with him, if you live together.

dude that's a shitty situation for real.

Yeah it is a messed up situation because and I am not reaching with this in so many ways we act like a couple. I know how that feels because I was married. He is actually living with me, and I am not too sure how much longer I want him to stay with me for other reasons. You are right I cannot fall out of love with him however I feel that if I get my space from him I can get a better perspective and place my feelings in their proper context.